Booooo what a sappy sap sap blog entry! You know what? You were probably asking the wrong kind of girls out. Who were these girls, and why were you interested in them? Did they really get to know you besides the casual "hi" or "did you do this assignment for so-and-so's class?" Did you really get to know them to catch the fact that they were probably already shallow to begin with? Or maybe your approach was off? Were you extremely shy or awkward... did you come on too strong? Or maybe they just weren't that interested, and that's okay too. You can't blame them if you weren't their type... they probably weren't really yours either. And it was probably for the best. But don't taint all of V-day because of it.
I had similar experiences in all grade levels too.... I mean I despised Valentines Day. Cuz' like you said, all it did was exemplify that you were a social outcast. I was the girl who stood on the wall or never attended the party... and I was the girl who never was asked out... well at least not by anyone I liked. And when I started doing the asking I always got rejected...
But I didn't give up. I just started to look at "love" differently.
In fact, I remember that my daddy was my Valentine every year until I moved out of the house. Every year he would buy my mom and I Reese cups that were packaged inside a heart shaped box. And I would be so happy because I thought to myself, at least my daddy loved me :) What other man do you need really? And I'm sure your girls feel the same way.
Remember, sometimes it's not the love we share with a romantic partner but the love we share with those we love. It's all about perspective.
So do like I do, if no one's gonna love you, love yourself! I realized a few years ago, I don't need a man to make my Valentine's. Like I've said before, the best V-days I've had as an adult didn't involve a man. I was with my friends. We went out to dinner and a movie. If your friends are coupled up, treat yourself. Engage in the things you want to do. Like for instance I may go and get a pedicure... or do my hair... or when I go out with Gwen, I may dress up and look hot just to make myself feel good.
And if all else fails, if you're still willing... maybe you could be my Valentine??? I didn't think I was already out of the picture for you not to consider me :)
*GASP* No! You weren't ever out of the picture for me, I just thought that you might feel awkward or something. As for the other people who knows, as a kid and in my middle school and high school times yeah I was a shy person, can't be helped. But I really don't think my approach during those times was bad unless those girls expected to be asked in a crude manner.
I really haven't given up on the V-day, I've always looked at love from a different perspective by treating my kids out to a special Valentines meal or or something. So yeah I have done other things. But also on the "basic human instinct" perspective people are people and will always desire that higher level of companionship from someone closer to them...it's a basic human behavior everyone goes through it. :P
I had similar experiences in all grade levels too.... I mean I despised Valentines Day. Cuz' like you said, all it did was exemplify that you were a social outcast. I was the girl who stood on the wall or never attended the party... and I was the girl who never was asked out... well at least not by anyone I liked. And when I started doing the asking I always got rejected...
But I didn't give up. I just started to look at "love" differently.
In fact, I remember that my daddy was my Valentine every year until I moved out of the house. Every year he would buy my mom and I Reese cups that were packaged inside a heart shaped box. And I would be so happy because I thought to myself, at least my daddy loved me :) What other man do you need really? And I'm sure your girls feel the same way.
Remember, sometimes it's not the love we share with a romantic partner but the love we share with those we love. It's all about perspective.
So do like I do, if no one's gonna love you, love yourself! I realized a few years ago, I don't need a man to make my Valentine's. Like I've said before, the best V-days I've had as an adult didn't involve a man. I was with my friends. We went out to dinner and a movie. If your friends are coupled up, treat yourself. Engage in the things you want to do. Like for instance I may go and get a pedicure... or do my hair... or when I go out with Gwen, I may dress up and look hot just to make myself feel good.
And if all else fails, if you're still willing... maybe you could be my Valentine??? I didn't think I was already out of the picture for you not to consider me :)
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I really haven't given up on the V-day, I've always looked at love from a different perspective by treating my kids out to a special Valentines meal or or something. So yeah I have done other things. But also on the "basic human instinct" perspective people are people and will always desire that higher level of companionship from someone closer to them...it's a basic human behavior everyone goes through it. :P
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