gah! WHY did I do that?
well, dammit .... I was updating my LinkedIn account, and saw that my cousin has added The Ex to her LinkedIn network. and I couldn't stop myself from clicking on the name ....
and seeing a current picture. oh my, tis NOT a pretty sight! I literally gasped and put my hand to my mouth, instinctively. he's put on some *serious* weight in the past 8 years (last time I saw him was to sign the divorce papers). it's only a head shot, but gone are the prominent cheekbones and sharply angular face of his youth. now, his face is waaay rounder, and his jawline running to slack. srsly, if I'd not known it was him and had to pick that photo out of a large group, I'm not sure I could have found it. balgamannan, go look!
If you know me, and if you know Fighter Boy, then you know damn right well it's not that the extra weight is off-putting in and of itself. what's so shocking is that when we were still married, he used to tell me that I was a morally weak person because I was overweight (this, even while I was on Weight Watchers and had dropped 20 pounds. charming, wasn't he?). he prided himself on his physical fitness, and shamed me for what he perceived as the lack of mine. that he has changed so much in such a relatively short span of time is ... unexpected, to say the least.
while I'm not thrilled with caving to my curiosity to click on his name, I am justly proud that it never even occurred to me to pursue his profile and see if he's married, for example. I genuinely don't care, have not the slightest need or desire to know.
(blast from the past, Exs back in touch are on my mind this evening, following a phone call with a close friend whose ex has contacted her out of the blue 16 years after they split.)
off to shower and scrub my eyeballs!
and seeing a current picture. oh my, tis NOT a pretty sight! I literally gasped and put my hand to my mouth, instinctively. he's put on some *serious* weight in the past 8 years (last time I saw him was to sign the divorce papers). it's only a head shot, but gone are the prominent cheekbones and sharply angular face of his youth. now, his face is waaay rounder, and his jawline running to slack. srsly, if I'd not known it was him and had to pick that photo out of a large group, I'm not sure I could have found it. balgamannan, go look!
If you know me, and if you know Fighter Boy, then you know damn right well it's not that the extra weight is off-putting in and of itself. what's so shocking is that when we were still married, he used to tell me that I was a morally weak person because I was overweight (this, even while I was on Weight Watchers and had dropped 20 pounds. charming, wasn't he?). he prided himself on his physical fitness, and shamed me for what he perceived as the lack of mine. that he has changed so much in such a relatively short span of time is ... unexpected, to say the least.
while I'm not thrilled with caving to my curiosity to click on his name, I am justly proud that it never even occurred to me to pursue his profile and see if he's married, for example. I genuinely don't care, have not the slightest need or desire to know.
(blast from the past, Exs back in touch are on my mind this evening, following a phone call with a close friend whose ex has contacted her out of the blue 16 years after they split.)
off to shower and scrub my eyeballs!