Comments | kayc428: the perfect present

kayc428

the perfect present

Sep 13, 2005 19:56

I started thinking about tense relationships..and by that i mean a relationship and its connection to the past, present, and future tense. At a certain age, weve all had relationships that are far from past perfect. But how much does that past relationship effect our dream of a future perfect. As i became more and more tense, i couldnt help but ( Read more... )

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felixarmada September 14 2005, 06:21:06 UTC

The answer is yes but the past is going to slow you down. Depending on how much of it is present or the intesity of it. You'll always be moving forward. Time does not stop and has no direction. Cheers!

kayc428 September 15 2005, 08:38:24 UTC

i agree but i agree we are always moving forward but i believe that holding on to our past too much can make things never change... hi tim you fucking fuck =)

felixarmada September 15 2005, 10:59:47 UTC

If you're holding on too much, you just won't see the changes because they'll be that insignificant.

Speaking of the past... why'd you stop talking to me?! Jerk. haha are you still all up on the myspace.

kayc428 September 18 2005, 20:19:34 UTC

its not that i stopped talking to you.. i just moved to san diego and ive been really busy. and yeah i still have one

thumper1179 September 14 2005, 17:15:20 UTC

I don't think we can move onto a perfect future without incorporating our past. "Those who forget the past are doomed to repeat it." Those tense relationships and shortcomings in the past help teach us how to deal with our future one's and help us learn to appreciate when we truly find something worthwhile. I don't think you can be successful in the present living in the past, but that's a far cry from disregarding it. So don't go giving up any hope just yet Ms. Jenna. Questioning the process as you're doing is usually a means to help mend the problem. You're going to be just fine in the long run.

kayc428 September 15 2005, 08:43:18 UTC

true true but when the past is present as in still in our lives not just in our memories. and me, giving up hope? never
i havent talked to you in forever but it sounds like you doing well!

thumper1179 September 15 2005, 15:35:41 UTC

Since we'll continue to speak metaphorically about said past "person", I would say that if the past is holding you in the past and preventing you from moving on to the present, you need to do what you need to do in order to be happy and move on. That may include temporarily cutting ties or contact altogether. But if you just mean the past is simply still effecting you but no longer in your life, the only tell tale cure for that is time unfortunately. Time to heal, time to get back to the person you really are, because the real you isn't a wounded person, nor a victim, nor someone incapable of doing what needs to be done, even if difficult to be happy.

And yes, it has been WAY too long since I've really talked to you. I thought you'd completely disappeared for a time and honestly have no idea what's going on with you anymore (living sit, school, work, guys, etc). But it seems you're getting more active on here again so I can try and keep a tab on you again. :)