"accidental" rape
This post got me thinking. And while it's appalling I realized something about the way guys are "indoctrinated".
Guys, especially teens *know* that *of course* everyone wants sex. They don't even question it.
A fair number figure that there are reasons why a girl might not want to admit it. They get *that* much* of female cultural conditioning.
But I suspect that the vast majority would find the concept of girls actively not *wanting* to have sex totally incomprehensible. And a lot don't "get it" even after they become "responsible adults.
The simple fact is responsible for vast amounts of suffering.
So, not only do we need to quit teaching that "no means no" (rather teach that "anything but an explicit *yes* means no") but we need to get across to guys that for females sex is a *horribly* risky thing and that they have a lot of very good reasons to not even want to *consider* it.
With that context, teaching them that "consent means an explicit yes" will be a lot easier.
Heck, it might even make the stupidity that is "abstinence only" sex "education" a bit less of a major fail.
Guys, especially teens *know* that *of course* everyone wants sex. They don't even question it.
A fair number figure that there are reasons why a girl might not want to admit it. They get *that* much* of female cultural conditioning.
But I suspect that the vast majority would find the concept of girls actively not *wanting* to have sex totally incomprehensible. And a lot don't "get it" even after they become "responsible adults.
The simple fact is responsible for vast amounts of suffering.
So, not only do we need to quit teaching that "no means no" (rather teach that "anything but an explicit *yes* means no") but we need to get across to guys that for females sex is a *horribly* risky thing and that they have a lot of very good reasons to not even want to *consider* it.
With that context, teaching them that "consent means an explicit yes" will be a lot easier.
Heck, it might even make the stupidity that is "abstinence only" sex "education" a bit less of a major fail.