OPINION ALERT :: ((Take it with whatever amount of importance that you wish))
In my experience in college, there are two types of people. People who have to work for friendship, and people who don't. There are reasons behind having to not work to find good friends, for example, attending activities that people with similar interests would attend, or in the case of a few people I know, pure luck. It's never a sure thing that you'll meet people that you really "click" with, but the more you work at it, the better the chances are, right? I mean it's simple math. The only way to increase the probability that something will happen is to increase the number of times that you make an attempt.
The biggest help that I've seen in this principle is dorm living. If you live in an apartment (I now live in an apartment style living situation), it is very easy to become closed off from the rest of campus life unless you put deliberate effort into meeting people. Dorm living sort of forces you to at least become acquainted with lots of other people who are relatively the same age/major/graduating class as you (depending on theme housing or not). I, myself, became a hermit, of sorts, and the effects of such a decision can still be seen today. I'm not saying I regret doing anything that I have, but knowing what happened can be important for anyone that cares.
After I met a few people that shared a few similarities with me, I basically stopped searching for new people to meet. As time progressed, as it has for you, I realized that these people were nothing like those who I would normally hang around with back at home. In fact, I soon realized that while we had a few similarities, it turned out we were complete opposites in a lot of other places -- the ones that I valued the most. So it turns out that those "friends" weren't the best choice afterall. Unfortunately for me, since I stopped trying to meet people, established friendships between others on campus began to flourish while I was just left behind.
So to get to the point (which I'm sure by now you've picked up on), the only way you'll be able to get those people who will debate with you, those people who you can talk to for hours, is to actually go out there and meet a lot of people you don't like.
Afterall, what good is accomplishment if you don't know what failure is?
In my experience in college, there are two types of people. People who have to work for friendship, and people who don't. There are reasons behind having to not work to find good friends, for example, attending activities that people with similar interests would attend, or in the case of a few people I know, pure luck. It's never a sure thing that you'll meet people that you really "click" with, but the more you work at it, the better the chances are, right? I mean it's simple math. The only way to increase the probability that something will happen is to increase the number of times that you make an attempt.
The biggest help that I've seen in this principle is dorm living. If you live in an apartment (I now live in an apartment style living situation), it is very easy to become closed off from the rest of campus life unless you put deliberate effort into meeting people. Dorm living sort of forces you to at least become acquainted with lots of other people who are relatively the same age/major/graduating class as you (depending on theme housing or not). I, myself, became a hermit, of sorts, and the effects of such a decision can still be seen today. I'm not saying I regret doing anything that I have, but knowing what happened can be important for anyone that cares.
After I met a few people that shared a few similarities with me, I basically stopped searching for new people to meet. As time progressed, as it has for you, I realized that these people were nothing like those who I would normally hang around with back at home. In fact, I soon realized that while we had a few similarities, it turned out we were complete opposites in a lot of other places -- the ones that I valued the most. So it turns out that those "friends" weren't the best choice afterall. Unfortunately for me, since I stopped trying to meet people, established friendships between others on campus began to flourish while I was just left behind.
So to get to the point (which I'm sure by now you've picked up on), the only way you'll be able to get those people who will debate with you, those people who you can talk to for hours, is to actually go out there and meet a lot of people you don't like.
Afterall, what good is accomplishment if you don't know what failure is?
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