Fidùcia
Reflecting on my personal life, I was attempting to find a common denominator in all the women I've been attracted to. It has often been noted that I don't really have a niche; I don't fit into any specific clique and tend to be difficult to quantify in a sociological context. Similarly, I've noticed that the same can be said for the women in my life. On the surface, they have nothing in common. They range from artsy to brainy, from short to tall, from laid back to motivated, come from all manner of ethnic backgrounds… I have a friend who says she's only attracted to hairless men. She doesn't even want for them to be clean-shaven inasmuch as she wants for them not to have to shave at all. That's her "type". Conversely, one of my exes is attracted to very masculine men; she likes the eyebrow ridge and the five-o-clock shadow, the works. Some women prefer their men to dote on them while some prefer that they maintain their independence. In my experience, I don't care
After much thought on the matter, because it's obvious that I won't date just anyone, I tried to discover what I've been doing subconsciously to narrow it down. The answer, I finally found, was trust. I have an intuitive feeling for how well I can trust a person that I've developed over the years. I remember reading somewhere that this intuition is borne out of necessity in Borderlines. In any event, every last girl that I have ever been attracted to has scored very highly in this category. The common denominator with all of these women is that they make me feel safe. This is not to be mistaken for saying that they make me feel physically safe or that they are capable of protecting me in some way. It's much more intangible than that. The best I can say is that with every girl I've been attracted to, I would be willing to trust them with my life. As for how accurate that intuition is; I've had five legitimate relationships and all of them ended amicably, and I still have confidence in every one of my other previous romantic interests. Not one of them let me down. Not one of them betrayed the trust I placed in them. Which goes to show that every time someone questions my judgment in my personal life, I simply need say, "I trust her."
As a side note, it's commonly considered romantic for people to think, "I wonder what she's doing right now." For me the answer is invariably "sleeping, because that's what normal people do at this hour, you dumb shit."
After much thought on the matter, because it's obvious that I won't date just anyone, I tried to discover what I've been doing subconsciously to narrow it down. The answer, I finally found, was trust. I have an intuitive feeling for how well I can trust a person that I've developed over the years. I remember reading somewhere that this intuition is borne out of necessity in Borderlines. In any event, every last girl that I have ever been attracted to has scored very highly in this category. The common denominator with all of these women is that they make me feel safe. This is not to be mistaken for saying that they make me feel physically safe or that they are capable of protecting me in some way. It's much more intangible than that. The best I can say is that with every girl I've been attracted to, I would be willing to trust them with my life. As for how accurate that intuition is; I've had five legitimate relationships and all of them ended amicably, and I still have confidence in every one of my other previous romantic interests. Not one of them let me down. Not one of them betrayed the trust I placed in them. Which goes to show that every time someone questions my judgment in my personal life, I simply need say, "I trust her."
As a side note, it's commonly considered romantic for people to think, "I wonder what she's doing right now." For me the answer is invariably "sleeping, because that's what normal people do at this hour, you dumb shit."