Controlling Love just can't be done.

[kittiffy]

I was sitting in English today, starting the Romeo and Juliet unit and I came across the question: Can you control who you fall in love with?

For me, the answer was simple: no. Why? Fate. It's as easy as that. But in life, with every agreement, there is always a disagreement.

Here is my proof:

1. Picture yourself together, does it even work? Will it?
   
   There is that one person out there, and everyone pretty much agrees on this, that we're supposed to love. Objectable point is: Can we really make ourselves loves someone? Please, I know this guy that is super nice and stuff, and no matter what, I just can't really think of me dating him. I tried, I failed. I don't know about you other people, but it's really hard with me. Look: the guy was cute and funny, but really, I can't picture myself even dating him. I like to keep it at a friend level. Besides, I don't think it'll work in the long run. Quickly done relationships often end in heartbreak. So do quickly patched ones...
2. Even if you love him/her, it doesn't guarantee that they'll love you back.
   
   There was this other guy, yeah. He was cute. I could actually picture myself with him. But I was 70%100% sure that he liked another girl. At first, I was kinda like 'DD8 But! Hello! I'm your FRIEND. Like me first!!' and then I realized, if it wasn't meant to be, so be it. (Besides, like I'd have a chance with him)And then I thought how Shakespearean I sounded. Which scared me. But anyways, the moral of that fail story was that, even if you make yourself love them, let's face it, all crushes are basically making yourself like this one person, they might (most likely really) not love you back, they might even not like you. As a friend yes, but nothing more than that.
3. Arranged marriages.
   
   Need I say more? Those things, those vile, vile things called 'arranged marriage' make you marry someone you don't like. Well. Most of the time. See, the so called 'nice parents' make you marry this guy who's probrably older than you are and go 'have fun! Don't forget, I want grandchildren!' And you're trying to help with getting grandchildren how?
   So then you both grin and bear with it and try to make yourselves fall in love with each other, but then the comment 'Have fun! Don't forget, I want grandchildren!' comes back into your mind and now you both are in an awkward situation. No matter what, you two cannot fall into love with each other. Sure, you two are probably good friends by now, but there's no deeper feelings of love there. None. At all. Eventually you break it to your parents, they get mad and you take all the blame for it. Blah, blah, blah.

These stories get you really depressed don't they? If they don't, then you either have a really good love life or a really bad one. (For me, it'd be the latter.) And if you still don't get it, I'm saying this: You have no control! Besides, the whole Fate vs Decisions fight really ties into this. And I don't want to get into that. That's way too much proof needed.