Well....Hell.
So my Mom has started her downhill journey and its apparently going rather quick. I've had a lot of hell dealing with my family over the last 2-3 weeks. I did spend good, quality time with her at home and I'm comfortable and blessed with the in-person goodbye we had.
Now I'm trying to write her obituary. This is hard. Not "I break down and cry because I'm writing my mother's obituary" hard - but hard because of the relationship that wasn't always great with her. None of that belongs in there and I'm not having trouble not putting it in there. I'm having trouble putting the words in the right order. There's plenty of nice and pleasant things to say about her to fill an obituary. Its just so.....jumbled.
How do I address her grandchild (and his sibling) that were adopted OUT of the family that we're still close with?
How do I address one step-sibling and her family, but not the others that didn't stay in touch with my mom? Do I even address them?
She wants to be buried under her maiden name but never changed her name back - though the authority to do so is in her divorce decree.
She didn't want a funeral - she had a living memory party instead. It was a blast, by the way. I highly recommend it. If you know your time is up - or have a loved one whose time is coming to an end - its highly recommended.
I really hate words right now.
Now I'm trying to write her obituary. This is hard. Not "I break down and cry because I'm writing my mother's obituary" hard - but hard because of the relationship that wasn't always great with her. None of that belongs in there and I'm not having trouble not putting it in there. I'm having trouble putting the words in the right order. There's plenty of nice and pleasant things to say about her to fill an obituary. Its just so.....jumbled.
How do I address her grandchild (and his sibling) that were adopted OUT of the family that we're still close with?
How do I address one step-sibling and her family, but not the others that didn't stay in touch with my mom? Do I even address them?
She wants to be buried under her maiden name but never changed her name back - though the authority to do so is in her divorce decree.
She didn't want a funeral - she had a living memory party instead. It was a blast, by the way. I highly recommend it. If you know your time is up - or have a loved one whose time is coming to an end - its highly recommended.
I really hate words right now.