there are some things guys should always do for girls. period.
this is actually a group on facebook created by GUYS (i have to admit, i was shocked) to help clue in some of their more clueless compadres. that and it's pretty awesome in and of itself.
0. There are exceptions to this list. The exception is when you actually talk to the female(s) and she/they say something different than what is said down this list. These suggestions are not final, they're just here to help you get a start at being a real man.
1. Open doors, whether it be to a building or a car, that's just a given.
2. When in a place of worship (or other places that have aisles and pews), if a man is at the end of the pew, when exiting he should stand in the aisle and let all the females go before him. (this seems odd to some people, yet normal for others. if you don't get it, don't worry about it, okay?)
3. A man should tolerate the occassional chick flick, musical, opera, or ballet - whatever her preference is - *without* complaining about it! (because the guy may just like it)
4. Play one of the songs that would make any woman weep like the little girl she once was (but in a good way). A brief list includes, but certainly isn't limited to:
"You & Me" Lifehouse
anything by Frank Sinatra
any rendition of "Everything I Do, I Do it for You"
"Collide" by Howie Day
"Out of my League" Steven Speaks
and MOST IMPORTANTLY "Question" by the Old 97's (if you propose to a girl with this song, she is putty in your hands).
("putty in your hands" is not meant to promote "using women" in any way. this group does not encourage guys to be polite in order to get her into bed.)
5. Talk! The strong & silent bit goes from intriguing to boring quite fast.
6. Find out what her favorite flower is & buy them for her randomly (regardless of the situation you might be in). Good rule of thumb: a single rose says more than dozens of anything else. (i encourage the women to not allow a guy to "prove himself worthy" through gifts and flowers and such. Trust is a precious thing and it should take a good chunk of time before he gains it back in your heart.)
7. If you miss her, or love her, TELL HER! Even your friends like to hear it every now & again.
8. Re-enact Zales commercials (the ice is nice but certainly not mandatory).
9. Remember: the best gifts you can give are usually free of cost.
10. Leave a note (or send a message) just to say "hi".
11. Ask her questions about herself.
12. Dress nice every once & a while. Any girl likes to see her brother/friend/boyfriend/e
tc. in a well-ironed button up with some nice slacks.
13. PRIDE & PREJUDICE ...that's all I have to say about that (I mean, that should speak for itself). (It's even more impressive if he has read the book.)
14. Tolerate small children as best you can. Meaning, put up with the things that can get annoying. They're children after all. Show them love and care, teach them how to become a better man than you. (you were once extremely irritating. get over the obnoxious kids and enjoy getting down to their level - not "for her", but for the good of yourself and others)
15. Learn to dance! There is nothing sexier than a man that can dance really well. If God did not bless you with the grace of Fred Astaire, at least put forth the effort, it will be greatly appreciated. Always slow dance (even if its just like you danced in middle school). Also, men, sing to a lady. Even in you're terrible, suck it up! They love to listen to it and will not care what you sound like. It's the thought that counts on this one. Unless you're just downright terrible, nothing sexy about that. haha, thanks Jade!
16. Kiss her on the forehead.
17. When she's sick, stay up with her. If you can cook (which is *always* a plus), make her some soup. If you can't cook, there's Campbell's soup at hand for you.
18. Pretend to throw her in the pool (or fountain/pond). She'll fight you, but seccretly she loves it. If you really do throw her in, you better jump in yourself. **NOTE** There are some women who just hate this, so you had better do two things: 1) never allow your buddies be a part of it if you're unsure of how she feels about getting thrown in and 2) you had better know how she feels about it!
19. Hold her hand while you talk, drive, or just for the heck of it (it's the small things that win you big points).
20. LOOK IN HER EYES, NOT AT HER CHEST!!!!!
21. Stupid jokes = awkwardly adorable moments.
22. Tickle her, tease her, let her tease you back with out getting all bent out of shape about it
23. Don't call her hot, or pretty, or cute, call her beautiful because that's what she is. (i don't think cute is that bad, but definitely stay away from "hot" and step "pretty" up to beautiful or gorgeous or stunning or captivating or...)
24. Offer her your jacket/sweatshirt. (Note: you may not see that particular item of clothing for a while, if ever again).
25. Don't be too proud to apologize.
26. It's not stalking to watch her sleep if you fall asleep watching a movie. It is stalking to watch her sleep if you're standing outside her window with night vision goggles.
27. When she feels at her worst, tell her she looks her best.
28. If you're trying to get more than friendship out of the relationship, take it slow.
29. Because you're a guy doesn't mean you are completley incapable of calling when you say you will; it just means you are highly incapable of it. There are few acceptable answers to, "Why didn't you call?" & being male is not one of them.
30. Don't check out other girls in front of your girl friends/sisters/mother, unless you are sincere when you later ask them if you think she could introduce the two of you for more reason than you "want to get some". Pull this in front of your girlfriend/fiancee/wife, she has every right to clock you in the jaw.
31. Guys- Always offer to pay for the date. No matter how expensive it gets, especially if YOU asked HER on the date.
32. Always do everything in your power to keep her as happy as you can. And cheer her up in any way possible.
33. When walking on the sidewalk, always walk on the outside near traffic. (so everyone has a different opinion for how this started. for some it's because of the human waste that was getting thrown out the windows with this happening a century ago +. the woman walked under the overhanges extending from the buildings with the guy in the open to take the mess if need be. others say it's from the guy's scabbard/sword being on his left with the woman walking on the right. as for today, it's the traffic and puddles and whatnot. just a courtesy thing if it seems necessary.)
34. At least do everything in your power to keep cursing to a minimum while around her. If you can, cut it out period while around her, or cut it out of your vocabulary. Women don't want to hear it, guys don't care about it, adults don't want to hear it, it doesn't impress employers, and you sure won't want your children or someone elses to hear it!
35. Sometimes you have to take the initiative. don't always wait for her to come to you, because if that's how it always is you're going to lose her.
36. If any lady is walking alone to her car in a dark parking lot/garage, or is carrying a heavy load, always offer to help walk her to her destination and carry things, if not the entire load. (This may work a lot better and come off non-stalkerish if you at least know the girl you're trying to help. haha Thanks to a LOT of people on this revision.)
37. If a woman says no, let that be her final answer. Do not pressure or force her in any way. Don't make her give in to something she doesn't want to do.
38. Always be honest with her. No woman wants or likes a dishonest man. If you can't be honest with her she can't trust you, and shows you don't trust her enough to be honest. Trust, honesty and integrity are just as an integral part of a relationship and just as important as love.
39. A man should always genuinely listen to women; no matter how boring or busy the man is, actively listening to the woman will keep him from pain [and bring the man and woman closer together]. This works best, of course, when both the man and the woman actively and equally engage in conversation (this includes listening). For the ladies reading this, please talk - always talk - especially if you are having problems with the relationship and to also avoid making bigger problems.