Mean Girls

[killmeneko]

EDIT: Since this post is currently being linked to a shitty Sailor Moon group with poor leadership on Facebook, and the OP forgot to post some information about herself, I will use this space to share that info  =D

INFO ABOUT TEAH HALL and her shady dealings:

Here is her negative feedback in serasell

Comments

[usagimc]

I totally understand getting things off the chest. There are times when a feeling on a situation just lingers because you don't feel you have the proper closure. And I also don't want to negate your feelings on the matter or make it seem that I am taking sides. I myself am more of a neutral party/devils advocate. When one position is strongly represented I will always see the opposite side and also look at how when people get defensive then extreme reactions lead to a total break down. (This from personal experiences in my own friendships)

I actually have one friend I have had a very tumultuous relationship with. We would go through periods of just fighting and "stepping away" from each other. She herself acknowledges that she can be difficult to get along with, but I would always reach out to her after a bit of time - sometimes months- and we would come back together. We have been friends for over 10 years now and I treasure the role that she plays in my life. We still have our differences but we have learned through trial and error how to make our friendship work and what those limits are.

Not that I am trying to preach in any way about this situation. Just the idea that sometimes perspective can help. I have found most always that when I get mad at friends and vice verse it is always a misunderstanding, usually associated with bad timing and us not being on the same stage of things. Hence friction. I always try to not react instantly and usually imagine how quickly a situation can blow up if everyone acts in a worst case scenario. Sometimes restraining myself can lead me to get frustrated because why do I always have to be the reasonable, forgiving one. But for the most part that is just who I am and how I function. ^_^

And now I have gone on a tangent & written a book. So sorry for taking so much space here. Again I am not here to preach but I found myself just revisiting a lot of memories from my past in writing all this and it kinda got away from me. Again it is a pleasure to be part of the community and reach other collectors and thank you for all the care you put into keeping it a safe place.

[killmeneko]

I appreciate what you've said. People can get emotional and do rash things, say stuff they don't mean, and go into total communication failure. When there is no closure to situations like this, those feeling will stay unresolved and build up, as things happen. That $200 I had to pay fucked up my financial situation (worse than it already was) in a big way for a month, and she knew that. Then to find the whole time she's been talking behind my back to god knows who, telling them personal things and straight out lies, is unbelievable. Friending my ex was pretty much the last straw, and I knew I couldn't sit silent anymore, but it took a long time to figure out exactly what I should do. Luckily, my friends advised me and this is the result. I feel like a huge weight has been lifted from me, maybe that is closure.
If I may say- don't ALWAYS be the reasonable forgiving one, or people will use that against you. There is nothing wrong with sticking to your guns sometimes, and your friends should accept that or they are not your friends. Just my opinion ^^;