YAY! You posted them! Thank you Kilani! I luff joo! XD
I LOVE HER! She's so cute! Awh meanie boyf... no make fun of Alexis.I love her hair color a lot, she has the same streaks I like in AA. She looks so famoozley (don't ask me what I mean) adorable in that outfit, its all fruitsy! I am jealous of all your cute items, so totally make a selling LJ where I can buy them off you :D XD
I like Disney too! Disney gets bashed soooooooo much (especially by anime fans) and I am so happy that someone else likes Disney. I wanna Strawberry Splash Dollcena and a Hunny oney. (Haha, sorry, that was stupid)
French Trench's outfit is FAB! I looove the hat. As I said Blythe stuff is more unique and a better price than pullip stock, so if you're totally off Barbie stuff go for that. I want frupu's outfit XD My problem with Barbie stuff is that I get sick of seeing it everywhere in everyones fics and stuff, so I really prefer other stuff.
In your thread, I was mostly a bit annoyed at other peoples comments that Barbie dressed slutty (she's not always slutty -- I think she has some nice conservative looking things if you know where to look), and that everything japanese = better than anything american. XD So I was kinda responding partly to that.
Oh, and gratz on being able to get Alice now! OMFG! :o
Oops I totally missed the POPDOLL part. So that's what they're called! You're right about the 1st one looking like a hentai char... in a way they all kinda do, but the 1st one looks really self assured, too. My fave is the middle one but she's TOO cute... I would have to go with the 2nd from the right, because she looks more loveable. Dunno if that makes ANY sense. XD
Your ex sounds vile. If my boyf were obsessed with hentai then he'd be kicked in the goolies. Repeatedly. XD As it is, I have more of an interest than him, haha... I'm all like 'wow porn' XD he's like 'not again, honey, don't objectify men!'
Nuu they are PODDOLLS.. or something. XD PODOLL or POD DOLL or something like that, lol. Yeah they all kinda look like hentai game chars, but the first one is just creepy to me. I love the 2nd to last one too, her outfit is soooo cute.. but I might go with the 2nd one because she seems like she can have more emotions easilly. It's hard to choose haha. XD
Yeah. My ex is into weird stuff. The thing is, I actually have a really high morality myself and couldn't stand to have a BF that went against all of the things I hold in high respect and importance. It's funny because I tend to not really care if my friends do or other people do, but my BF has to meet a certain standard or I feel horrible.. I can't bring myself to hold anything against him either, it just makes me depressed and feel like a crappy person lol. x_X;
Oooh PODOLLS... POD DOLLS? Pod dolls! That explains their cuteness somehow... evil aliens dropping pods full of cute squee-able dolls! :O
I know what you mean, I get all sheety if my boyf doesn't agree with me or doesn't see things I think are important, but in my friends I don't mind if they disagree.
As it is, I don't mind the porn thing too much, cuz I tell him if he wants to look, he can. He says he doesn't need anything like that, because he has me. So like I said I'm like 'omg porn *curious*' and he's like 'boring' XD But I think if he ever did keep any or look at any it'd probably really annoy me.
Yeah XD That added to the charm for me, haha! They wouldn't be as cute if they were called like.. "little flower". XD But to think they are sent down in little pods is funny.
Yeah :/
haha, in a way it tests your boyfriend. I'm pretty much that way sometimes. I think it's a thought of for me "He should just do whatever he wants", but if he does I can't help it if hurts.. it's hard because sometimes you feel differant and other times you don't. Sometimes I blame myself and then sometimes I just blame him, so I don't know what the truth is. ;_;
I think it's cuz you wanna be reasonable and easy-going, not the controlling uber bitch girlfriend that's really uptight and insecure. So you justify it in your mind as 'well, it's not that bad really...' and 'it could be something worse... it's not so bad if he does that, he still loves me... and I realize guys have needs' etc.
But at the same time you really wish that he would (of his own volition) be all like "I don't NEED porn!" and not want to look at it, because it still hurts you and makes you feel unsexy and insecure, and and...
But guys don't tend to work like that, it's like you give him the ball and he runs with it and doesn't see why you didn't want him to.
In my case, either my guy is too smart and knows it's a trick when I say 'yeah sure I don't mind' XD or he seriously means that he doesn't need it, either way he doesn't look/collect.
Yeah :/ Pretty much. It's really hard for me to deal with having a boyfriend, because they always end up breaking promises and letting me down and etc.. while I always try really hard to do everything, it makes me feel like I'm not worth it.
For instance, with the anniversary thing.. I'm giving him untill the end of the month before I just give up on it. I feel like he doesn't care about me at all anymore, since we used to make a big deal every month, when he wouldn't even for a year.. he keeps making bs excuses, which really bothers me. "We haven't had any time", yeah, right, as he sits and plays FFXI for hours. -_-;
I dunno, for me I really need "the perfect guy" to be happy, because of my depression. I'm starting to think he just doesn't exist, because both non-porn obsessed boyfriends have already hurt me so much in other ways.
Guys are simple. They'll always let you down sometime, but I think they don't even realize. Like I HATE when my boyf is distracted as I'm leaving. Cuz we chat in IMs I can tell straight away, and I hate sitting there waiting for him to tell me goodbye and he loves me. It bugs the crap out of me, (especially if I'm in a hurry)-- but he doesn't notice, and for him (if I did it to him) it's not a big deal. I have to explain to him that it hurts my feelings to feel him like not caring that I'm having to go. He gets it now and why it bothers me but it involved some tears and some angst before he got it.
I hate to say it but he should make time for it or plan to make time because anyone that knows you knows its a big deal for you, and even if it isn't to him, because it is to you, he should really make an effort. Especially if you've talked to him about it already... =(
Unfortunately I don't really think 'the perfect' guy exists. If he did we'd probably fault him for being too perfect. XD But I do think there might be someone that somehow is perfect for you or your kind of personality, and I didn't think someone could match me so well till now. I picked like 4-5 absolute losers before now. He still has faults but somehow it's like he's perfect for my various insecurities and stuff.
Yeah my boyfriend does that to me alot lately and it really bothers me. Like the other day, he just ignored me in the middle of our conversation without telling me he was leaving, or where he was going or anything.. untill right before he left about an hour later, he said "i'll see you tomorrow night."
He didn't actually come back for a few days and I was supposed to know he was going somewhere.. but at least he could have told me before he leftand spared me all the tears -.-;; A couple years ago I went through a really horrible thing with an older boyfriend where he just stopped talking to me after we were together for more than half a year.
I kept telling my friends and mom that something must have happenned because he wouldn't just -do- that to me.. when I finally got a hold of him by finding out his work # through INFORMATION (I had to call about 6 of the stores where he would work at to find out the one he was at) and heard him say "I'll talk to you tonight, okay". He told me he just didn't -feel like talking to me-.. I felt like a complete idiot.
So this time I got the same kind of feelings and I was so worried that it was all going to happen again. He just didn't get it though.
Yeah I know.. that's what bothers me so much about it. He says it is important to him, but if it is then why doesn't he even put effort into it? -_-'''
Well yeah, what I meant was the perfect guy for me hehe. I used to really feel like my BF was, but he ignores me so much lately that I feel like I'm not worth it at all. -.-''
Oh. =( *hugs* I don't know what to say to that except that I really wanna smack him some and he sounds like a big jerk for doing that. That's awful. Not only did he make you worry (needlessly) he made you feel stupid for worrying and made you more insecure. I don't want to hate on him but that's just crummy all around...
Guys are really stupid. I know it's not any consolation at all, but it's true. He probably doesn't get that it hurts you as much as it does. But it sounds like you've been (or tried to be) honest with him and are being shut out a lot. I don't know what to suggest except to be make him listen and let him know you get hurt when he does things like that... I really hope he pulls his head out of his ass soon. :p
Being alone feeling miserable doesn't help any, and hey my motto is if I feel miserable, he should too! (lol kidding).
I feel bad, but I do that to my boyfriend, get distracted on forums and stuff XD but I feel so guilty and I tell him why I'm such a spacecase (I can't chat multi-task, I get overwhelmed XD, I can only talk to 1 person on chat). He doesn't seem to mind me zoning out, but if he did it to me, I'd be like freaking because I'm insecure. (Double standard, lol). I try not to, but it happens... whenever he stops paying attention to me I think he's flirting or something. He knows I have issues and I'm insecure (and it's his fault I'm jealous now... long story). But I can't it when I feel that way... it's like not having any control over it.
Yeah. :/ My past serious relationships made me really insecure. Oh god, the stories I could tell you from my first relationship would make you want to beat up the guy I was with. There was even a point when I jokingly asked "So would you pick her over me? XP" about his fav anime char and he went "Well, she's perfection, I mean.. ^^; You can't beat perfect". I don't even know how I felt to that. :/ I was like 17 back then. That was the hentai one. He's still a friend of mine but he really did ruin so much of my self-esteem and security when I was growing up.
Heh yeah I know. It's bothering me, I've brought it up like 10 times to "remind him", but he just gives me the same excuse every time. -_-''' *sighs* It really bugs me because sometimes when we get to talking and I start crying he sounds so loving and caring and like he'll try, but then the next day everything is horrible again.
Haha nice motto ;P
Well, sometimes I get distracted for a minute or two but I always try to answer him swiftly. It just bothers me when he dissappears for like a half hour to an hour while we're talking. Like, oh, hey you again. How was the trip to Red Lobster? ;P
yeah I am the same way.. even if I feel horrible and start beating myself up over something, I know it's stupid and I know what's right but I still do it because it hurts..
:O! You're right, I do wanna beat up this guy... yeesh what a douchebag!! One of mine was like obsessed with Ryoko but even he wasn't as stupid as to say I wasn't as good. I get he's your friend but... This guy is stupid AND delusional... yeah good luck buddy. lol. XD
I know how it is though. When I was 16 I had a short lived relationship with a guy I (thought) I really loved, and he had a girl he was (trying to) break up with, so I was like the other woman. This girl was abusive and slutty and used eto sleep around with other guys... she also used to cyber with him like constantly instead of ever like talking to him. I was his 'escape' and he kept promising to leave her for him and then in the end he left me for her..! The worst part was he was seriously depressed but in a bad way, in the way that doesn't want to get better and just wants to depress everyone else. He loved me being miserable with him. It wasn't till I met a decent guy I realized this guy was an absolute jerk and that being miserable all the time wasn't how I should be feeling. I still didn't get it... I thought I was sooo in love. It took a good bf to realize how I should be being treated.
Yeah I know what you mean and it's awful, cuz it makes you feel like sheet when you're ignored, especially if you're chatting during. I mean, you can't even manage a brb or bbs? *eyeroll* at least if I flake I'm honest that I've been distracted. Sometimes in his case he disappears or is watching something else and just doesn't tell me. It starts to bug me then, cuz it's like he's hiding it from me.
Being insecure is just something you can't control. I know he isn't going off to flirt with some floozy every time I turn around but because I was burned I have major trust issues now. x_x
Yeah he didn't have the best common sense. XP He hasn't had another GF since I think, but erm I don't want to say anything about that lolol. He IS my friend. XD
Jeez what an ass he was, that guy you were with. I don't think I've ever been "the other woman", but any guy that cheats on his girl (bad or not) should have a red flag up. XD It's easy to fall for someone though, I was with my first guy for a year and a half even though he hurt me as much as he did. I can't even tell you some things because they're too personal and sexual I guess.
Yeah that's exactly how I feel. I feel like he just doesn't love me anymore, no matter what he says.. it's like there's always something more important than me, friends, parties, video games, anything. We won't even get to really talk for a week sometimes and when we finally get a chance to he'd rather be by himself. I can't help but think about when we first met how he was fighting so bad for me to be with him.
I mean, last year when we got together at the time alot of guys wanted me. It was weird, like the planets all aligned in a way and I was suddenly the girl LOL. Both my exes kept trying to get back with me, this guy from NY kept visitng me trying to put the moves on me (my best friend's ex O_o) and a couple of guys I play games with were getting really pissy fighting for me lol. I chose my BF though, because he was so sweet and sensitive.. ; ;
Well.. yeah it's deffinitally not something you can control.. I try hard to control my depression but sometimes all I can do is just sit there and cry and think bad things. As long as it doesn't get like it was with my first BF I'm okay though, I did alot of bad things to myself when I was with him. :/
Ahh I make no sense, "left him for him and me and him" *kicks self* Well you know what I mean.
=( That sucks. I'm glad that it's not bad like it was with your first BF. He sounds absolutely horrible.
Yeah Mike was an asswipe, and I was totally desperate too. XD I used to be all like 'angst' in my diary and then I was so pathetic I had to rip it out. He was bad for me, and he hated everything I liked... like I got a furbie and he kept saying how his sister was a douche because furbies were retarded. I was like ;_; and didn't tell him I had one. XD
I'd have never dumped him, though, probably. It was only 7 months or so, and he treated me so bad, but I wanted him back. It is easy to fall in love sometimes and cling to that, for the wrong reasons. I know what you mean about the personal and sexual problems because it ran rampant with him as well. I felt really used in a lot of ways and it kinda makes me feel icky to remember because he was so creepy XD. I hate him now. XD I say it gladly. I won't go into details... because I know pervs are reading this! PERVS!
Don't mind me. Did I mention I haven't slept? XD
OMG! It was the same with me. I had a lot of guys online who (claimed) they loved me when I got together with my current boyfriend. I think they were desperate because I was the only literate girl in the chatroom every night. I picked him for similar reasons (also I think some of the guys were in love with an image in their head as they hadn't even SEEN me!!) I thought he was more genuine. In this case its been a while now and I'm pretty happy I made the right choice. I think you've made the right choice, even if its a rough patch with you two. You picked him for a reason.
With me my depression really eased with my current boyf. I feel happy most of the time. When I get freaky and depressed, he comforts me. When he says everything will be alright, I believe him. Before him I hadn't a reason for being. So now, I do, and just that knowledge helps me so much more than before. With Mike I seriously wanted to do myself in. Instead of lifting me up and trying to help me feel better, he'd push me down, make me feel worse... you know?
Even so I still have 'issues' and am pretty scarred and insecure. It's just... you don't want to think the worst but the little voice in your head never shuts the fug up. XD Bastard voice.
Yeah our relationship was pretty bad :/ It's not completely his fault though, but it mostly is. Lol XP
Lol awwwwwwwwwwwwwww T_T I had the same kind of thing. My current BF saw a Blythe when I was showing him some pics of Pullips and he was like "omg those Blythe things are so ugly" and I was like.. "um.. haha" and didn't tell him I had one, lolol.
Yeah true, it is very very easy to fall for the wrong person. I think alot of the times it's more about being in love with the idea of being loved than being in love with the actual person.. that it's so hard to distinguish between the two. @_@
Yes you did, and yes I can tell. XD
Lol! Online guys tend to seem sooo desperate. I swear. Ugh I had this one guy though, that I actually had a crush for (we talked on the mic alot) and he decided to dick around with me and pretend alot of stuff.. I found out he had a gf, and ANOTHER girl he was cheating on his gf with, besides "me". O_o;;
Besides that, he was like.. involved with his step sister. It was soooo creepy, then I saw him a month later and he acted like he didn't remember me or my name, LOL.
I hope my current BF is the right person for me.. because honestly with my depression I dunno if I can do it anymore. ;_;
Yeah.. Marien (my last BF, the one that decided to stop talking to me XP) did that to me. He got really depressive in our relationship over time, and he was one of those "bad depressives".. he would kinda knock me down when I'd get depressed.
Another thing that bothers me lately is my BF losing hope in me when I get depressed. He'll say things like "you need help" in this really uncaring voice and it just gets to me and makes me feel even worse about myself.. I get depressed alot, and I know I need to get better, but he's the only one I can turn to for that kind of comfort.. and when I don't get it I just feel so alone. x_x;
It's weird how when in love one wants to seem so pleasing and agree with them, and be like: "haha yeah Furbies suck" becuase you're in love. Bleh.
Yeah sometimes you're in love with being loved, or in love with love itself. It's difficult I think, until you meet the right person. But when I met the wrong person, I thought he WAS the right person, so it's like, almost impossible to tell cuz it messes with common sense SO much.
Ew, his step sister? I know they're not related, but still.... ew... weirdness! What a freak... 3 way cheat! You get a lot of cockheads online. You never know whether what they say is true. And I agree, online guys are desperate. XD. One guy I knew online fell for me through a fanfic I wrote, got to my site because through that, read my profile and fell for me even more-- had never seen me. Not to mention I was 18 and he was 15, but anyway. XD He seriously thought he loved me. He befriended me first, so I didn't know all this, but confessed later. I was like 'thanks? But eeeh you haven't even seen a pic of me.' He was just so desperate for someone, and he was crushed when I wasn't 16 (I hadn't updated my profile in a few years). The weirdest part was that I was like 'well then if my profile made you fall for me, whats my fave color?' and he didn't know, lol. XD He moved on and we're friends now but its kinda funny. He's a nice guy and all, but he totally had some unrealistic image of me as some bodacious babe. He then fell in love with a friend of mine (online), a girl he met at an anime club, and various other online girls who he kept saying were 'hot stuff', etc. That's why since my boyf knows what I look like I feel really reassured since I think I'm fug. And probably to the majority of guys I am.
You know, if he's not the right choice, I'll be here to make fun of him and make you feel better. Even if I have to track down some Melty Kiss for you! (That kinda sounds weird out of context) XD
Ack that sucks if he says that, doesn't he realize that doesn't help like at all? I can understand that he might get stressed because of if it happens often, it but its still a crappy thing to do because it doesn't solve anything, just makes things worse. x_x I know how it is because you need him to reassure you and if you don't get it you just sit there feeling sheety, and the longer time passes the worse it gets...
I LOVE HER! She's so cute! Awh meanie boyf... no make fun of Alexis.I love her hair color a lot, she has the same streaks I like in AA. She looks so famoozley (don't ask me what I mean) adorable in that outfit, its all fruitsy! I am jealous of all your cute items, so totally make a selling LJ where I can buy them off you :D XD
I like Disney too! Disney gets bashed soooooooo much (especially by anime fans) and I am so happy that someone else likes Disney. I wanna Strawberry Splash Dollcena and a Hunny oney. (Haha, sorry, that was stupid)
French Trench's outfit is FAB! I looove the hat. As I said Blythe stuff is more unique and a better price than pullip stock, so if you're totally off Barbie stuff go for that. I want frupu's outfit XD My problem with Barbie stuff is that I get sick of seeing it everywhere in everyones fics and stuff, so I really prefer other stuff.
In your thread, I was mostly a bit annoyed at other peoples comments that Barbie dressed slutty (she's not always slutty -- I think she has some nice conservative looking things if you know where to look), and that everything japanese = better than anything american. XD So I was kinda responding partly to that.
Oh, and gratz on being able to get Alice now! OMFG! :o
Geez man I wrote like heaps o_O
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Your ex sounds vile. If my boyf were obsessed with hentai then he'd be kicked in the goolies. Repeatedly. XD As it is, I have more of an interest than him, haha... I'm all like 'wow porn' XD he's like 'not again, honey, don't objectify men!'
XD something like that.
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Yeah. My ex is into weird stuff. The thing is, I actually have a really high morality myself and couldn't stand to have a BF that went against all of the things I hold in high respect and importance. It's funny because I tend to not really care if my friends do or other people do, but my BF has to meet a certain standard or I feel horrible.. I can't bring myself to hold anything against him either, it just makes me depressed and feel like a crappy person lol. x_X;
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I know what you mean, I get all sheety if my boyf doesn't agree with me or doesn't see things I think are important, but in my friends I don't mind if they disagree.
As it is, I don't mind the porn thing too much, cuz I tell him if he wants to look, he can. He says he doesn't need anything like that, because he has me. So like I said I'm like 'omg porn *curious*' and he's like 'boring' XD But I think if he ever did keep any or look at any it'd probably really annoy me.
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Yeah :/
haha, in a way it tests your boyfriend. I'm pretty much that way sometimes. I think it's a thought of for me "He should just do whatever he wants", but if he does I can't help it if hurts.. it's hard because sometimes you feel differant and other times you don't. Sometimes I blame myself and then sometimes I just blame him, so I don't know what the truth is. ;_;
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But at the same time you really wish that he would (of his own volition) be all like "I don't NEED porn!" and not want to look at it, because it still hurts you and makes you feel unsexy and insecure, and and...
But guys don't tend to work like that, it's like you give him the ball and he runs with it and doesn't see why you didn't want him to.
In my case, either my guy is too smart and knows it's a trick when I say 'yeah sure I don't mind' XD or he seriously means that he doesn't need it, either way he doesn't look/collect.
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For instance, with the anniversary thing.. I'm giving him untill the end of the month before I just give up on it. I feel like he doesn't care about me at all anymore, since we used to make a big deal every month, when he wouldn't even for a year.. he keeps making bs excuses, which really bothers me. "We haven't had any time", yeah, right, as he sits and plays FFXI for hours. -_-;
I dunno, for me I really need "the perfect guy" to be happy, because of my depression. I'm starting to think he just doesn't exist, because both non-porn obsessed boyfriends have already hurt me so much in other ways.
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Guys are simple. They'll always let you down sometime, but I think they don't even realize. Like I HATE when my boyf is distracted as I'm leaving. Cuz we chat in IMs I can tell straight away, and I hate sitting there waiting for him to tell me goodbye and he loves me. It bugs the crap out of me, (especially if I'm in a hurry)-- but he doesn't notice, and for him (if I did it to him) it's not a big deal. I have to explain to him that it hurts my feelings to feel him like not caring that I'm having to go. He gets it now and why it bothers me but it involved some tears and some angst before he got it.
I hate to say it but he should make time for it or plan to make time because anyone that knows you knows its a big deal for you, and even if it isn't to him, because it is to you, he should really make an effort. Especially if you've talked to him about it already... =(
Unfortunately I don't really think 'the perfect' guy exists. If he did we'd probably fault him for being too perfect. XD But I do think there might be someone that somehow is perfect for you or your kind of personality, and I didn't think someone could match me so well till now. I picked like 4-5 absolute losers before now. He still has faults but somehow it's like he's perfect for my various insecurities and stuff.
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He didn't actually come back for a few days and I was supposed to know he was going somewhere.. but at least he could have told me before he leftand spared me all the tears -.-;; A couple years ago I went through a really horrible thing with an older boyfriend where he just stopped talking to me after we were together for more than half a year.
I kept telling my friends and mom that something must have happenned because he wouldn't just -do- that to me.. when I finally got a hold of him by finding out his work # through INFORMATION (I had to call about 6 of the stores where he would work at to find out the one he was at) and heard him say "I'll talk to you tonight, okay". He told me he just didn't -feel like talking to me-.. I felt like a complete idiot.
So this time I got the same kind of feelings and I was so worried that it was all going to happen again. He just didn't get it though.
Yeah I know.. that's what bothers me so much about it. He says it is important to him, but if it is then why doesn't he even put effort into it? -_-'''
Well yeah, what I meant was the perfect guy for me hehe. I used to really feel like my BF was, but he ignores me so much lately that I feel like I'm not worth it at all. -.-''
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Guys are really stupid. I know it's not any consolation at all, but it's true. He probably doesn't get that it hurts you as much as it does. But it sounds like you've been (or tried to be) honest with him and are being shut out a lot. I don't know what to suggest except to be make him listen and let him know you get hurt when he does things like that... I really hope he pulls his head out of his ass soon. :p
Being alone feeling miserable doesn't help any, and hey my motto is if I feel miserable, he should too! (lol kidding).
I feel bad, but I do that to my boyfriend, get distracted on forums and stuff XD but I feel so guilty and I tell him why I'm such a spacecase (I can't chat multi-task, I get overwhelmed XD, I can only talk to 1 person on chat). He doesn't seem to mind me zoning out, but if he did it to me, I'd be like freaking because I'm insecure. (Double standard, lol). I try not to, but it happens... whenever he stops paying attention to me I think he's flirting or something. He knows I have issues and I'm insecure (and it's his fault I'm jealous now... long story). But I can't it when I feel that way... it's like not having any control over it.
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Heh yeah I know. It's bothering me, I've brought it up like 10 times to "remind him", but he just gives me the same excuse every time. -_-''' *sighs* It really bugs me because sometimes when we get to talking and I start crying he sounds so loving and caring and like he'll try, but then the next day everything is horrible again.
Haha nice motto ;P
Well, sometimes I get distracted for a minute or two but I always try to answer him swiftly. It just bothers me when he dissappears for like a half hour to an hour while we're talking. Like, oh, hey you again. How was the trip to Red Lobster? ;P
yeah I am the same way.. even if I feel horrible and start beating myself up over something, I know it's stupid and I know what's right but I still do it because it hurts..
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I know how it is though. When I was 16 I had a short lived relationship with a guy I (thought) I really loved, and he had a girl he was (trying to) break up with, so I was like the other woman. This girl was abusive and slutty and used eto sleep around with other guys... she also used to cyber with him like constantly instead of ever like talking to him. I was his 'escape' and he kept promising to leave her for him and then in the end he left me for her..! The worst part was he was seriously depressed but in a bad way, in the way that doesn't want to get better and just wants to depress everyone else. He loved me being miserable with him. It wasn't till I met a decent guy I realized this guy was an absolute jerk and that being miserable all the time wasn't how I should be feeling. I still didn't get it... I thought I was sooo in love. It took a good bf to realize how I should be being treated.
Yeah I know what you mean and it's awful, cuz it makes you feel like sheet when you're ignored, especially if you're chatting during. I mean, you can't even manage a brb or bbs? *eyeroll* at least if I flake I'm honest that I've been distracted. Sometimes in his case he disappears or is watching something else and just doesn't tell me. It starts to bug me then, cuz it's like he's hiding it from me.
Being insecure is just something you can't control. I know he isn't going off to flirt with some floozy every time I turn around but because I was burned I have major trust issues now. x_x
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Jeez what an ass he was, that guy you were with. I don't think I've ever been "the other woman", but any guy that cheats on his girl (bad or not) should have a red flag up. XD It's easy to fall for someone though, I was with my first guy for a year and a half even though he hurt me as much as he did. I can't even tell you some things because they're too personal and sexual I guess.
Yeah that's exactly how I feel. I feel like he just doesn't love me anymore, no matter what he says.. it's like there's always something more important than me, friends, parties, video games, anything. We won't even get to really talk for a week sometimes and when we finally get a chance to he'd rather be by himself. I can't help but think about when we first met how he was fighting so bad for me to be with him.
I mean, last year when we got together at the time alot of guys wanted me. It was weird, like the planets all aligned in a way and I was suddenly the girl LOL. Both my exes kept trying to get back with me, this guy from NY kept visitng me trying to put the moves on me (my best friend's ex O_o) and a couple of guys I play games with were getting really pissy fighting for me lol. I chose my BF though, because he was so sweet and sensitive.. ; ;
Well.. yeah it's deffinitally not something you can control.. I try hard to control my depression but sometimes all I can do is just sit there and cry and think bad things. As long as it doesn't get like it was with my first BF I'm okay though, I did alot of bad things to myself when I was with him. :/
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=( That sucks. I'm glad that it's not bad like it was with your first BF. He sounds absolutely horrible.
Yeah Mike was an asswipe, and I was totally desperate too. XD I used to be all like 'angst' in my diary and then I was so pathetic I had to rip it out. He was bad for me, and he hated everything I liked... like I got a furbie and he kept saying how his sister was a douche because furbies were retarded. I was like ;_; and didn't tell him I had one. XD
I'd have never dumped him, though, probably. It was only 7 months or so, and he treated me so bad, but I wanted him back. It is easy to fall in love sometimes and cling to that, for the wrong reasons. I know what you mean about the personal and sexual problems because it ran rampant with him as well. I felt really used in a lot of ways and it kinda makes me feel icky to remember because he was so creepy XD. I hate him now. XD I say it gladly. I won't go into details... because I know pervs are reading this! PERVS!
Don't mind me. Did I mention I haven't slept? XD
OMG! It was the same with me. I had a lot of guys online who (claimed) they loved me when I got together with my current boyfriend. I think they were desperate because I was the only literate girl in the chatroom every night. I picked him for similar reasons (also I think some of the guys were in love with an image in their head as they hadn't even SEEN me!!) I thought he was more genuine. In this case its been a while now and I'm pretty happy I made the right choice. I think you've made the right choice, even if its a rough patch with you two. You picked him for a reason.
With me my depression really eased with my current boyf. I feel happy most of the time. When I get freaky and depressed, he comforts me. When he says everything will be alright, I believe him. Before him I hadn't a reason for being. So now, I do, and just that knowledge helps me so much more than before. With Mike I seriously wanted to do myself in. Instead of lifting me up and trying to help me feel better, he'd push me down, make me feel worse... you know?
Even so I still have 'issues' and am pretty scarred and insecure. It's just... you don't want to think the worst but the little voice in your head never shuts the fug up. XD Bastard voice.
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Yeah our relationship was pretty bad :/ It's not completely his fault though, but it mostly is. Lol XP
Lol awwwwwwwwwwwwwww T_T I had the same kind of thing. My current BF saw a Blythe when I was showing him some pics of Pullips and he was like "omg those Blythe things are so ugly" and I was like.. "um.. haha" and didn't tell him I had one, lolol.
Yeah true, it is very very easy to fall for the wrong person. I think alot of the times it's more about being in love with the idea of being loved than being in love with the actual person.. that it's so hard to distinguish between the two. @_@
Yes you did, and yes I can tell. XD
Lol! Online guys tend to seem sooo desperate. I swear. Ugh I had this one guy though, that I actually had a crush for (we talked on the mic alot) and he decided to dick around with me and pretend alot of stuff.. I found out he had a gf, and ANOTHER girl he was cheating on his gf with, besides "me". O_o;;
Besides that, he was like.. involved with his step sister. It was soooo creepy, then I saw him a month later and he acted like he didn't remember me or my name, LOL.
I hope my current BF is the right person for me.. because honestly with my depression I dunno if I can do it anymore. ;_;
Yeah.. Marien (my last BF, the one that decided to stop talking to me XP) did that to me. He got really depressive in our relationship over time, and he was one of those "bad depressives".. he would kinda knock me down when I'd get depressed.
Another thing that bothers me lately is my BF losing hope in me when I get depressed. He'll say things like "you need help" in this really uncaring voice and it just gets to me and makes me feel even worse about myself.. I get depressed alot, and I know I need to get better, but he's the only one I can turn to for that kind of comfort.. and when I don't get it I just feel so alone. x_x;
Haha yeah I wish that voice would STFU. XP
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Yeah sometimes you're in love with being loved, or in love with love itself. It's difficult I think, until you meet the right person. But when I met the wrong person, I thought he WAS the right person, so it's like, almost impossible to tell cuz it messes with common sense SO much.
Ew, his step sister? I know they're not related, but still.... ew... weirdness! What a freak... 3 way cheat! You get a lot of cockheads online. You never know whether what they say is true. And I agree, online guys are desperate. XD. One guy I knew online fell for me through a fanfic I wrote, got to my site because through that, read my profile and fell for me even more-- had never seen me. Not to mention I was 18 and he was 15, but anyway. XD He seriously thought he loved me. He befriended me first, so I didn't know all this, but confessed later. I was like 'thanks? But eeeh you haven't even seen a pic of me.' He was just so desperate for someone, and he was crushed when I wasn't 16 (I hadn't updated my profile in a few years). The weirdest part was that I was like 'well then if my profile made you fall for me, whats my fave color?' and he didn't know, lol. XD He moved on and we're friends now but its kinda funny. He's a nice guy and all, but he totally had some unrealistic image of me as some bodacious babe. He then fell in love with a friend of mine (online), a girl he met at an anime club, and various other online girls who he kept saying were 'hot stuff', etc. That's why since my boyf knows what I look like I feel really reassured since I think I'm fug. And probably to the majority of guys I am.
You know, if he's not the right choice, I'll be here to make fun of him and make you feel better. Even if I have to track down some Melty Kiss for you! (That kinda sounds weird out of context) XD
Ack that sucks if he says that, doesn't he realize that doesn't help like at all? I can understand that he might get stressed because of if it happens often, it but its still a crappy thing to do because it doesn't solve anything, just makes things worse. x_x I know how it is because you need him to reassure you and if you don't get it you just sit there feeling sheety, and the longer time passes the worse it gets...
I really wish I could help or something.
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