What I've learned
I might not know it all when it comes to love, but I have learned a few things that I will keep with me as I move forward with my life.
Rule #1. Do not date ANYONE immediately after a break up of a long term relationship. It is too easy to fall for a bad fit.
Rule #2. If he tells you repeatedly how much his family hates you and does not try to 'shelter' you from their callous remarks - Run. Run fast and never look back.
Rule #3. If he doesn't worship as often as you do or you want to, he's not for you. There is a reason the Bible says you must be evenly yoked.
Rule #4. Once a cheat - always a cheat.
Rule #5. It is never ok and it is never your fault if he hits or harms you in anyway. He has a choice to walk away if he gets too angry and he should use it. If he does not, you leave.
Rule #6. If he's more concerned with himself than with you - Run away. Run far away. People who truely love each other will want the person they love to be happy. And that includes but is not limited to things like... Remembering your birthday, even if you hate celebrating it.
Rule #7. The relationship will be you and your family and him and his family. At least three parties must be happy for the two of you, or it won't work.
Rule #8. The amount of bending over backward to fit in with his family =/= the amount your future mother-in-law or your mother-in-law after you are married will like you.
Rule #9. It doesn't matter how much they say they want to work on the marriage if they do not pick up the phone and call someone to make an appointment. Don't do it for them, they have to want to do it bad enough to do it for themselves.
Rule#10. Once a cheat - always a cheat.
Rule #1. Do not date ANYONE immediately after a break up of a long term relationship. It is too easy to fall for a bad fit.
Rule #2. If he tells you repeatedly how much his family hates you and does not try to 'shelter' you from their callous remarks - Run. Run fast and never look back.
Rule #3. If he doesn't worship as often as you do or you want to, he's not for you. There is a reason the Bible says you must be evenly yoked.
Rule #4. Once a cheat - always a cheat.
Rule #5. It is never ok and it is never your fault if he hits or harms you in anyway. He has a choice to walk away if he gets too angry and he should use it. If he does not, you leave.
Rule #6. If he's more concerned with himself than with you - Run away. Run far away. People who truely love each other will want the person they love to be happy. And that includes but is not limited to things like... Remembering your birthday, even if you hate celebrating it.
Rule #7. The relationship will be you and your family and him and his family. At least three parties must be happy for the two of you, or it won't work.
Rule #8. The amount of bending over backward to fit in with his family =/= the amount your future mother-in-law or your mother-in-law after you are married will like you.
Rule #9. It doesn't matter how much they say they want to work on the marriage if they do not pick up the phone and call someone to make an appointment. Don't do it for them, they have to want to do it bad enough to do it for themselves.
Rule#10. Once a cheat - always a cheat.