That feeling of being 99% sure a social space would have been better for everyone without you in it, but you can't apologize or talk about it or acknowledge it because then people will try to tell you it wasn't so bad, and that message contains no information because it is pro forma and it is inappropriate and manipulative to elicit it.
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