But people here and now love you! It's all fine and good to remember the past occasionally, but don't get trapped. There are still good memories to be made now! <3
I was thinking 'dementia' when old folk drift off -- 'away when... 'and they are happy to revisit whereever. It is kind to let them 'dream' rather than have nurses forcing them back to this moment to drink, or sit up or... How are you deary?... aaaggh. Maybe they are just having a lovely remembrance of.. 'aah when he...' - 'oh I remember it well' as Maurice Chevalier used to sing... Let us oldies remember cos Time will always be kind .. it truly does wear off the sharp edges and tones the blood to a pretty pink! I should know... teehee.
Oh, in that case you are quite right. Dementia makes me ache with sadness, it really does. I hope it isn't so bad to go through as it is for the ones left behind. :'-( You make it sound a little gentler and softer, and if it is like being caught in a dream of happier times, I suppose that isn't so bad. I do hope it is like that.
Well, I've rarely seen a 'dementia' crying! to put it another way, usually they are far away, or get faces muddled, or can't remember which chair to sit in. But I cannot honestly remember seeing one old person with a fading addled brain being sad, miserable, unhappy. They don't sit like the mentally damaged youngers, and cry and cry helplessly and you can't get through to them They haven't enough 'passion' left to feel that sort of anguish... and truly... I think of all the utterly foully miserable times I have had -- and do you know, they are softening.. they have faded... like lavender looses its pungency and becomes... just crispy breaking flowers of a pale past. So maybe that is how a faded mind behaves.. picks at the little flowers
( ... )
The past hangs low on the horizon
of your vision and I leave you to your
better days,
alone.
That is sometimes where we wish to be......
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