It can be tough at first. We didn't actually move in till after we'd been dating for over 2 years, and it was a bit hard for me; we had such a strong relationship, but at the end of the night I was still going home to sleep in the bed in my parent's house. We also had a rough patch a year and a half into dating where we didn't see each other for a month and a half - we weren't seeing other people, just taking a break because he wanted to get his head on straight. But it all worked out in the end because through it all, we discovered that hey, we have something together and don't want to lose it.
I'm sure everything will work out for you too. It always does.
Man, I understand where you're coming from. On top of having to say goodnight when it's time for him to go, there's the issue of me moving out... I am ready, REALLY ready, to no longer live with my mother. It's well past time for us to have a different relationship. I can't wait to no longer be nagged about the state of my room, or hair, or job, or anything. That is just another thing making me anxious to go.
But hey, it's not fight or flight, not here, not always. Sometimes it's just... try. I guess. ;)
I love you, even if you are a homebody. That makes it easier to find you, anyhow. You know I'd search the jungles of Puerto Rico just to find you, but it would be a lot more convenient if you have an address. Or the internet :)
I know you know this, but things are going to work out. It's super super scary, the unknown. A lot of people find out that they really can't handle it. But I know that you can. And, well, if you decide that you can't for a little while, you've always got us.
These entries make my heart hurt. Then make me want to toss on a cape, , swoop in and resucue you somehow. Maybe make you laugh, because I'd know, just for that moment, you felt better.
life isn't better on this side of the grass kitsy. with the money saved up and the place to call our own. even then, i feel oceans apart from him sometimes. that's just your heart telling you how much you do need him, and sometimes the reality of it is, the fantasies are always there and always waiting, it's good to visit a bit, but the truth is, the living room couch is just as comfy.
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It can be tough at first. We didn't actually move in till after we'd been dating for over 2 years, and it was a bit hard for me; we had such a strong relationship, but at the end of the night I was still going home to sleep in the bed in my parent's house. We also had a rough patch a year and a half into dating where we didn't see each other for a month and a half - we weren't seeing other people, just taking a break because he wanted to get his head on straight. But it all worked out in the end because through it all, we discovered that hey, we have something together and don't want to lose it.
I'm sure everything will work out for you too. It always does.
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But hey, it's not fight or flight, not here, not always. Sometimes it's just... try. I guess. ;)
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I know you know this, but things are going to work out. It's super super scary, the unknown. A lot of people find out that they really can't handle it. But I know that you can. And, well, if you decide that you can't for a little while, you've always got us.
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You and I are both pretty transient at the moment... but yeah, things will work out. I hope it's sooner rather than later.
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I second your hope. Let's cross our fingers.
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I guess this is just the Summer of Discontent.
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But you being there, and giving a damn, that counts. So thanks for that.
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with the money saved up and the place to call our own. even then, i feel oceans apart from him sometimes. that's just your heart telling you how much you do need him, and sometimes the reality of it is, the fantasies are always there and always waiting, it's good to visit a bit, but the truth is, the living room couch is just as comfy.
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I do think that living apart from my mother, running my own place, that will make a difference. I have to have faith that things will improve.
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