The rest of your family (particularly the men) seem like they need a good kick on the butt to make them see and take their responsibilities seriously - and not pass the buck to someone else.
Good for you for not putting up with it a minute longer.
You have a life of your own! Bravo for taking a stand. No ou should not have kept your mouth shut. He perhaps should not have dialed your number requesting a nursemaid so he could go golfing.
The B-I-L is just amusing and you did right there as well.
It's not about how much you let other walk over you in the name of love and family, but about boundaries and others respecting them.
{{hugs}} You did exactly the right thing. I can only imagine how rotten it makes you feel, but it's important that you stand up for yourself and not let yourself be used by these men. Keep setting those boundaries.
I'm trying to not feel guilty, but I guess because I'm not working right now and don't have any appts/interviews today or am not planning on job hunting *today* that I feel bad. And maybe I should. ::sigh::
No, you shouldn't. It's not about whether or not you have the time to do these things. The issue is that it is inappropriate for them to ask you to take on their responsibilities in the first place. The boundary is that you will not enable them to shirk what is rightly their responsibility. Stay strong!
Thank you so much. I'm finally feeling a lot better about these situations today. I talked to my b-i-l just a bit ago and he did get the boys to school by 11am, thank goodness. And he said he told the boys he was going to be getting them up in the mornings from now on. AS HE SHOULD!! Shoot, it's not only one parent's responsibility!
Should you feel guilty about making people face up to their own responsibilities? Hmmm. Y'know... That really doesn't strike me as a question deserving a "yes" answer. How about asking yourself this question instead: "Should I consider my time and energy to be at least as valuable as anybody else's?"
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The rest of your family (particularly the men) seem like they need a good kick on the butt to make them see and take their responsibilities seriously - and not pass the buck to someone else.
Good for you for not putting up with it a minute longer.
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The B-I-L is just amusing and you did right there as well.
It's not about how much you let other walk over you in the name of love and family, but about boundaries and others respecting them.
Now get your tummy in order and enjoy the day!
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