Since I totally haven't posted enough lately
So yesterday J and I went to a shooting range. And I learned that yes, I can point a gun, pull the trigger, and it will go roughly where I want it. I also learned that I overheat faster than electronics do. It was mildly entertaining. I'd probably go again, but not on a regular basis.
Wedding update- One of J's friends (um... J2?)just got himself ordained so that he can do this thing for us. So now our plans are to meet up, sign stuff and go do something fun. No fucking ceremony. Period. I will be wearing jeans and a t-shirt. I'm going to try to talk them around to going to the aquarium to play with the sharks after. I swear, this is going to be the most stress free, relaxed, low key wedding EVER. I honestly don't like weddings in the first place, I never wanted my own and if my mother doesn't like it, too fucking bad. She HAD her fairytale wedding. I don't want one.
With everything going on, I made sure to discuss some things with J again. Such as 'if I get knocked up and abort, are you going to be okay?' And 'If this doesn't stop being convenient, and we have no reason to divorce, are you going to be upset you never had kids?' Largely because I'm not used to people not having a strong response to these things. Fortunately, despite his lack of strong response, he answered all questions correctly.
I've told most of the family that I intend to about getting married. I actually got a really positive response from the aunts (all two of them) that I told once they found out that the government would be paying half of my college fees- without me having to pay them back. And then Aunt A told me she might be entering into a 'domestic partnership' with HER best friend so that her friend could get health insurance.
Part of me is thinking how fucked up these situations are. Why should anyone HAVE to tie their life to anothers for reasons like these, purely material reasons. Then I seriously consider it.
Women have done this for thousands of years. The concept of marrying for an ephemeral reason like love is a relatively new concept.
The system is fucked. Getting to college (or trade school) is one of the few ways to try and gain stability and marketability in our country. It is the only way you can really leave the chain of dead end jobs or even advance past a certain point. Experience, sadly, doesn't count for as much as a degree. And it is fucking expensive to get that degree. (Thanks Dad! I know how much more important it was for you to move 6 hours north than for me to go to school! So don't bitch about me getting married so that I can afford to go without crippling loans!)
And as for health insurance? Well. That system is COMPLETELY fucked. I begin to think it's fucked past repair and needs to be torn down and rebuilt from the ground up.
Wedding update- One of J's friends (um... J2?)just got himself ordained so that he can do this thing for us. So now our plans are to meet up, sign stuff and go do something fun. No fucking ceremony. Period. I will be wearing jeans and a t-shirt. I'm going to try to talk them around to going to the aquarium to play with the sharks after. I swear, this is going to be the most stress free, relaxed, low key wedding EVER. I honestly don't like weddings in the first place, I never wanted my own and if my mother doesn't like it, too fucking bad. She HAD her fairytale wedding. I don't want one.
With everything going on, I made sure to discuss some things with J again. Such as 'if I get knocked up and abort, are you going to be okay?' And 'If this doesn't stop being convenient, and we have no reason to divorce, are you going to be upset you never had kids?' Largely because I'm not used to people not having a strong response to these things. Fortunately, despite his lack of strong response, he answered all questions correctly.
I've told most of the family that I intend to about getting married. I actually got a really positive response from the aunts (all two of them) that I told once they found out that the government would be paying half of my college fees- without me having to pay them back. And then Aunt A told me she might be entering into a 'domestic partnership' with HER best friend so that her friend could get health insurance.
Part of me is thinking how fucked up these situations are. Why should anyone HAVE to tie their life to anothers for reasons like these, purely material reasons. Then I seriously consider it.
Women have done this for thousands of years. The concept of marrying for an ephemeral reason like love is a relatively new concept.
The system is fucked. Getting to college (or trade school) is one of the few ways to try and gain stability and marketability in our country. It is the only way you can really leave the chain of dead end jobs or even advance past a certain point. Experience, sadly, doesn't count for as much as a degree. And it is fucking expensive to get that degree. (Thanks Dad! I know how much more important it was for you to move 6 hours north than for me to go to school! So don't bitch about me getting married so that I can afford to go without crippling loans!)
And as for health insurance? Well. That system is COMPLETELY fucked. I begin to think it's fucked past repair and needs to be torn down and rebuilt from the ground up.