Set back
Here for only a few months and already I feel as if I'm being pushed aside.
Isn't it true that friends and their girlfriends can be friends, together? I would like to think so...
I don't understand the issue of not spending enough time with friends because I've never been that way. Friends have always come first in my life, but if my love wants to be with me more often then he can kick it with the girls too. You get to make friends and be with the person you love. Not too complicated and generally a fair compromise, right? It seems so selfish to ask someone to be with you and then tell them you're spending too much time together. I understand that while with the girlfriend, the friend is at risk of feeling left out. But the girlfriend will feel just the same while the boyfriend is with the friend. Time is a universal thing that can be shared instead of broken into limits. I believe the benefits are greater when this is done.
This is probably why I feel it's so hard for me to make friends. I've been so concentrated on making my life (and his) warmer that I've been cold to other people. I don't mind living as a ghost, but when I'm told that people could get hurt if I tried to be warmer, it's hard to want to be anything other than freezing cold, transparent. I'm not here to tear people apart or cause any harm... I just want to connect and feel I am not as ostracized as I've felt for years. My intentions are simply genuine and yet my attempts to establish friendly relationships have failed. I just feel awkward, now. Out of place- not misunderstood, but not understood at all.
Sheesh.
Isn't it true that friends and their girlfriends can be friends, together? I would like to think so...
I don't understand the issue of not spending enough time with friends because I've never been that way. Friends have always come first in my life, but if my love wants to be with me more often then he can kick it with the girls too. You get to make friends and be with the person you love. Not too complicated and generally a fair compromise, right? It seems so selfish to ask someone to be with you and then tell them you're spending too much time together. I understand that while with the girlfriend, the friend is at risk of feeling left out. But the girlfriend will feel just the same while the boyfriend is with the friend. Time is a universal thing that can be shared instead of broken into limits. I believe the benefits are greater when this is done.
This is probably why I feel it's so hard for me to make friends. I've been so concentrated on making my life (and his) warmer that I've been cold to other people. I don't mind living as a ghost, but when I'm told that people could get hurt if I tried to be warmer, it's hard to want to be anything other than freezing cold, transparent. I'm not here to tear people apart or cause any harm... I just want to connect and feel I am not as ostracized as I've felt for years. My intentions are simply genuine and yet my attempts to establish friendly relationships have failed. I just feel awkward, now. Out of place- not misunderstood, but not understood at all.
Sheesh.