Second part of my last post... That would post as one post...
At some point he got grounded for 3 months from the computer and all electronics. His father had asked him if he'd ever tried pot, and Nicky said that he had. So yes, the lesson here is that you should lie, because telling the truth would get you grounded. They micromanaged him during this time, and I didn't even get to talk to him more than once or twice in that entire time. And then they were in the same room as him listening in and commenting in the background. After he finally got ungrounded he was still trying to tell me what had been happening down there. It's been difficult because they have him under constant surveillance like a prisoner in jail.
Nicky went back up to NJ for the past month. His father and my other brother apparently set up this trip, but they never told my mother (who is the actual custodial parent) and they never told my grandparents. Considering that Nicky was supposed to be staying with my grandparents, I was pretty freaked out. I made a giant stink. My whole family and a bunch of family friends knew what was going on within a few hours. Which is great, because I was seriously worried that Nicky was just going to "disappear" or they'd say that he ran away and god only knows what that sick fucker (his father) would have done with him.
Nicky's been talking to my Aunts and my Grandmother. He's been having such a good time bopping around with friends and just being a 16 year old boy that he hasn't had much time to talk to me. My Aunt contacted me this morning because she said Nicky is not doing well. He was in the bathroom retching and puking for hours. He'd had a noticeable change in personality. She said that he's been an absolute pleasure this entire time, and all of the sudden he's picking fights with her, being insulting, and just not behaving like himself. I saw this same behavior directly before he left here last year. He's supposed to be going back to Florida on Saturday.
It's obvious to me that he is working up towards another full-blown panic attack and possibly a psychotic break. The few things I've gleaned about what's going on have really decided my future actions from here on out. Shortly before Nicky left for NJ, he was fixing the lawnmower. Apparently he wasn't going fast enough for his father, who walked past him and casually CHUCKED A FUCKING HAMMER AT NICKY. He missed, but only just. My Aunt is now witness to this, as is my grandmother, and he's told them what has been happening as well.
I'm going to make sure that he has a place to go, and offer whatever financial support I need to. I'm going to find out what his opinion is on the matter. And I'm contacting my mother and telling her that I do not want him going back down there. And if they insisted on him coming back down there, that I was going to contact DYFS. I'd rather not deal with them if I don't have to, because they royally suck. But I have enough proof on my side, including mine and my other siblings DYFS files up in NJ, and the fact that her ex-husband not only is an abusive fuck, but has violated a court order, and stolen nearly $60,000 from my other brother's trust fund. And because she has known that this was going on and has done nothing to fix, improve, or otherwise change the situation, nor has she ever once tried to protect her children from that asshole, she will probably have charges against her as well. Luckily for Nicky, the history of clear abuse from when I was a kid will be seen in a different light these days. Shit that was perfectly acceptable or ignored back then is now a huge red flag for abuse. And you're damn straight I will testify against them on my brother's behalf.
Regardless of their response, this shit stops now. This comes out into the open down. They have been behaving this way for damn near 30 years and they think there is nothing wrong with it. They will never stop. I can't stay silent anymore, even if Nicky wants me to. I have had it. They need to be shamed. They need to be punished. But I'll settle for just getting Nicky the hell out of there. If I could have kept him last summer, I would have, in a heartbeat.
I will, a little later, write up a list of things that have been done to my youngest brother. I can even split it up by occurrences per parent. I am seriously considering emailing this to every family member that I have, if not putting it in a note on Facebook for them all to see.
Any advice, or comments, you guys? Because honestly, I've been shaking since my Aunt contacted me this morning. I am so incredibly angry.
Nicky went back up to NJ for the past month. His father and my other brother apparently set up this trip, but they never told my mother (who is the actual custodial parent) and they never told my grandparents. Considering that Nicky was supposed to be staying with my grandparents, I was pretty freaked out. I made a giant stink. My whole family and a bunch of family friends knew what was going on within a few hours. Which is great, because I was seriously worried that Nicky was just going to "disappear" or they'd say that he ran away and god only knows what that sick fucker (his father) would have done with him.
Nicky's been talking to my Aunts and my Grandmother. He's been having such a good time bopping around with friends and just being a 16 year old boy that he hasn't had much time to talk to me. My Aunt contacted me this morning because she said Nicky is not doing well. He was in the bathroom retching and puking for hours. He'd had a noticeable change in personality. She said that he's been an absolute pleasure this entire time, and all of the sudden he's picking fights with her, being insulting, and just not behaving like himself. I saw this same behavior directly before he left here last year. He's supposed to be going back to Florida on Saturday.
It's obvious to me that he is working up towards another full-blown panic attack and possibly a psychotic break. The few things I've gleaned about what's going on have really decided my future actions from here on out. Shortly before Nicky left for NJ, he was fixing the lawnmower. Apparently he wasn't going fast enough for his father, who walked past him and casually CHUCKED A FUCKING HAMMER AT NICKY. He missed, but only just. My Aunt is now witness to this, as is my grandmother, and he's told them what has been happening as well.
I'm going to make sure that he has a place to go, and offer whatever financial support I need to. I'm going to find out what his opinion is on the matter. And I'm contacting my mother and telling her that I do not want him going back down there. And if they insisted on him coming back down there, that I was going to contact DYFS. I'd rather not deal with them if I don't have to, because they royally suck. But I have enough proof on my side, including mine and my other siblings DYFS files up in NJ, and the fact that her ex-husband not only is an abusive fuck, but has violated a court order, and stolen nearly $60,000 from my other brother's trust fund. And because she has known that this was going on and has done nothing to fix, improve, or otherwise change the situation, nor has she ever once tried to protect her children from that asshole, she will probably have charges against her as well. Luckily for Nicky, the history of clear abuse from when I was a kid will be seen in a different light these days. Shit that was perfectly acceptable or ignored back then is now a huge red flag for abuse. And you're damn straight I will testify against them on my brother's behalf.
Regardless of their response, this shit stops now. This comes out into the open down. They have been behaving this way for damn near 30 years and they think there is nothing wrong with it. They will never stop. I can't stay silent anymore, even if Nicky wants me to. I have had it. They need to be shamed. They need to be punished. But I'll settle for just getting Nicky the hell out of there. If I could have kept him last summer, I would have, in a heartbeat.
I will, a little later, write up a list of things that have been done to my youngest brother. I can even split it up by occurrences per parent. I am seriously considering emailing this to every family member that I have, if not putting it in a note on Facebook for them all to see.
Any advice, or comments, you guys? Because honestly, I've been shaking since my Aunt contacted me this morning. I am so incredibly angry.