Birthday blah blah

[kimdot]

So. Turned 46 yesterday. Hundreds of folks posted happy wishes on my wall on FB. My husband was nice enough to brave the frozen roads and drive down to Lancaster where I was with my dog and cat. He was there in time for dinner Saturday and heading home by 5 on Sunday. I am never sure why he can't stay over and go to work on Monday like I do when I

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[txreisende]

It's shallow as shit, but it is totally geographically based. There is a mental/emotional blindspot that affects people in the highest concentration areas of SAPA folks, wherein they automatically assign to other people their own distance/driving/social circle size limitations. I experienced this ENDLESSLY when living in Fort Worth, and then much to my own chagrin discovered that I was doing the *exact same thing* to people on the east/north/south sides of me, once there was a sufficient density of SAPA folks around me IN Fort Worth for me to remain as socially active as I needed to be in order to be satisfied (which wasn't a particularly high bar, as I'm very fond of my house and couch). We are a generous, loving, social group, but it has to be said that collectively we are kind of at toddler levels when it comes to the out-of-sight/out-of-mind thing. I've been on both sides of it, and yeah. It's dumb, but real. Also married to a man who is both nicer and more popular than me, so I totally get that aspect, too. Just....be patient with folks and try not to be too irritated with them when it *does* all change once you're living in Plano. Because it will, and people will be *totally surprised and chagrined* when you tell them you wish they'd included you while you were still living far away, and it will be genuine.

yes, but

[txreisende]

while i could use that geo-argument, one of the people included lives south and southwest of me, so that is the part of where i can dispute the geo-argument just as easily.

And, for the most part, I have told people, "Hey, with 30 extra minutes (or more) notice I can be up to see a movie with a group." Heck with good mapping and time alloted for getting lost, I can attend Tarrant County stuff, as long as my schedule permits.

::shrug:: things like this are why I tend to just not see movies and such, because while I am not afraid of going anywhere alone, its not as fun... and my theater has a large police presence, just because of where i am, so... meh.