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Had a minor Moment the other day as I realized that I make in a year literally twice what Maximus does.
Well, not quite twice - he's at 0.55 of what I earn.
Er.
Anyway, it led to me flipping out and asking a bunch of different married friends how they do money, which led to a lot of feedback from non-married and non-partnered friends about how they do it, but eventually it all shook out fine? Most of what I learned is that no two people do it the same way, and that a lot of friends are in similar boats where one spouse makes a lot more than the other...
I told Max that with the mortgage we'll do a proportional split and he was a bit "!" about it, but I explained why I wanted to do it that way (the title is in both of our names fully; there is no split percentage of who owns what portion of the house, and while we both think about "what would happen if we divorced" and try to be practical, well...I'm not worried about it).
Anyway.
Crisis averted, I suppose? :P
We've found homeowner's insurance. About a thousand a year, it's a locally-run thing with a good reputation. They only do Oregon? but yeah. Anyway.
Earnest money cleared, mortgage people are talking to the insurance people, everything is plodding along. Woo.
Other news: met with the guy from the local uni who wants me to teach that class. He answered a lot of my questions re: what it's going to look like and what I can expect for compensation, and I walked away going, "OK, if the department head gives the go-ahead, let's make it happen." Co-founder at the startup is like, "you really, REALLY should do this even though neither of us really wants you to", and I'm sort of shuddering and going, I know, I know, it'll look good on my CV! and silently preparing to lose several hours of time a week starting in June. So.
I reorganized my Discord today, because I realized that it's gotten to be something of a mess. Left a bunch of Masto-related servers that I wasn't really active in, because...well, yeah. I'm gearing up to delete my account. There's a bunch of "hmm" there and some thinking about whether or not I want to delete it or just allow it to continue to be inactive, but I keep getting little email alerts that someone has tried to follow me, and it's like, ah fuck, if I want to be truly Gone I am going to have to just make a point of deleting the damned thing.
...so yeah, I'm gonna back up everything and delete it in the next month or so.
I could wax long about why, but I'm tired and so I'll keep it short. In essence: it felt as though people were beginning to see me not as a person but as Haf, Dispenser Of Good Takes. People being like, "I was hoping you'd have something to say about this" &etc, and it was like, "I don't like this and this is not what I want people to think about me."
So.
Elliot sent me a message yesterday that was just a screenshot of a flight itinerary and a note that he's going to be out here in about a month (!) to look at WWOOF placements for the summer (!), and hey was my offer to hang out while he's out here still open?
I was like, "yes, ofc!" and so yeah. If he and Max get on, he's going to stay in our extra bedroom. If they don't, I'm going to help him with a hotel and such and will arrange to see him separately. His mom is helping him rent a car (nice of her), and he has his own agenda of shit he'd like to do, so either way should be fine.
We're going to talk tomorrow via voice chat and firm up details, and yeah.
Max is resuming DMing D&D on Friday(!).
I rolled a character tonight. Her name is Amanita, she's a Circle of Spores druid, and why YES, she IS embarrassed that her teenage edgelord name is what ended up sticking.
I showed the stats to Royce, who gave me some insight into something I missed, mechanically, reallotted some stuff, and got to preen as he was like, "yeah, that's a perfect stat line for a druid". Ha.
Now to go finish the dishes and maybe go to bed. Yay.
Well, not quite twice - he's at 0.55 of what I earn.
Er.
Anyway, it led to me flipping out and asking a bunch of different married friends how they do money, which led to a lot of feedback from non-married and non-partnered friends about how they do it, but eventually it all shook out fine? Most of what I learned is that no two people do it the same way, and that a lot of friends are in similar boats where one spouse makes a lot more than the other...
I told Max that with the mortgage we'll do a proportional split and he was a bit "!" about it, but I explained why I wanted to do it that way (the title is in both of our names fully; there is no split percentage of who owns what portion of the house, and while we both think about "what would happen if we divorced" and try to be practical, well...I'm not worried about it).
Anyway.
Crisis averted, I suppose? :P
We've found homeowner's insurance. About a thousand a year, it's a locally-run thing with a good reputation. They only do Oregon? but yeah. Anyway.
Earnest money cleared, mortgage people are talking to the insurance people, everything is plodding along. Woo.
Other news: met with the guy from the local uni who wants me to teach that class. He answered a lot of my questions re: what it's going to look like and what I can expect for compensation, and I walked away going, "OK, if the department head gives the go-ahead, let's make it happen." Co-founder at the startup is like, "you really, REALLY should do this even though neither of us really wants you to", and I'm sort of shuddering and going, I know, I know, it'll look good on my CV! and silently preparing to lose several hours of time a week starting in June. So.
I reorganized my Discord today, because I realized that it's gotten to be something of a mess. Left a bunch of Masto-related servers that I wasn't really active in, because...well, yeah. I'm gearing up to delete my account. There's a bunch of "hmm" there and some thinking about whether or not I want to delete it or just allow it to continue to be inactive, but I keep getting little email alerts that someone has tried to follow me, and it's like, ah fuck, if I want to be truly Gone I am going to have to just make a point of deleting the damned thing.
...so yeah, I'm gonna back up everything and delete it in the next month or so.
I could wax long about why, but I'm tired and so I'll keep it short. In essence: it felt as though people were beginning to see me not as a person but as Haf, Dispenser Of Good Takes. People being like, "I was hoping you'd have something to say about this" &etc, and it was like, "I don't like this and this is not what I want people to think about me."
So.
Elliot sent me a message yesterday that was just a screenshot of a flight itinerary and a note that he's going to be out here in about a month (!) to look at WWOOF placements for the summer (!), and hey was my offer to hang out while he's out here still open?
I was like, "yes, ofc!" and so yeah. If he and Max get on, he's going to stay in our extra bedroom. If they don't, I'm going to help him with a hotel and such and will arrange to see him separately. His mom is helping him rent a car (nice of her), and he has his own agenda of shit he'd like to do, so either way should be fine.
We're going to talk tomorrow via voice chat and firm up details, and yeah.
Max is resuming DMing D&D on Friday(!).
I rolled a character tonight. Her name is Amanita, she's a Circle of Spores druid, and why YES, she IS embarrassed that her teenage edgelord name is what ended up sticking.
I showed the stats to Royce, who gave me some insight into something I missed, mechanically, reallotted some stuff, and got to preen as he was like, "yeah, that's a perfect stat line for a druid". Ha.
Now to go finish the dishes and maybe go to bed. Yay.