Fighting Sexism on the interwebs rotted my brain (Post 4 of 30)

[katekat1010]

I don't mention it often here. Which is weird. But I consider myself almost a radical feminist. (almost, but not quite, because while I do actually believe there is socially institutionalized sexism that can be found pretty much in every part of in my own culture and quite a few others, i actually do like men and believe they can be feminists

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[0_ruthless_0]

Hannibal, huh? I generally try to steer away from fanfic about things I've never considered changing myself

[katekat1010]

re hannibal: i'm definitely only sticking my toes into those waters in part because i agree with you - the show is so fabulous i'm not feeling the fic need. Also though, the fanfic I have so far liked about the show is definitely *really fucked up with a side of fucked up* (because canon, you know?) and i can't read too much of it - it makes my brain go to a weird place. I read a lot of fanfic to keep my faith in humanity, and boy howdy is that not what Hannibal is about

[seldomifever]

I'm not sure if I qualify as a radical feminist - I would say extremely aware feminist cause I do see sexism nearly everywhere - but I do fight the good fight in my own way. I point it out wherever I sees it to my kids and just about everyone else I know. Will I change minds? I think so. Awareness is the first step in changing any behavior. Even if the guy didn't see your pov, something might have seeped in. More power to you, lady. Keep up the good work!

[katekat1010]

Awareness is the first step in changing any behavior.

RIGHT!! i so agree with you so much there!!! omg yes! and you keep fighting the good fight too! i think the toughest part is navigating where personal energy clashes with the desire to, you know, not actually let people get away with thinking they're right - some days it's easier and some days it's harder.

But ultimately it's waaaay better to have done something than nothing at all.

*hugs*

[entrenous88]

I do think hitting that wall of doubt is emotionally exhausting -- and it also seems to be ultimately a tedious expenditure of energy that could be better directed to other things if that one person is still digging their heels in to Men Are Discriminated against Too! land.

HOWEVER, I think it's often great to keep on keepin' on in those public forums, like FB and elsewhere, because while that one asshole may never be convinced, it's a platform to sound out those views for people who might be more persuadable or undecided. So it sucks that you are exhausted, but you know, good on you! <3

[katekat1010]

totally tedious! the only thing i hope is that by being confronted, even if it doesn't happen for years, some little grain of doubt may have been planted in that guy's brain that he's not as right as he thinks he is... it could happen, and even that possibility is worth it.

and OMG you're so right about the visibility thing - even if he doesn't change his mind, someone else might see it and feel comforted.

thanks for the support lady. good on you too - we all do what we can in whatever ways we can, and i think that does make a difference!