Keeping this public... for all you stalkers out there ;)
Wanting asked:
What is your ultimate . . . . haha no uhm hmmmm. . . . something I don't already know . . . Which of the labels that people have placed on you (female, daughter, sister, bi, lesbian, loud friend, girlfriend, friend, lover, student, employee etc.) do you either identify with or find more comfort/strength in? Why? Do you have a hero? Who? Why?
I dont think that we should be placed in permanent boxes. I think that while I identify now as certain things, I will not always see those things in me. I am more female now than I have been in the past. I am no longer a student, I am in a committed relationship with a woman so therefor am not a practicing bisexual... labels are for those who dont really know you. Those who you want to tell something about yourself in a small way. Later you expound upon those things and find that really, that label was just a placeholder and that you dont really fit into a box. Because no one does, neatly. I find strength in good sister, proud queer, amazing lover, good daughter, good friend... I find strength in knowing who I am without having to pick a bunch of adjectives and nouns. I find strength in what makes my head bigger, like most. I think that the parts of me that make me are what makes me confident, rather than looks. I always wanted to be the best at everything growing up and I have the humility to see that I will fall short of that goal and do on a regular basis. But the more things I can attach to myself, the less of a label I fit into... no box for me please.
As far as a hero...I think that my mom is my hero and possibly her mother before her. Strong people who know what they want and make it happen despite people saying no, you cant do that or no, that wont work and then succeeding..those people are the people I look up to. I tend to stop when I see hardships and only do what is comfortable so anyone who goes outside of their compfort zone to make things happen... I look up to them.
I hope I aswered your question without being too vague.
What is your ultimate . . . . haha no uhm hmmmm. . . . something I don't already know . . . Which of the labels that people have placed on you (female, daughter, sister, bi, lesbian, loud friend, girlfriend, friend, lover, student, employee etc.) do you either identify with or find more comfort/strength in? Why? Do you have a hero? Who? Why?
I dont think that we should be placed in permanent boxes. I think that while I identify now as certain things, I will not always see those things in me. I am more female now than I have been in the past. I am no longer a student, I am in a committed relationship with a woman so therefor am not a practicing bisexual... labels are for those who dont really know you. Those who you want to tell something about yourself in a small way. Later you expound upon those things and find that really, that label was just a placeholder and that you dont really fit into a box. Because no one does, neatly. I find strength in good sister, proud queer, amazing lover, good daughter, good friend... I find strength in knowing who I am without having to pick a bunch of adjectives and nouns. I find strength in what makes my head bigger, like most. I think that the parts of me that make me are what makes me confident, rather than looks. I always wanted to be the best at everything growing up and I have the humility to see that I will fall short of that goal and do on a regular basis. But the more things I can attach to myself, the less of a label I fit into... no box for me please.
As far as a hero...I think that my mom is my hero and possibly her mother before her. Strong people who know what they want and make it happen despite people saying no, you cant do that or no, that wont work and then succeeding..those people are the people I look up to. I tend to stop when I see hardships and only do what is comfortable so anyone who goes outside of their compfort zone to make things happen... I look up to them.
I hope I aswered your question without being too vague.