what to say....
My friend's wife has entered into a coma state. I was advising him that he should talk to her while he is holding her hand. His response was "what do I say to her?"
I never thought I would find myself telling a friend how to talk to their dying spouse. I advised him to tell her he loves her, to talk about the wonderful memories they have made together, to talk about the children, and most importantly to tell her it's ok to let go.
Up until tonight I have managed to mask/disguise my tears so he was unaware that I was crying. Tonight's circumstances were more than I could handle and he heard me crying. He was surprised to discover that I was crying over this situation.
How can I not cry at the thought of a young mother and wife's life coming to an end. The loss that her husband, children, parents and friends will be experiencing should bring tears to my eyes. I would be a cold and heartless person if I was not affected by this. I have deliberately hidden my tears from him before because he would feel bad for upsetting me and the man doesn't need anything else to feel bad about. Now I am wondering if it was wrong of me to hide those previous tears, does he think I am unfeeling?
The end will likely come within the next couple of days, I hope for everyone's sake that the end comes quickly and peacefully so they don't have to watch her linger and suffer. Morphine is designed to reduce/eliminate the suffering but it can't eliminate all of the disturbing symptoms of impending death.
I never thought I would find myself telling a friend how to talk to their dying spouse. I advised him to tell her he loves her, to talk about the wonderful memories they have made together, to talk about the children, and most importantly to tell her it's ok to let go.
Up until tonight I have managed to mask/disguise my tears so he was unaware that I was crying. Tonight's circumstances were more than I could handle and he heard me crying. He was surprised to discover that I was crying over this situation.
How can I not cry at the thought of a young mother and wife's life coming to an end. The loss that her husband, children, parents and friends will be experiencing should bring tears to my eyes. I would be a cold and heartless person if I was not affected by this. I have deliberately hidden my tears from him before because he would feel bad for upsetting me and the man doesn't need anything else to feel bad about. Now I am wondering if it was wrong of me to hide those previous tears, does he think I am unfeeling?
The end will likely come within the next couple of days, I hope for everyone's sake that the end comes quickly and peacefully so they don't have to watch her linger and suffer. Morphine is designed to reduce/eliminate the suffering but it can't eliminate all of the disturbing symptoms of impending death.