love pentagons are shitty
warning: i start every paragraph with the word "so"
no names are used so as to protect the innocent (and because i just copy/pasted this fro ma forum i just posted it in where no one knows who these people are [not that you do either but you know who the boy is])
so it started with some innocent flirting before i started to really like this guy. we got along really well, it started to appear the feelings are mutual. but right when it feels like we're on the verge of something awesome, it feels like he completely shuts down. he tells me there's "too much tension in [his] social life right now" and he doesn't want to "drag [me] into it, but it doesn't seem right to let go yet either." something something "i really like you", but..
so here i am left completely in the dark about what's going on. a four day weekend to ponder it and feel pretty much every emotion i could on the subject before calling him tonight in hopes of getting some sort of explanation, not even of what these tensions are necessarily, but what's going on between us - are we still just friends or what? all i get is "i just can't do this right now".
so as i bemoaned my woes to one of my more helpful friends, she offered to shed some light on what she knew of the situation. boy told close female friend of his that he couldn't be her friend anymore if she continued to date their mutual friend. so she breaks it off but they still act like they are dating. boy is still upset which gives much believability to the claim from the other boy that he has liked the aforementioned female friend for a long time.
so while i was thinking "i wish he had just told me what was going on" (up until that last part, at least), i do feel a little bad, but honestly it feels like a door was just slammed in my face. i don't want to be a bitch and confront him about the whole thing, so i just told him i'd back off and then some silly speak related to an inside joke of ours which to the extent was "maybe things will work out some other time".
so yes i'm hurt. i understand his viewpoint but i just wish he would look at it from mine. and for those of you keeping track and wondering where the fifth point of the pentagon comes from, the friend who told me all that background is mad crushin' on the female friend's pseudo-boyfriend.
no names are used so as to protect the innocent (and because i just copy/pasted this fro ma forum i just posted it in where no one knows who these people are [not that you do either but you know who the boy is])
so it started with some innocent flirting before i started to really like this guy. we got along really well, it started to appear the feelings are mutual. but right when it feels like we're on the verge of something awesome, it feels like he completely shuts down. he tells me there's "too much tension in [his] social life right now" and he doesn't want to "drag [me] into it, but it doesn't seem right to let go yet either." something something "i really like you", but..
so here i am left completely in the dark about what's going on. a four day weekend to ponder it and feel pretty much every emotion i could on the subject before calling him tonight in hopes of getting some sort of explanation, not even of what these tensions are necessarily, but what's going on between us - are we still just friends or what? all i get is "i just can't do this right now".
so as i bemoaned my woes to one of my more helpful friends, she offered to shed some light on what she knew of the situation. boy told close female friend of his that he couldn't be her friend anymore if she continued to date their mutual friend. so she breaks it off but they still act like they are dating. boy is still upset which gives much believability to the claim from the other boy that he has liked the aforementioned female friend for a long time.
so while i was thinking "i wish he had just told me what was going on" (up until that last part, at least), i do feel a little bad, but honestly it feels like a door was just slammed in my face. i don't want to be a bitch and confront him about the whole thing, so i just told him i'd back off and then some silly speak related to an inside joke of ours which to the extent was "maybe things will work out some other time".
so yes i'm hurt. i understand his viewpoint but i just wish he would look at it from mine. and for those of you keeping track and wondering where the fifth point of the pentagon comes from, the friend who told me all that background is mad crushin' on the female friend's pseudo-boyfriend.