Why'd you have to go and make things so complicated???
Okay, I officially have too many guy problems in my life. Eddie the jerk. Daniel the married man. And Nick. Oooooh Nick. Last night he had a complete man-vadge fit! Like serious boy cramps. Here's how it went down...
Okay wait, back story: We've been hanging out in the SMMC parking lot most nights that he works, playing guitar and talking. It's been fun, but I've still been very careful about it all. I haven't gotten too close and I won't let him get very close either, and he's definitely been trying to. The other night he asked what I my thoughts were on "this whole thing we got going on" and I simply said, "no complaints" with a shrug and smile. He made some comment about how I'm very good at being evasive. Whatever. Oh, andddd Katie had made a comment that I mentioned to him, something about how she thinks he's playing both of us (me and Katie). He asked what I thought, and I made a little joke about how I don't really know him, it's possible he's playing many girls. He kinda got offended by this, and I took it back cause I didn't really mean it in the first place. And I'm bad at taking compliments, so I think I made a joke once about how I think he's full of shit and just trying to get into my pants. BUT IT WAS A JOKE! Anyway, I took that one back too, but this guy has been saving these little "jokes" up.
SO. What had happened was, I texted him and asked if he was working in Lancaster, cause if he wasn't I'd go visit him. He texted back saying "yeah I am, why do you miss this handsome boy?" which was a little weird to me, but oh well. I texted back, and the convo went like this:
(P.S. this gets really long...)
Him: Maybe. What are you wearing?
Me: what? are you serious? haha none of your business!
Him: Yeah, well since I got to be at work all night send some pics to me.
Me: im grungy from my bike ride
Him: Aight so take them from the shower
Me: um no.
Him: Aight that's cool.
Him: Why not? Lol!
This is where it gets reeeeally weird..
Him: Sorry bout that dear, my friend at work, earl, thought that he was being funny. That's what I get for leaving the phone in the department.
Him: You should already know that I wouldn't ask for nude pics of you in the shower.
Him: You mad or something?
So, at this point, I don't know if I'm mad or not, but I'm definitely weirded out. And I told him that. Well then he doesn't get why I'm weirded out, and he's like "wtf?" and I'm seriously going HELLO! "my friend earl" sounds like a really shady excuse. Like you did something rude, and are trying to back out of it. I told him I was having a hard time buying it. In response to this, he threw a mini fit. Which was really just a prologue to the big fit that was about to come.
Him: Well...I'm sorry you feel that way. Sorry that you think I'm a shady person. Goodnight, I will no longer be bothering you.
Uhhhhh....okay? I was like, "omg calm down." I told him it was a weird little exchange and I have every right to be a little skeptical. And then this came...
Him: That's all I get from you! I'm full of shit! I'm sneaky! I'm playing both of two girls! I'm shady! You always think there's something up! What do you expect?
Him: Really tho...I'm gonna let you think about that one. I'm not mad...I just feel like that's all I get and I really don't wanna feel like someone thinks I'm some kind of an asshole.
Him: I know it's lame but that's just how I feel. You're making it too hard.
Him: And one last note, by too hard, I mean...not sex or trying to get into your pants or anything, but just a little closer to you.
Him: Anyhow, I'm sure you won't respond to this...so...oh well...never mind. Goodnight.
Um. Wow. I was kind of like....blown away. I felt bad, but at the same time I felt like he was kind of overreacting. Maybe being a bit sensitive. So I was like, I'm sorry, I don't mean to offend you, most of the time I'm only joking...but it really was weird and I really was a little skeptical, I'm sorry. It's the human in me I guess. I told him I was sorry for being difficult, but I have a few trust issues, especially when first getting to know someone. Especially a guy. I told him I've always been hard to get close too, and it's probably because I think everyone has some ulterior motive for wanting to know me. I told him I was either a really paranoid individual, or just very self centered and I think everyone is out to get me. I let him know that I'm a very insecure person, and this also plays a part in my inability to let my guard down. He said...
Him: Well maybe its just me...but I'm gonna chill a bit. Sleep on it. And we'll talk soon...maybe. I really don't feel like talking, sorry. The next time I work is on Tuesday, so maybe we'll talk then. Maybe. Good night.
Fucking aaaaa. Are you seriously that sensitive?? I mean...I don't get it, was I being a total bitch?? Was it wrong of me to be skeptical of the "my friend earl" thing?? I don't know. I feel like a tool about all of this though. Because then I told him that I thought he was being sensitive, and it's really not that big of a deal. And he was like "oh well that proves it doesn't matter to you at all, waa waaa waa" oh my god. I really didn't know what to think. Like this guy is 30, and it felt like he was being really childish, but at the same time I was questioning whether or not I was being insensitive. Mostly I was just over it, I was like "ya know, I don't really wanna talk about this anymore either. I'll talk to you whenever. Night." and he was cool with that. So I went to bed all confused and weirded out and not really sure what was going on. Like, were we in a fight??
Anyway, he sent me a text this morning saying "Sorry hun" ...uh what? I was like "can we be done fighting now?" and he had moooooore to say about it.
Him: I just feel like I do really good and that I try to make people happy. I don't like to be brought down or made to feel like I'm wasting my time.
Him: No ulterior motives here, but if you feel that way then don't waste my time.
Him: That's all I'm gonna say about that.
I kinda felt like he was saying "fuck your trust issues, you're wasting my time" with that. But I let it slide. I was just like, whatever that's cool. I guess you gotta work for it if you want it. If you can't put up with the trust issues, and if you don't really care enough to work at it and find out what's behind it, then I really don't want to waste your time or mine. If you decide that you want to waste a little more of your precious time being patient and just taking things slow, then you know where to reach me.
He didn't text me back after that until just now. "Home from work now, going to bed. Call you tomorrow."
Oh my goddddddddddd. This is crazy. I need advice, ladies. Am I being an insensitive bitch?? Am I being too judgmental or not giving him a fair chance?? Or is he being really over-sensitive right now??
Okay wait, back story: We've been hanging out in the SMMC parking lot most nights that he works, playing guitar and talking. It's been fun, but I've still been very careful about it all. I haven't gotten too close and I won't let him get very close either, and he's definitely been trying to. The other night he asked what I my thoughts were on "this whole thing we got going on" and I simply said, "no complaints" with a shrug and smile. He made some comment about how I'm very good at being evasive. Whatever. Oh, andddd Katie had made a comment that I mentioned to him, something about how she thinks he's playing both of us (me and Katie). He asked what I thought, and I made a little joke about how I don't really know him, it's possible he's playing many girls. He kinda got offended by this, and I took it back cause I didn't really mean it in the first place. And I'm bad at taking compliments, so I think I made a joke once about how I think he's full of shit and just trying to get into my pants. BUT IT WAS A JOKE! Anyway, I took that one back too, but this guy has been saving these little "jokes" up.
SO. What had happened was, I texted him and asked if he was working in Lancaster, cause if he wasn't I'd go visit him. He texted back saying "yeah I am, why do you miss this handsome boy?" which was a little weird to me, but oh well. I texted back, and the convo went like this:
(P.S. this gets really long...)
Him: Maybe. What are you wearing?
Me: what? are you serious? haha none of your business!
Him: Yeah, well since I got to be at work all night send some pics to me.
Me: im grungy from my bike ride
Him: Aight so take them from the shower
Me: um no.
Him: Aight that's cool.
Him: Why not? Lol!
This is where it gets reeeeally weird..
Him: Sorry bout that dear, my friend at work, earl, thought that he was being funny. That's what I get for leaving the phone in the department.
Him: You should already know that I wouldn't ask for nude pics of you in the shower.
Him: You mad or something?
So, at this point, I don't know if I'm mad or not, but I'm definitely weirded out. And I told him that. Well then he doesn't get why I'm weirded out, and he's like "wtf?" and I'm seriously going HELLO! "my friend earl" sounds like a really shady excuse. Like you did something rude, and are trying to back out of it. I told him I was having a hard time buying it. In response to this, he threw a mini fit. Which was really just a prologue to the big fit that was about to come.
Him: Well...I'm sorry you feel that way. Sorry that you think I'm a shady person. Goodnight, I will no longer be bothering you.
Uhhhhh....okay? I was like, "omg calm down." I told him it was a weird little exchange and I have every right to be a little skeptical. And then this came...
Him: That's all I get from you! I'm full of shit! I'm sneaky! I'm playing both of two girls! I'm shady! You always think there's something up! What do you expect?
Him: Really tho...I'm gonna let you think about that one. I'm not mad...I just feel like that's all I get and I really don't wanna feel like someone thinks I'm some kind of an asshole.
Him: I know it's lame but that's just how I feel. You're making it too hard.
Him: And one last note, by too hard, I mean...not sex or trying to get into your pants or anything, but just a little closer to you.
Him: Anyhow, I'm sure you won't respond to this...so...oh well...never mind. Goodnight.
Um. Wow. I was kind of like....blown away. I felt bad, but at the same time I felt like he was kind of overreacting. Maybe being a bit sensitive. So I was like, I'm sorry, I don't mean to offend you, most of the time I'm only joking...but it really was weird and I really was a little skeptical, I'm sorry. It's the human in me I guess. I told him I was sorry for being difficult, but I have a few trust issues, especially when first getting to know someone. Especially a guy. I told him I've always been hard to get close too, and it's probably because I think everyone has some ulterior motive for wanting to know me. I told him I was either a really paranoid individual, or just very self centered and I think everyone is out to get me. I let him know that I'm a very insecure person, and this also plays a part in my inability to let my guard down. He said...
Him: Well maybe its just me...but I'm gonna chill a bit. Sleep on it. And we'll talk soon...maybe. I really don't feel like talking, sorry. The next time I work is on Tuesday, so maybe we'll talk then. Maybe. Good night.
Fucking aaaaa. Are you seriously that sensitive?? I mean...I don't get it, was I being a total bitch?? Was it wrong of me to be skeptical of the "my friend earl" thing?? I don't know. I feel like a tool about all of this though. Because then I told him that I thought he was being sensitive, and it's really not that big of a deal. And he was like "oh well that proves it doesn't matter to you at all, waa waaa waa" oh my god. I really didn't know what to think. Like this guy is 30, and it felt like he was being really childish, but at the same time I was questioning whether or not I was being insensitive. Mostly I was just over it, I was like "ya know, I don't really wanna talk about this anymore either. I'll talk to you whenever. Night." and he was cool with that. So I went to bed all confused and weirded out and not really sure what was going on. Like, were we in a fight??
Anyway, he sent me a text this morning saying "Sorry hun" ...uh what? I was like "can we be done fighting now?" and he had moooooore to say about it.
Him: I just feel like I do really good and that I try to make people happy. I don't like to be brought down or made to feel like I'm wasting my time.
Him: No ulterior motives here, but if you feel that way then don't waste my time.
Him: That's all I'm gonna say about that.
I kinda felt like he was saying "fuck your trust issues, you're wasting my time" with that. But I let it slide. I was just like, whatever that's cool. I guess you gotta work for it if you want it. If you can't put up with the trust issues, and if you don't really care enough to work at it and find out what's behind it, then I really don't want to waste your time or mine. If you decide that you want to waste a little more of your precious time being patient and just taking things slow, then you know where to reach me.
He didn't text me back after that until just now. "Home from work now, going to bed. Call you tomorrow."
Oh my goddddddddddd. This is crazy. I need advice, ladies. Am I being an insensitive bitch?? Am I being too judgmental or not giving him a fair chance?? Or is he being really over-sensitive right now??