Closing a chapter of my life
I always did regret how things turned out between me and Arch. I mean, we had a good relationship for awhile. And then the relationship ended and we didn't notice. And in all reality, we should have broken up then. Everything bad that happened between us was basically because we were too slow to notice that we weren't in love anymore
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In this case, I eventually learned enough about Arch - mostly from a single conversation directly with him - to lose any respect for him I ever had, especially in light of the fact that he chose to vanish shortly after. The end.
I agree with you that Arch and Kat were a horrific mismatch. In light of my most recent opinion on Arch, I'd say he's a horrific mismatch for anything with a pulse, but yeah, Kat specifically. I also agree that letting the past go is the best thing to do. And that Arch has always been among the worst communicators in history, where personal matters are concerned. Mostly, the only thing that I ( ... )
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For myself, I'm not going off one side. In fact, my perception of the whole scenario was colored by trying very hard to make sense of what was going on in a way that didn't make Arch look like a complete asshat. (Not that Kat was trying to make him look bad. Far from it. She always tried to blame herself for screwed up stuff.) It baffled me, but I was determined to give him the benefit of the doubt. And then I had a long conversation with him, focused mainly on trying to talk him out of a bizarre attitude of self-indulgent voluntary martyrdom where he blamed others when the consequences of his behavior conflicted with his goals. Of course, when he found himself actually facing criticism from me, he accused Kat of telling me nasty things about him, and immediately cut all ties to me. This, of course, ( ... )
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That being the case, this is the second time this month that she's gotten on my case about LJ comments that didn't concern her, and I'm tired of it. Also, the subject matter happened to touch on the stupid bullshit I had to put up with back when she was venting to me about stupid shit going on in your relationship. For instance, the way she really painted you as a son of a bitch when she was in one of her moods, and yet I was friends with both of you. You see how this is relevant ( ... )
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I mean, hell, how many times does Sarah mention that she's not trying to offend anyone, that she's saying this out of simple honesty and not wanting to instigate any negative feelings? The only time Sarah mentioned you specifically was to say that you heard something.
Holy shit, you heard something that Kat said! OH MY GOD STOP THE PRESSES IT'S TIME FOR SOME SERIOUS ASS-FUCKIN'
I'm gonna use that from now on. Anytime somebody says "Nate heard you say this," I will literally pounce on that person and eat their flesh.
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If you'd have read a little closer, instead of trying to be a BIG DAMN HERO, you'd have noticed that she referred specifically to the contents of my comment in hers, suggesting that I was slandering someone who had been a friend for no reason. But no, you have to charge to the rescue, just like you always have. Look before you leap, man.
And for fuck's sake - if you absolutely can not wait to address this to me directly, I've logged back on to AIM for a bit. Send me a message, and we can resolve this. DO NOT continue to pollute Kat's journal with this garbage.
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Sarah's my friend, dude, I don't like when people talk shit about her for no real reason. Yeah, she complained a lot when we were going out, but it was kind of for a good reason: I was a shitty boyfriend. You didn't necessarily have to listen to her, and this isn't me being a hero, this is me wanting a bromantic conversation wanting a straight answer out of you ( ... )
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Years ago, I thought of her as a friend. I'm trying to remember why, but I can't. Presumably there was some talking about music or anime or manga. Some good times. And yeah, there were times when she was fun to talk to - probably a good percentage of the time, really.
But then there were the times when she ranted endlessly about beauty products or some other shit I couldn't care less about. Or some drama series. Or a dozen other things. But did I say anything? No. I sighed and endured.
There were occasions when I wanted to try talking about something other than the aforementioned stuff, or gossip. I do, after all, have other interests, and she clearly expected me to show an interest in hers. But that always led to her acting disgusted, and changing the subject to something she wanted to talk about. I took that shit with a smile.
I provided a shoulder to cry on through endless bad times, being a constant source of ( ... )
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I stopped being your friend because you constantly got into things like this with my friends--people you didn't know particularly well. This wasn't a sporadic thing, it was a little too regular for me. I didn't want to put up with it any more, because I don't like drama between friends. I don't like having to choose, but when I have to, I will without blinking, and I won't look back. Our friendship was already strained and probably gone--can you honestly say that I was as close to you at the end as I was before? You claim to have known me so well, but if that were the case, you'd know exactly how much I abhor bullying. The very notion that I was bullying Peter caused me to look back on what I was doing--and yes, I was. I still feel bad about that, and I still feel a little sick inside ( ... )
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I repeatedly voiced a desire to end this, or at least take it someplace else, and yet here we are, airing our dirty laundry in the LJ of one of the very few people whose opinion I still give a shit about from those days. Because you pressed the issue. You could not let it die, or even take it someplace else. Do you see the irony here?
All I really want from you people is to be left alone. I don't care if we ever post in the same place, just keep your mouths shut about me, and it will be cool. Failing that, be civil and don't start shit with me, and I'll return the favor. See above, where Terrant posted in response to me? If I was looking for it, I could definitely take some offense to the implied criticism in the opening sentence, but I chose not to. And you know what I think of Terrant. If he and I can peacefully co-exist, the problem just might not be all me ( ... )
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I'm not going to leave what apparently you think of as your internet just so you don't have to see me around. Just ignore me if I disgust you so much.
Nate decided to drop it as soon as Kat asked you both to, and it would have been nice if you could have done the same. I thought that since the argument was about me I could do one reply and then let it go.
Now, Kat, your friend, has asked you to stop it, so please don't respond. Just pretend I'm not here from now on and we'll all be happy.
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Fuck, this had nothing to do with either of you. Ren, seriously, take the petty hate to a different place. It's just not relevant. Sarah is still on my friends list. There's a reason for that. Mostly because I don't care if you dislike her, because I have nothing against her.
This means she has a right to post her opinion in my LJ. Without being attacked.
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