Actually, the things you say and do can fix things, and that is exactly the "how" you are missing. Be honest. Be present in people's lives. Let them decide if you are "worth" spending time with, don't assume it for them. You do them a disservice by forcing them away unnecssarily.
You are also missing a critical step in the healing process, and that is that you heal yourself by healing others. It might seem your instinct to be ashamed to ask for more help. It might seem unfair for you to keep asking for support. Have you considered, though, that giving someone the chance to help you with healing gives THEM strength? Makes them feel good, empowered, vital in your life and therefore valued and vital in their own? Don't deny good people the chance to do good. Let them decide when they've given enough. The strongest relationships are built on the rapport of the simple joy of giving to one another. Time. Attention. Devotion.
In short, look at who in your life wants you and needs you simply because you are YOU. Then look at what you have to give, and if they deserve it, give it to them. Repeat.
You are also missing a critical step in the healing process, and that is that you heal yourself by healing others. It might seem your instinct to be ashamed to ask for more help. It might seem unfair for you to keep asking for support. Have you considered, though, that giving someone the chance to help you with healing gives THEM strength? Makes them feel good, empowered, vital in your life and therefore valued and vital in their own? Don't deny good people the chance to do good. Let them decide when they've given enough. The strongest relationships are built on the rapport of the simple joy of giving to one another. Time. Attention. Devotion.
In short, look at who in your life wants you and needs you simply because you are YOU. Then look at what you have to give, and if they deserve it, give it to them. Repeat.
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