sore!
nobody uses this anymore. i am no exception.
i've been doing a bit of wedding planning lately.
while no one wants to know about my wedding plans, here's some news anyway.
it's astounds me at the fact that women my age expect their parents to pay for their wedding. Matt & i are paying for the entire thing ourselves, & i know we wouldn't have it any other way. i just think it's rather selfish of some young women who are so spoiled they get married before they even have jobs.
due to an increase in price of my David's Bridal dream dress, i've re-looked into making my own dress. i'd save at least $650 on my dress, & i'd have the satisfaction of knowing it was made out of organic material & by own hands, as opposed to some poorly-paid laborer in a third world country (or whomever makes their dresses)... unfortunately it's difficult to also find organic material that was not also made in China or India or somewhere other than America. Arg. a visit to Haberman Fabrics is definitely in the future, hopefully tomorrow.
i've also decided to change the color of my bridesmaid's dresses. originally i wanted blue, for purely selfish reasons. in the grand scheme of my wedding, i intended to wear a green dress, much along the lines of my prom dress from 03. i didn't want to wear white because of what it symbolizes (purity & virginity) which i obviously want no part of. i was attempting to go non-traditional. the problem was, while i was finding green organic fabric, i couldn't find the right shade. it was either too light or too dark. nobody seems to make a nice kelly green anymore. i tried on a bridesmaids dress at Davids Bridal which was the shade of clover, a medium green, & not only was the color not quite right, the dress was not up to par with my expectations. & on my wedding day, & for the amount of money i'll be spending, there is no way i'm going to settle. another thought was to buy white organic material & dye it with fabric dye. still an option. but the whole green dress thing might not work out too well if i'm getting married in a garden. which i plan on reserving tomorrow, since we have a date for the wedding now, finally. if i am wearing a dress the same color as the grass on which i''m standing, i don't think i'll stand out. so, i've decided, whether i buy the David's Bridal dress or make my own, i think i'm going with white, embellished, of course with some green. i have all the details in mind. but the more i think about it, the more i'm wanting to make my own dress. it would be much lighter, anyway, & it will fit my perfectly. wedding dresses, as a rule or something, are extremely heavy, especially towards the bottom with all the fancy tulle & trains & shit. me being a tiny person & not wanting to be weighed down by all that must make a choice, & i'm definitely leaning towards a homemade, handmade Kate original.
oh yes, back to the bridesmaids. so naturally if i couldn't wear green i didn't want my bridesmaids to wear green. i thought blue was the next best choice. but again i'n not finding a blue that is not insanely bright or too light or dark. so i'm thinking instead of that, perhaps a very light green, accented with some medium greens & blues would look nice. if the green is light enough (a peridot perhaps) it won't blend in with the grass, & they'll still be wearing green, my favorite color. i'm planning on having lots of greenery at the wedding & reception & i'm not going overboard. green,eco-friendly is my theme, so there.
not to mention, local companies & businesses shall also assist me. which means, i'm looking for volunteers. my sister, an excellent baker, has agreed to make our wedding cake & assist me with the food if i decide not to get a caterer (a plan which could potentially save me thousands). my bridesmaids are purchasing their own dresses. matt's sister Alisha is doing my hair & makeup & all that jazz, & she & Auntie Joan (Matt's aunt) are doing the flowers & much of the decorations. we're making our own slideshow, & i'm pretty sure Matt will be taking care of the music. all in all, things are looking reasonable. if we save this much money, we may be able to splurge on a professional photographer or maybe even take a honeymoon!
in other news, last monday Matt & i went on our rebuying shopping spree. to take advantage of the holiday deals we went ahead & bought a new laptop, a new 40" tv & a new PS3 to replace all of our stuff. we took it to the apartment & we take Lappy wherever we go so that nothing of value remains at the house while we're not there. as for moving, my dad is in the process of donating the house, but first must remove all of his & my grandpa's stuff from the attic & basement, a task that's been needing completion since my grandpa moved out of the house in 2001. now with a new apartment & a strong desire to leave the house for dead in a dying crime-ridden neighborhood, my dad is attempting a huge cleaning job with my help of course. there are boxes of stuff dating back to the 50s & earlier, stuff his dad never touched or forgot about, old papers from my dad's cub scout days & who knows what else. nothing of value, naturally. so for the last few weeks dad's been coming over when he had the chance to pack up stuff, go through it, throw it away or take it back to his house. we just about finished the attic today. now we have one room left, the worst one. it's going to be a huge pain in the ass, but it must be done. & me being a good person, i'm helping him.
Mary is home in Michigan once again. her plane (finally) landed yesterday & for the first time in several years i didn't pick her up from the airport. i had to work for a stupid 2 hours, whooo hoo. i hope me, her & Di (who's also in town from Traverse City for a bit) can hang out tomorrow. that would be lovely.
so it looks as if our plan for moving officially will be january 12th. it's a lot later than i had wanted, but matt's cousin Kyle is coming to help us move, & since he'll be in town the 13th for the Metallica concert anyway, we figured it'll be more convenient for him to have to drive from Kalamazoo once next month instead of twice.
work & stressing over the holidays, money & school has kept me busy. my baby has kept me sane, i'm very lucky. i can't wait to marry him.
so yeah, i'm happy today.
now i have work.
i've been doing a bit of wedding planning lately.
while no one wants to know about my wedding plans, here's some news anyway.
it's astounds me at the fact that women my age expect their parents to pay for their wedding. Matt & i are paying for the entire thing ourselves, & i know we wouldn't have it any other way. i just think it's rather selfish of some young women who are so spoiled they get married before they even have jobs.
due to an increase in price of my David's Bridal dream dress, i've re-looked into making my own dress. i'd save at least $650 on my dress, & i'd have the satisfaction of knowing it was made out of organic material & by own hands, as opposed to some poorly-paid laborer in a third world country (or whomever makes their dresses)... unfortunately it's difficult to also find organic material that was not also made in China or India or somewhere other than America. Arg. a visit to Haberman Fabrics is definitely in the future, hopefully tomorrow.
i've also decided to change the color of my bridesmaid's dresses. originally i wanted blue, for purely selfish reasons. in the grand scheme of my wedding, i intended to wear a green dress, much along the lines of my prom dress from 03. i didn't want to wear white because of what it symbolizes (purity & virginity) which i obviously want no part of. i was attempting to go non-traditional. the problem was, while i was finding green organic fabric, i couldn't find the right shade. it was either too light or too dark. nobody seems to make a nice kelly green anymore. i tried on a bridesmaids dress at Davids Bridal which was the shade of clover, a medium green, & not only was the color not quite right, the dress was not up to par with my expectations. & on my wedding day, & for the amount of money i'll be spending, there is no way i'm going to settle. another thought was to buy white organic material & dye it with fabric dye. still an option. but the whole green dress thing might not work out too well if i'm getting married in a garden. which i plan on reserving tomorrow, since we have a date for the wedding now, finally. if i am wearing a dress the same color as the grass on which i''m standing, i don't think i'll stand out. so, i've decided, whether i buy the David's Bridal dress or make my own, i think i'm going with white, embellished, of course with some green. i have all the details in mind. but the more i think about it, the more i'm wanting to make my own dress. it would be much lighter, anyway, & it will fit my perfectly. wedding dresses, as a rule or something, are extremely heavy, especially towards the bottom with all the fancy tulle & trains & shit. me being a tiny person & not wanting to be weighed down by all that must make a choice, & i'm definitely leaning towards a homemade, handmade Kate original.
oh yes, back to the bridesmaids. so naturally if i couldn't wear green i didn't want my bridesmaids to wear green. i thought blue was the next best choice. but again i'n not finding a blue that is not insanely bright or too light or dark. so i'm thinking instead of that, perhaps a very light green, accented with some medium greens & blues would look nice. if the green is light enough (a peridot perhaps) it won't blend in with the grass, & they'll still be wearing green, my favorite color. i'm planning on having lots of greenery at the wedding & reception & i'm not going overboard. green,eco-friendly is my theme, so there.
not to mention, local companies & businesses shall also assist me. which means, i'm looking for volunteers. my sister, an excellent baker, has agreed to make our wedding cake & assist me with the food if i decide not to get a caterer (a plan which could potentially save me thousands). my bridesmaids are purchasing their own dresses. matt's sister Alisha is doing my hair & makeup & all that jazz, & she & Auntie Joan (Matt's aunt) are doing the flowers & much of the decorations. we're making our own slideshow, & i'm pretty sure Matt will be taking care of the music. all in all, things are looking reasonable. if we save this much money, we may be able to splurge on a professional photographer or maybe even take a honeymoon!
in other news, last monday Matt & i went on our rebuying shopping spree. to take advantage of the holiday deals we went ahead & bought a new laptop, a new 40" tv & a new PS3 to replace all of our stuff. we took it to the apartment & we take Lappy wherever we go so that nothing of value remains at the house while we're not there. as for moving, my dad is in the process of donating the house, but first must remove all of his & my grandpa's stuff from the attic & basement, a task that's been needing completion since my grandpa moved out of the house in 2001. now with a new apartment & a strong desire to leave the house for dead in a dying crime-ridden neighborhood, my dad is attempting a huge cleaning job with my help of course. there are boxes of stuff dating back to the 50s & earlier, stuff his dad never touched or forgot about, old papers from my dad's cub scout days & who knows what else. nothing of value, naturally. so for the last few weeks dad's been coming over when he had the chance to pack up stuff, go through it, throw it away or take it back to his house. we just about finished the attic today. now we have one room left, the worst one. it's going to be a huge pain in the ass, but it must be done. & me being a good person, i'm helping him.
Mary is home in Michigan once again. her plane (finally) landed yesterday & for the first time in several years i didn't pick her up from the airport. i had to work for a stupid 2 hours, whooo hoo. i hope me, her & Di (who's also in town from Traverse City for a bit) can hang out tomorrow. that would be lovely.
so it looks as if our plan for moving officially will be january 12th. it's a lot later than i had wanted, but matt's cousin Kyle is coming to help us move, & since he'll be in town the 13th for the Metallica concert anyway, we figured it'll be more convenient for him to have to drive from Kalamazoo once next month instead of twice.
work & stressing over the holidays, money & school has kept me busy. my baby has kept me sane, i'm very lucky. i can't wait to marry him.
so yeah, i'm happy today.
now i have work.