A letter from my dad in response to my hell and the ARTICLE....
Honey,
I'm sorry that Sam broke up with you. You've obviously spent a lot
of time investing into a relationship that didn't work out. I really liked the article from Sarika Dani.
It's so hard to find a person who you can trust. Mom was never attracted to Indian guys
either, or at least that's what she always told me. I read a lot of the comments
and I really liked the remarks from the people about her article. How do two
people find one another? I don't know how. I had pretty much given up
finding someone when I found Mom. She was pretty bitter at the world
when we met, but somehow we found trust in each other. We were friends
first and that respect and caring for each other and just happened to cross over
into a lasting relationship. I think that is what she's getting at in some
ways. She had something in common with him that allowed her to trust her Desi
boyfriend.
You don't have a set culture to fall back onto, or reject for that
matter. You're just who you are, but it's a very unique (and
wonderful) mix of personality and and culture you have. White "Texas" non-existent
dad, white Michigan step in dad, Guyanese Indian (not a real Indian to
Indians) mother, raised all over the world! Where and which culture do you fall
back onto? You'll never have that comfort zone that you can totally relate
to anther person's culture with. To try might be an exercise in
frustration.
What do you have? You have a wonderfully unique blend of
different! There's no one like you. You're most definitely a one of a kind. You
will never find anyone like you, so just give it up. You can find someone
who is patient and really accepts you. Maybe that person will find you truly
patient and exceptive of them too. It's kind of a two way street.
You have friends who know and love you, and guess what? They're
their own blends of total uniqueness. You could never fully understand them
either because you have never experienced their life and culture. It's a
strange and wonderful world of people who are as unique as you. You
just have to accept them, like you have to learn to accept yourself,
shortcomings and all. Next guy you date, make him a friend first, a lover second.
Your can hurt a lover and leave them, but you can never hurt and leave a
friend.
Honey, I love you and I wish you a happiness like your Mom and I
share. I wish it were easy to find, but it's not. There's really no such
thing as a perfect relationship. It takes a lot of work, time, and self
sacrifice to make any relationship last. It's kind of like family. We aint
perfect, but we try. If it's any consolation, I still think of you as my "Number
One
Babes!"
I Love You,
Dad
I'm sorry that Sam broke up with you. You've obviously spent a lot
of time investing into a relationship that didn't work out. I really liked the article from Sarika Dani.
It's so hard to find a person who you can trust. Mom was never attracted to Indian guys
either, or at least that's what she always told me. I read a lot of the comments
and I really liked the remarks from the people about her article. How do two
people find one another? I don't know how. I had pretty much given up
finding someone when I found Mom. She was pretty bitter at the world
when we met, but somehow we found trust in each other. We were friends
first and that respect and caring for each other and just happened to cross over
into a lasting relationship. I think that is what she's getting at in some
ways. She had something in common with him that allowed her to trust her Desi
boyfriend.
You don't have a set culture to fall back onto, or reject for that
matter. You're just who you are, but it's a very unique (and
wonderful) mix of personality and and culture you have. White "Texas" non-existent
dad, white Michigan step in dad, Guyanese Indian (not a real Indian to
Indians) mother, raised all over the world! Where and which culture do you fall
back onto? You'll never have that comfort zone that you can totally relate
to anther person's culture with. To try might be an exercise in
frustration.
What do you have? You have a wonderfully unique blend of
different! There's no one like you. You're most definitely a one of a kind. You
will never find anyone like you, so just give it up. You can find someone
who is patient and really accepts you. Maybe that person will find you truly
patient and exceptive of them too. It's kind of a two way street.
You have friends who know and love you, and guess what? They're
their own blends of total uniqueness. You could never fully understand them
either because you have never experienced their life and culture. It's a
strange and wonderful world of people who are as unique as you. You
just have to accept them, like you have to learn to accept yourself,
shortcomings and all. Next guy you date, make him a friend first, a lover second.
Your can hurt a lover and leave them, but you can never hurt and leave a
friend.
Honey, I love you and I wish you a happiness like your Mom and I
share. I wish it were easy to find, but it's not. There's really no such
thing as a perfect relationship. It takes a lot of work, time, and self
sacrifice to make any relationship last. It's kind of like family. We aint
perfect, but we try. If it's any consolation, I still think of you as my "Number
One
Babes!"
I Love You,
Dad