Long time no blog.
So it's been a while...especially after my most recent posts of emo spaziness. I got a concerned reply (thanks hiddenshallows, you're a doll), so I figured I should update.
I just got home from hanging out with my friends. I love my friends here so much. The worst thing about living and working here in Korea is that you make these really amazing friends, but 9 times out of 10 they are from another country or they don't live anywhere near you back home. I don't know what I'm going to do when I inevitably have to leave (or they leave). It's going to break my heart. I have been very blessed to find an incredibly supportive, loving, open-minded group of friends here, and I forget sometimes that not everyone in the world is like that. I've also been really spoiled by my RL and LJ friends in those same aspects. It's easy to forget that the entire world isn't as accepting.
Case in point: Joe. We were all hanging out at Ses' apartment drinking and having fun, and believe it or not, playing Spin the Bottle. Why yes, we're all in our twenties, thanks for asking! But Justin had never played and we were getting bored of playing "The Minister's Cat" and a few other drinking games, so we decided to spice things up a bit. Now, my three best male friends here are just the best guys in the world. Andy is openly bisexual and has had sex with guys before and isn't ashamed to tell people that. Eric is mostly straight, but when he drinks he gets very affectionate with everyone and had a bit of an encounter with a gay guy last weekend that landed him in bed getting jerked off, and now he's a bit confused, but when he's sober he's still really cool with homosexuality. Weston is completely straight but is one of the most open, accepting people I've ever known, and all three of them are just wonderful. Among our number tonight were my two best gay friends here, Terry (who is Korean) and Justin (who is American). They are two of the funniest guys I know, and I adore them completely. Now, we were all drinking and playing Spin the Bottle, when there was a knock on the door and this guy Joe comes in saying he just moved in down the hall and he was really bored and he heard us cat-calling and laughing and thought he'd come by and see what the party was all about. So we explained to him that we were playing Spin the Bottle, and told him he was welcome to join. The first thing out of his mouth was "as long as I don't have to kiss any dudes!" And sure, okay, fine. I mean, most of the guys were just kissing on the cheek, and I could tell that Kim Hyun and Young Jin thought we were completely mental for even playing such a game in the first place, but everyone was being a good sport and having fun. Then this dude comes in and immediately starts being a big homophobe and it just made everyone really uncomfortable. He was pretending to be limp-wristed at one point, and I could see poor Terry and Justin looking at him like, "seriously, dude?" and I just wanted to yell at him. I sort of forgot how unattractive it is when guys act like that. Finally, he spun the bottle and it landed on Eric, who grabbed him by the face and kissed him full on the mouth. He wiped his lips with the back of his hand in disgust and was like, "come on dude, I'm not a fag!" and that was it for me. I looked him in the eye and said, "you know, some of the people here tonight are actually gay and I for one would really appreciate if you'd keep the homophobic slurs to a minimum. If you don't want to play, that's fine, but there's no need for that kind of language here." And he was like, "Yeah, I'm definitely not drunk enough for this." and we just sort of left it at that. I saw him making faces later when we switched the games up to "Never Have I Ever" and Justin and Terry both had to drink to "Never have I ever given someone a blow job," and I was just so disgusted with him. I mean, I know everyone has their own opinions about homosexuality, but when you're in someone else's home and meeting people for the first time...I dunno, I just wish he'd kept it to himself if it made him so uncomfortable. I definitely know I won't be hanging out with him much in the future.
I didn't even really want to go out tonight. I'm glad I did because I had a blast, but I fully planned on just staying in and watching tv. But I got a text message from Young Jin (who I've developed something of mad crush on) saying that he was at Ses' and that I should come. I told him it was too late (it was after midnight at this point) and he was like, "come on, I want to see you!" So I asked if they were going to the bar or not, and he said, "I don't know, but you must come now." And I was like, "Haha do I have a choice in the matter?" and he was like, "No, you gotta come right now." So I went, and when I got there he was waiting outside for me. He had come straight from the grand re-opening of his father's store, so he was in a suit and he just looked delectable. I said, "Wow, nice suit! You look great!" and he looked at me and was like, "Nice...nice. Just...you look pretty." Later, he asked what I was doing tomorrow. I told him I didn't really have any plans, and he was like, "Why not? It's Valentine's Day!" And I was like, "Yeah, but I don't have anyone to spend it with." and he was like, "You have me...are you going to give me chocolates?" (In Korea it's custom on Valentine's Day for girls to give boys chocolate. Then, a month later on March 14th, they celebrate "White Day," which is basically another Valentine's Day, but the boys give girls gifts.) I said "haha yeah, sure, I'll get you some chocolate." and then that conversation just sort of ended. Then like half an hour later he got up abruptly and was like, "I'm going home, bye." and just left. I tried to talk to him to see what the matter was, but he just left with barely a farewell. I got a text message from him later saying, "I am just tired. Hope you have a good night." but still...I dunno, I feel like he was angry for some reason. Oh well...I'll call him in the morning.
Oh, and things with Andy are fine. We ended up getting hammered again last weekend at his place (with Ashley, Eric and Weston), and as we were all getting up to leave he was like, "or you could just stay" so I did haha. We had sex (properly this time), but then talked about it afterwards and everything is cool. So no more wibbling about that...haha, sorry if I made anyone worry. :D
So yeah, that's pretty much all that's new with me. I just sort of realised that this time last year I had literally just met Simon. This weekend last year. Weird. Can't believe it's been a year.
Mostly all I've been doing with my time lately is watching 꽃보다 남자 (Kkotbodda Namja), the Korean version of Boys Over Flowers (Hana Yori Dango). It's SO awesome, but it's kind of bumming me out because I want a boy to care about me so much that he'd spend four hours waiting for me outside of Namsan Tower in the snow just hoping I'd show up...BAH. Stupid Valentine's Day...stupid Young Jin. He better get his act together haha.
I just got home from hanging out with my friends. I love my friends here so much. The worst thing about living and working here in Korea is that you make these really amazing friends, but 9 times out of 10 they are from another country or they don't live anywhere near you back home. I don't know what I'm going to do when I inevitably have to leave (or they leave). It's going to break my heart. I have been very blessed to find an incredibly supportive, loving, open-minded group of friends here, and I forget sometimes that not everyone in the world is like that. I've also been really spoiled by my RL and LJ friends in those same aspects. It's easy to forget that the entire world isn't as accepting.
Case in point: Joe. We were all hanging out at Ses' apartment drinking and having fun, and believe it or not, playing Spin the Bottle. Why yes, we're all in our twenties, thanks for asking! But Justin had never played and we were getting bored of playing "The Minister's Cat" and a few other drinking games, so we decided to spice things up a bit. Now, my three best male friends here are just the best guys in the world. Andy is openly bisexual and has had sex with guys before and isn't ashamed to tell people that. Eric is mostly straight, but when he drinks he gets very affectionate with everyone and had a bit of an encounter with a gay guy last weekend that landed him in bed getting jerked off, and now he's a bit confused, but when he's sober he's still really cool with homosexuality. Weston is completely straight but is one of the most open, accepting people I've ever known, and all three of them are just wonderful. Among our number tonight were my two best gay friends here, Terry (who is Korean) and Justin (who is American). They are two of the funniest guys I know, and I adore them completely. Now, we were all drinking and playing Spin the Bottle, when there was a knock on the door and this guy Joe comes in saying he just moved in down the hall and he was really bored and he heard us cat-calling and laughing and thought he'd come by and see what the party was all about. So we explained to him that we were playing Spin the Bottle, and told him he was welcome to join. The first thing out of his mouth was "as long as I don't have to kiss any dudes!" And sure, okay, fine. I mean, most of the guys were just kissing on the cheek, and I could tell that Kim Hyun and Young Jin thought we were completely mental for even playing such a game in the first place, but everyone was being a good sport and having fun. Then this dude comes in and immediately starts being a big homophobe and it just made everyone really uncomfortable. He was pretending to be limp-wristed at one point, and I could see poor Terry and Justin looking at him like, "seriously, dude?" and I just wanted to yell at him. I sort of forgot how unattractive it is when guys act like that. Finally, he spun the bottle and it landed on Eric, who grabbed him by the face and kissed him full on the mouth. He wiped his lips with the back of his hand in disgust and was like, "come on dude, I'm not a fag!" and that was it for me. I looked him in the eye and said, "you know, some of the people here tonight are actually gay and I for one would really appreciate if you'd keep the homophobic slurs to a minimum. If you don't want to play, that's fine, but there's no need for that kind of language here." And he was like, "Yeah, I'm definitely not drunk enough for this." and we just sort of left it at that. I saw him making faces later when we switched the games up to "Never Have I Ever" and Justin and Terry both had to drink to "Never have I ever given someone a blow job," and I was just so disgusted with him. I mean, I know everyone has their own opinions about homosexuality, but when you're in someone else's home and meeting people for the first time...I dunno, I just wish he'd kept it to himself if it made him so uncomfortable. I definitely know I won't be hanging out with him much in the future.
I didn't even really want to go out tonight. I'm glad I did because I had a blast, but I fully planned on just staying in and watching tv. But I got a text message from Young Jin (who I've developed something of mad crush on) saying that he was at Ses' and that I should come. I told him it was too late (it was after midnight at this point) and he was like, "come on, I want to see you!" So I asked if they were going to the bar or not, and he said, "I don't know, but you must come now." And I was like, "Haha do I have a choice in the matter?" and he was like, "No, you gotta come right now." So I went, and when I got there he was waiting outside for me. He had come straight from the grand re-opening of his father's store, so he was in a suit and he just looked delectable. I said, "Wow, nice suit! You look great!" and he looked at me and was like, "Nice...nice. Just...you look pretty." Later, he asked what I was doing tomorrow. I told him I didn't really have any plans, and he was like, "Why not? It's Valentine's Day!" And I was like, "Yeah, but I don't have anyone to spend it with." and he was like, "You have me...are you going to give me chocolates?" (In Korea it's custom on Valentine's Day for girls to give boys chocolate. Then, a month later on March 14th, they celebrate "White Day," which is basically another Valentine's Day, but the boys give girls gifts.) I said "haha yeah, sure, I'll get you some chocolate." and then that conversation just sort of ended. Then like half an hour later he got up abruptly and was like, "I'm going home, bye." and just left. I tried to talk to him to see what the matter was, but he just left with barely a farewell. I got a text message from him later saying, "I am just tired. Hope you have a good night." but still...I dunno, I feel like he was angry for some reason. Oh well...I'll call him in the morning.
Oh, and things with Andy are fine. We ended up getting hammered again last weekend at his place (with Ashley, Eric and Weston), and as we were all getting up to leave he was like, "or you could just stay" so I did haha. We had sex (properly this time), but then talked about it afterwards and everything is cool. So no more wibbling about that...haha, sorry if I made anyone worry. :D
So yeah, that's pretty much all that's new with me. I just sort of realised that this time last year I had literally just met Simon. This weekend last year. Weird. Can't believe it's been a year.
Mostly all I've been doing with my time lately is watching 꽃보다 남자 (Kkotbodda Namja), the Korean version of Boys Over Flowers (Hana Yori Dango). It's SO awesome, but it's kind of bumming me out because I want a boy to care about me so much that he'd spend four hours waiting for me outside of Namsan Tower in the snow just hoping I'd show up...BAH. Stupid Valentine's Day...stupid Young Jin. He better get his act together haha.