Comments | kinky_dorito: How long does it take?!?

kinky_dorito

How long does it take?!?

Sep 19, 2005 13:43

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It's your life... udswinger September 19 2005, 17:19:14 UTC

In the end, a friend can tell you whatever they feel it's their opinion they're entitled to it, but it's your life to live if you feel your'e ready to date and all that jazz...then take that step. Shit you're going out now with friends from work on the weekends which says alot. People are assholes ya know and if someone can't see you for who you are on the inside...they're not worth your time ( ... )

Re: It's your life... kinky_dorito September 20 2005, 09:23:52 UTC

Yeah I know I guess it sorta hit the wronf nerve cos of who it came from but come to think of it maybe she knows whats best for me no one on this earth knows me like she knows me...and maybe thats why we get along SO well cos she knows just what to say to get under my skin. Not saying that I am in love with her just saying that...this friend knows me too well.

Aww thanks for saying that I am good looking. If she doesnt call me then I don't need some one like her in my life to start with.

But sometimes I feel like there is just no place I belong even when I go out with my friends...

Re: It's your life... udswinger September 20 2005, 12:45:30 UTC

go read your email...you have email from me ( ... )

Re: It's your life... kinky_dorito September 22 2005, 09:43:26 UTC

I had to be secretive because I don't like to name drop in this thing incase she took it the wrong way. That was a great surprise now if only I would have actually got to meet her, but I guess good things come to those who wait eh? I need to find myself before I can accept myself. I am finding myself at a crossroad here and I don't know what to do. A part of me wants to do exactly what some one else said and be a snob sometimes, and be all hard...but then theres that part of me...the part that is still stuck in the ideal Christian, and that is being all sweet, turning the other cheek, do onto others as youd have them do to you, and bla bla bla. It's a habbit I can't break, I'd like to do onto others whats been done to me, for example, I'd like to give Angela that number of the rejection hot line if she ever talks to me again...but then theres a little voice that says...maybe theres an excuse for her either giving you the wrong number, or not calling you...and I can't be mean. I mean I know that she doesn't matter anymore and she ( ... )

pointlessblabs September 20 2005, 05:13:22 UTC

why does some one have to love themselves before they can love some one else?

I've thought about it once before, and the only conclusion that I can come up with is the fact that if you don't know who you are and what you want and all of your limits, then how could you possibly accept anyone or anything else.

I used to be just like you, not caring about me and giving all of my love to everyone else whom I thought deserved. Only it turned out that they didn't deserve it as much as I thought they did. Infact, they were the ones that were so quick to put on their boots and walk all over me.

You have discover exactly what you want and realize what you absolutely will not settle for. Desperation is never the key to getting what you truely want, cause it's then you'll find you'll settle for anything that comes your way. You have to push sometimes in order for others to pull. If that's not clear, then maybe you'll understand this: Sometimes you have to say no and be a little cold in order for someone to want to pull the tenderness out of ( ... )

Thanks! kinky_dorito September 20 2005, 09:14:39 UTC

Aww that post totally made me cry and at work! Yeah I totally get it now...great point...I find myself questioning why do I let people like Angela get to me I mean I don't even know her I just spent the whole week thinking about her and when I got her number I was so happy to know her...turns out she didn't diserve anything I had to offer her. I wish I should have NOT called, or maybe I should have just said Hi and let it go at that....but there will be other weekends and if she is there well I guess I wont even know her. Alls I know is I do want to be with some one but maybe I should start focusing on myself more...but everytime I start to think I am hot some one kicks me down, and I am back to start. But...for now I will try to take your advice and go with it. :)

Re: Thanks! pointlessblabs September 20 2005, 13:53:06 UTC

Don't ever let anyone make you think less of yourself. If you think you're hot, then chances are you're right! Just b/c one person doesn't think so, doesn't mean that's what everyone else thinks. Keep the options open, and let things go with the flow. If it helps, make yourself act more cocky, more snobbish, almost like only the best of the best will do and believe or not you'll come out on top and love every minute of it. In other words, start revolving your world around yourself, after all, it is your world and no one elses!

p.s. if it helps any, i think you're very attractive and i'd so date you!

Re: Thanks! kinky_dorito September 22 2005, 09:48:33 UTC

Awww thanks! I guess you're right, I do gotta start acting more snobish, and for starters I got the "rejection hot line" number. LOL. I dunno I am just a very sweet person by nature and its very hard to change a persons ways especially if they have been a certain way thier whole lives.

labrat0017 September 20 2005, 09:23:04 UTC

because if you don't love yourself the love that you can give isn't as powerful and meaningful. if you don't care about yourself at all, why would it be flattering for you to give that self to somebody? oh look you are giving me everything you DON'T want? wow thanks? i'm not saying you have to be one hundred percent happy all the time and love every inch of your body and mind and not want to change a single thing ever. that's cockiness, and it may be alluring but it isn't always fun to deal with when/if it turns into stagnation. "well i love myself as is so i don't need to try to be better or change at all, even for the better; i'm good enough already." you just need to except who you are. if you have to look to other people for validation ALL THE TIME it's putting too much pressure on your partner. not only do they have to love themselves, but they have to accept you FOR you. so that's three times the love. the tiring tough kind of love. all those dialogs that happen in your head have to happen outloud. YES honey you ( ... )

kinky_dorito September 20 2005, 12:06:16 UTC

Thanks for your reply, and you of all people whould know better than anyone about me and what I need. Thanks for explaning it more in detail to me, because I have spent my whole life wondering why in the hell I get shit on all the time. I just don't know where to start. I have always hated myself, full of regrets, and I worry about what people think of me but then again I don't....the only time that I feel good is when I am drunk or on meds and thats not good, but maybe the help would be useful, I don't know. I don't really know if I want a relationship because even this shit with Angela playing with my head, has me all sad and I don't even know the girl...so why should I care? I mean I can always say that it is her loss but whos actually at loss here? I guess my biggest thing with you and me is me always wanting you around is because of trust...I was always worried that you would leave me. But also sometimes I needed you around because I missed you and ...ok no excuses or explanation is needed at this point. So learn not to ( ... )