I don't know what to do

[katyism]

Over the last 6 weeks or so, my cat's health has deteriorated. It became obvious that he has gone completely deaf. Then, he started being picky about food, and lost a lot of weight. I made plans to take him to see the vet, but then I lost my job (they found out about my credit card theft misdemeanor) at the beginning of this month.

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[katyism]

thank you. what are you doing up this late?

i don't think he's that abusive... i did mention how whatever happened with his own cat is clearly affecting how he feels about this situation, and how that experience was a kind of growth,a nd he ccan't expect me to have the same level of maturity or growth as he does, in that respect, and it's not realistic or nice for him to expect me to just be totally logical and humane and decisive. of course i want to be humane. i don't know that he's in pain or if he is, how much. scott agreed to go back to the vet tomrorow and voice his opinion on the matter vs. mine in front of the vet... not fair to the doctor, i mean the doctors have some traning for a dialogue to handle the "should i euthaize" discussion, but probably not to do that in addition to mediating an argument between a couple about it and i don't wan tto put that stresson the vet, but.... i think it's best if we have sort of unbiased person to fill in the medical and prognosis details before scott tells me again to just buck up. at the very least i want them to force feed and IV the cat. they're only doing it to get him strong enough to do more tests to confirm what's wrong.a nd i know it's organ failure of one type or another. and i know i can't fix that. i just want him to come home after being in intensive care for a while and be able to sleep in my armpit and purr one last night. i wasn't prepared to just turn him over to the vet's disposal for good, as scott suggested.

bah.

i should sleep so we can go there tomrrow and not be complete messes in front of the vet. at least he agreed to go with me and listen to what they ahve to say instead of just judging for himself what i should do with my cat.

[faerie]

I think you made the right choice. Even if the prognosis is grim, at least the vet can make him comfortable and get him stabilized.