Charm School
Oooh today while I was snooping around my sister's room I came across this very interesting book! Hehehe, so I have taken the liberty to type some of it up for you people to read :) Any pink text is erm, my input. Hehehe xP
Excerpts from CHARM SCHOOL by Kathy Buchanan ; Penguin Books
WHO SHOULD ASK WHO OUT ON A DATE?
The good news is that there are no rules. Look, if you're a confident girl who likes to take control, then go ahead. Get out there, collect guys' numbers and ask them out. Date five men at a time if you feel like it.
Are you are more traditional girl who would rather drink vinegar than put herself on the line? HAHA, that's me alright. Then asking men out probably won't be your style. That's okay, but in the current, competitive dating scene, you need to let guys know you're interested. Men are just as confused as we are about the dating game, so if you act all 1950s coy and ignore him, then unfortunately - and not that surprisingly - he'll most likely move on to a friendlier girl and you'll lose your chance.
Guys don't like getting rejected any more than we do. Aawhhh, that is so cute x') Don't throw yourself at him, but you do need to send him some 'yes I AM interested' vibes by smilling, gently flirting and doing little things like casually touching his arm. He'll be much more likely to ask you out if he's at least pretty sure that you'll say yes.
If you're stuck in the unfortunately all-too-familiar-to-most-of-us 'What if he doesn't know that I like him and he secretly likes me?' scenario, okay girl, go forth, be friendly, and make your feelings a little obvious. However, if you don't get a good response, then don't try to delude yourself into thinking that he's 'just shy'.
No man is so lacking in confidence that he won't make some sort of move if he's keen and thinks you are too. If you kid yourself into believing any differently, then you're asking for heartbreak and you'll probably get it.
ASKING YOUR BOYFRIEND, 'DO YOU THINK SHE'S PRETTY?'
You catch him staring at another girl. He probably does think she's attractive, but remember he's with you, not your friend or the girl in the lingerie advertisement with perfect boobs. Don't cause trouble where there isn't any, and be fair about it. Can you honestly say that you don't find any man other than your boyfriend attractive? Hahaha *hides*
Some guys are just like that, and there's usually no changing them. If the poor guy just happened to glance at a woman as she was walking by, give him a break and get control of yourself. Out of all the beautiful women out there he chose to be with you. That should be enough. That is so very very true .__.'
YOUR BOYFRIEND IS JEALOUS OF YOUR BOY 'FRIEND'
Be sensitive to the fact that your partner will want to be the one you turn to when something important happens in your life. If you always call your male pal before your boyfriend then he probably does have cause to worry. It may not be fair, but most men don't like their girlfriends to have very close male friends and vice versa. Nah, I fully agree with this!
No boyfriend wants privileged, personal, or intimate information disclosed to a third party, especially to another guy. If you've got something you want to discuss, then talk to your partner about it before telling your male buddy and you'll avoid complications. You have every right to have close male friends, especially if you are up-front with your boyfriend about it. But if you're in a serious relationship then your boyfriend should be number one. For sure! Derrick is my number one ^__^
Excerpts from CHARM SCHOOL by Kathy Buchanan ; Penguin Books
WHO SHOULD ASK WHO OUT ON A DATE?
The good news is that there are no rules. Look, if you're a confident girl who likes to take control, then go ahead. Get out there, collect guys' numbers and ask them out. Date five men at a time if you feel like it.
Are you are more traditional girl who would rather drink vinegar than put herself on the line? HAHA, that's me alright. Then asking men out probably won't be your style. That's okay, but in the current, competitive dating scene, you need to let guys know you're interested. Men are just as confused as we are about the dating game, so if you act all 1950s coy and ignore him, then unfortunately - and not that surprisingly - he'll most likely move on to a friendlier girl and you'll lose your chance.
Guys don't like getting rejected any more than we do. Aawhhh, that is so cute x') Don't throw yourself at him, but you do need to send him some 'yes I AM interested' vibes by smilling, gently flirting and doing little things like casually touching his arm. He'll be much more likely to ask you out if he's at least pretty sure that you'll say yes.
If you're stuck in the unfortunately all-too-familiar-to-most-of-us 'What if he doesn't know that I like him and he secretly likes me?' scenario, okay girl, go forth, be friendly, and make your feelings a little obvious. However, if you don't get a good response, then don't try to delude yourself into thinking that he's 'just shy'.
No man is so lacking in confidence that he won't make some sort of move if he's keen and thinks you are too. If you kid yourself into believing any differently, then you're asking for heartbreak and you'll probably get it.
ASKING YOUR BOYFRIEND, 'DO YOU THINK SHE'S PRETTY?'
You catch him staring at another girl. He probably does think she's attractive, but remember he's with you, not your friend or the girl in the lingerie advertisement with perfect boobs. Don't cause trouble where there isn't any, and be fair about it. Can you honestly say that you don't find any man other than your boyfriend attractive? Hahaha *hides*
Some guys are just like that, and there's usually no changing them. If the poor guy just happened to glance at a woman as she was walking by, give him a break and get control of yourself. Out of all the beautiful women out there he chose to be with you. That should be enough. That is so very very true .__.'
YOUR BOYFRIEND IS JEALOUS OF YOUR BOY 'FRIEND'
Be sensitive to the fact that your partner will want to be the one you turn to when something important happens in your life. If you always call your male pal before your boyfriend then he probably does have cause to worry. It may not be fair, but most men don't like their girlfriends to have very close male friends and vice versa. Nah, I fully agree with this!
No boyfriend wants privileged, personal, or intimate information disclosed to a third party, especially to another guy. If you've got something you want to discuss, then talk to your partner about it before telling your male buddy and you'll avoid complications. You have every right to have close male friends, especially if you are up-front with your boyfriend about it. But if you're in a serious relationship then your boyfriend should be number one. For sure! Derrick is my number one ^__^