children only mean no romance if you let them, but even so.

[kismet09]

I am glad for those of you who are loving your children and all, but I'm still going to stick with dogs and sheep, who can't eat chocolate because then they would die

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[outdoortoys]

Okay, this whole "children ruin romance" thing is bullshit. I've had romance with lots of women since my daughter was born. (That's supposed to be a joke

[kismet09]

I think that it's "children ruin romance if you let them" and that if you're going to do Valentine's Day (which I don't believe the article is saying is necessary, but probably tied in because the powers that be wanted it tied in to the holiday if it was going to be published) that it's a good time to remember that children can ruin romance (as the many magazine articles it points to are supporting), and that it'd be a good time to remember why you're married.

I think the article, like everything else in life, tells you what you want it to tell you. You read this from a totally different lens than I do.

[outdoortoys]

You know, going back and reading my post I see how you would say that. I don't know exactly how it got skewed to an "anti-Valentine's day" rant because that's not what my intention was.

I was originally panning to say that people using children as an excuse not to have a full relationship is just a cop-out. The article does indeed take the view that "romance" should be a goal to strive for continuously, but I didn't like the way it was presented. It gave so many negative examples that it seemed to me like it was condoning the whole lack of romance...maybe I'm just being moody.

Anyway, it wasn't my intent to let my cynicism get in the way of my comments or bias them, which it obviously did.

[kismet09]

people using children as an excuse not to have a full relationship is just a cop-out.

I agree. But really, using any excuse is a cop-out. Kids are an easy and prevalent target.

[outdoortoys]

one more thing...

Family beds are just creepy. Cuddling and piling on mom and dad's bed Sunday morning is all well and good, but children should be sleeping on their own. It promotes independence, allows for personal "exploration" when the time comes and also shows the children that there is a relationship between their parents that is separate from their own relationship with their parents. It's important.

Now I'm really getting off my soap box. No, really.

[kismet09]

yes. creepy. almost as creepy as sleeping with your pets on a regular basis when you have a partner.

[outdoortoys]

totally. No animals in my bed...except the human kind. And some of them are teddy bears, others are tigers...but still human. Anything that sheds more than me, has more legs than me, or has funky breath does not belong in my bed.