sigh. . . . .
Yesterday on my way to work (about noon. . . I was sooo late) I received a call from my brother. He tells me our mom called him Monday to see if he could give me a ride to Bakersfield this weekend. . . . .I instantly become very annoyed, this is in part to exhaustion and lack of sleep. . . .I say I'm confused, I've only just arrived home at 3:30am that morning and ask him what is going on 'cause I have NO idea what he's talking about and the only plans I have for the weekend are to be home cleaning all my stuff. To answer his query, I said NO, I'm staying home this weekend and that I'd call mom later (when I'm less annoyed and have had more than 3 hours of sleep).
I spent the rest of yesterday wondering WTF mom is up to having my brother call me instead of calling me herself. . . .granted her birthday is Sunday and it would be nice for both us kids to be there, but there's just no way not this weekend. . .too tired. . . I want all my shit done by Monday so I can do stuff other than CLEAN after work next week. Besides mom's going to be visiting the bay area from the 18th thru the end of the month anyway. I'll see her then :)
So I called mom this morning to tell her I don't see myself coming down to Bakersfield this weekend given I just returned from BM and have a TON of of stuff to CLEAN and put away. . . . .and I'm tired (besides I do my best to be 100% when I'm around my family) and if I were there this weekend I'd be tired, cranky and preoccupied. Mom is fine with this given she's coming to visit soon.
THEN I call my brother to apologize for snapping at him yesterday. I told him I though mom was attempting to manipulate us through each other again like she did in June. Turns out he thought the same thing, so told me not to worry :~D I love my brother!
While mom is up visiting, both my brother and I are going to be having some much needed conversations (separately) with mom about the way she's been behaving in the recent years. We're not sure it will do much good, but it's more for us than for her. We're not sure if it's a case of her regressing and/or us simply achieving a higher level of maturity than our parent. I think it's a little of both because she handles some situations differently now than she used to and it not been good for her. . . . . not that change is bad, but immaturity is bad. . . sigh. . . .
I spent the rest of yesterday wondering WTF mom is up to having my brother call me instead of calling me herself. . . .granted her birthday is Sunday and it would be nice for both us kids to be there, but there's just no way not this weekend. . .too tired. . . I want all my shit done by Monday so I can do stuff other than CLEAN after work next week. Besides mom's going to be visiting the bay area from the 18th thru the end of the month anyway. I'll see her then :)
So I called mom this morning to tell her I don't see myself coming down to Bakersfield this weekend given I just returned from BM and have a TON of of stuff to CLEAN and put away. . . . .and I'm tired (besides I do my best to be 100% when I'm around my family) and if I were there this weekend I'd be tired, cranky and preoccupied. Mom is fine with this given she's coming to visit soon.
THEN I call my brother to apologize for snapping at him yesterday. I told him I though mom was attempting to manipulate us through each other again like she did in June. Turns out he thought the same thing, so told me not to worry :~D I love my brother!
While mom is up visiting, both my brother and I are going to be having some much needed conversations (separately) with mom about the way she's been behaving in the recent years. We're not sure it will do much good, but it's more for us than for her. We're not sure if it's a case of her regressing and/or us simply achieving a higher level of maturity than our parent. I think it's a little of both because she handles some situations differently now than she used to and it not been good for her. . . . . not that change is bad, but immaturity is bad. . . sigh. . . .