Rihanna abuse drama
OK, so drama is the wrong word for it. And someone I know posted via her facebook status that she was fed up with all the media coverage.
True, it is a little sickening, but on the "bright side" maybe now battered women out there will see that it ISN'T their fault. They DON'T deserve this.
http://www.cnn.com/2009/SHOWBIZ/TV/03/11/lkl.robin.givens.transcript/index.html?iref=mpstoryview
http://www.cnn.com/2009/SHOWBIZ/Music/03/05/chris.brown.charged/index.html?iref=newssearch
The first article is excerpts from a Larry King interview with a guest host and Robin Givens (Mike Tyson's ex-wife) and Denise Brown (Nicole Brown Simpson's sister).
The second is excerpts from the affidavit
In the first article, Givens talks about how so many people have said that they share the same story. I know her story. While I was struck only once physically, I was emotionally abused for years, so it turns out. It starts out small and you get accustomed to it and just keep letting it happen, little by little until you think it's OK that he insults you every day. Calls you stupid and belittles your education because well, you have a vagina and your high school doesn't have 50 million national merit scholars every year and then you chose to go to a liberal arts school instead of a service academy or ivy league. it keeps growing until he decides you're fat at 135 lbs (because you were 105 when you were 13 and started dating). He tells you that your friend who looks like a drug addict because she's so thin is the perfect woman and has the perfect ass. He refuses to actually work on the problem and then snaps. He decides that the anorexic friend is his kinda woman and then does everything to end your relationship, including detailing how he will end your life. Because he's mentally unbalanced and likes the idea of torture. And then when you finally leave and he sees that he doesn't control you anymore, he says that he was just testing you and you must not have really loved him ever. Because you would have stayed if you loved him. Because the hours of begging to work on it and the days spent crying and the hours in counseling obviously didn't count. And then he'll let you know that you're damaged goods and no one will ever want you because you weigh in at 130 now and you're getting divorced.
We all know the happy ending to my story, though. I have some of the best friends in the world, both back home and up here who supported me and let me cry and gave me a place to crash until I was on my feet in DC. And then I met someone who is a real man. He has never laid a finger on me, except to swat my butt as I walk by. He never insults me. We have real conversations about things. I'm "allowed" to be who I am. We don't see eye to eye, but I'm not an idiot for it and neither is he. I don't know everything, but I'm not afraid to ask anymore, be it about sports or some stupid cooking question or anything. Our every day banter is lighthearted and while we poke fun, it's never meant to harm or chip away at my self esteem. He actually wants me to succeed in school and in my career...but maybe that's just so he can retire early and play golf every day. And now, we're getting married in less than 3 months. Hooray!
Secondly, this article also mentions how some people are accusing Rihanna of provoking Chris Brown. I'm sorry, but what?? She thought he was cheating, saw some evidence in his phone and confronted him. That's not provoking! Should women just turn a blind eye on a cheating boyfriend or spouse because he might hit us if we have a problem with it?? Or, he could just call you crazy up until the day he marries her.
Seriously, if you know someone who is abused or you think is in a bad relationship, take this opportunity to talk to them. It's not your fault that he's subhuman (or she is...men get knocked around, too...Titus season 2, episode 9 "The Last Noelle" makes it funny). Really pretty please, talk to your friends. No one deserves that kind of life.
True, it is a little sickening, but on the "bright side" maybe now battered women out there will see that it ISN'T their fault. They DON'T deserve this.
http://www.cnn.com/2009/SHOWBIZ/TV/03/11/lkl.robin.givens.transcript/index.html?iref=mpstoryview
http://www.cnn.com/2009/SHOWBIZ/Music/03/05/chris.brown.charged/index.html?iref=newssearch
The first article is excerpts from a Larry King interview with a guest host and Robin Givens (Mike Tyson's ex-wife) and Denise Brown (Nicole Brown Simpson's sister).
The second is excerpts from the affidavit
In the first article, Givens talks about how so many people have said that they share the same story. I know her story. While I was struck only once physically, I was emotionally abused for years, so it turns out. It starts out small and you get accustomed to it and just keep letting it happen, little by little until you think it's OK that he insults you every day. Calls you stupid and belittles your education because well, you have a vagina and your high school doesn't have 50 million national merit scholars every year and then you chose to go to a liberal arts school instead of a service academy or ivy league. it keeps growing until he decides you're fat at 135 lbs (because you were 105 when you were 13 and started dating). He tells you that your friend who looks like a drug addict because she's so thin is the perfect woman and has the perfect ass. He refuses to actually work on the problem and then snaps. He decides that the anorexic friend is his kinda woman and then does everything to end your relationship, including detailing how he will end your life. Because he's mentally unbalanced and likes the idea of torture. And then when you finally leave and he sees that he doesn't control you anymore, he says that he was just testing you and you must not have really loved him ever. Because you would have stayed if you loved him. Because the hours of begging to work on it and the days spent crying and the hours in counseling obviously didn't count. And then he'll let you know that you're damaged goods and no one will ever want you because you weigh in at 130 now and you're getting divorced.
We all know the happy ending to my story, though. I have some of the best friends in the world, both back home and up here who supported me and let me cry and gave me a place to crash until I was on my feet in DC. And then I met someone who is a real man. He has never laid a finger on me, except to swat my butt as I walk by. He never insults me. We have real conversations about things. I'm "allowed" to be who I am. We don't see eye to eye, but I'm not an idiot for it and neither is he. I don't know everything, but I'm not afraid to ask anymore, be it about sports or some stupid cooking question or anything. Our every day banter is lighthearted and while we poke fun, it's never meant to harm or chip away at my self esteem. He actually wants me to succeed in school and in my career...but maybe that's just so he can retire early and play golf every day. And now, we're getting married in less than 3 months. Hooray!
Secondly, this article also mentions how some people are accusing Rihanna of provoking Chris Brown. I'm sorry, but what?? She thought he was cheating, saw some evidence in his phone and confronted him. That's not provoking! Should women just turn a blind eye on a cheating boyfriend or spouse because he might hit us if we have a problem with it?? Or, he could just call you crazy up until the day he marries her.
Seriously, if you know someone who is abused or you think is in a bad relationship, take this opportunity to talk to them. It's not your fault that he's subhuman (or she is...men get knocked around, too...Titus season 2, episode 9 "The Last Noelle" makes it funny). Really pretty please, talk to your friends. No one deserves that kind of life.