Hi! I just read this today. I know you don't know me very well, but Mare has known me in person for several years and she'll tell you I'm safe. LOL! I just wanted to say that you are not alone. Having had constant vertigo since last November '07 trying to do even simple things is difficult. My kids are all out of the house, but two of them are coming to town over the holiday. Have been trying for the last week to get my dishes done, but they are all still sitting there. I hope you don't mind me sharing a perspective I've had that may be helpful to you.
I used to tell my kids on a regular basis that I am not super mom and that the things they expect do not happen without much effort and that they have the power to help make things happen. They were always part of getting the decorations up or it didn't happen. When they wanted me to take them to the YMCA to participate the activities there, they had to help make sure the house was clean first. I can't do everything even when I don't have vertigo and I had no intention of trying to.
Maybe, you could get your son to participate 'with' you by asking him if he was expecting a tree and if so it will only happen if he's willing to help. Just be real with him. It worked with mine. I'm a Minimalist Mom with much personal interaction. Your time with him is most important. A lot of the teens in our church youth group say they'd rather have time spent with their parents just interacting with them, than to have lots of presents and no quality time with them.
Anyway, I'm sure it'll all work together for good because he surely knows that you love him dearly. Hang in there!!
My kids are all out of the house, but two of them are coming to town over the holiday. Have been trying for the last week to get my dishes done, but they are all still sitting there. I hope you don't mind me sharing a perspective I've had that may be helpful to you.
I used to tell my kids on a regular basis that I am not super mom and that the things they expect do not happen without much effort and that they have the power to help make things happen. They were always part of getting the decorations up or it didn't happen. When they wanted me to take them to the YMCA to participate the activities there, they had to help make sure the house was clean first. I can't do everything even when I don't have vertigo and I had no intention of trying to.
Maybe, you could get your son to participate 'with' you by asking him if he was expecting a tree and if so it will only happen if he's willing to help. Just be real with him. It worked with mine. I'm a Minimalist Mom with much personal interaction. Your time with him is most important. A lot of the teens in our church youth group say they'd rather have time spent with their parents just interacting with them, than to have lots of presents and no quality time with them.
Anyway, I'm sure it'll all work together for good because he surely knows that you love him dearly. Hang in there!!
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