So, according to every book on psychology I've ever read...
Learning to let go is an important part of the healing process. And I should try and make a concious effort to do that. You can't swim if you keep hanging on to about five or six ten-ton-weights, yeah?
I've also been reading The Dance of Anger in spurts and jumps, which is a book I've had reccommended to me many, many times, but I've never actually sat down and thumbed through. It's actually very good, which is not surprising, given that it's a classic, and it takes the radical stance that repressing and denying anger (as women are often societally-conditioned to do)is a very, very unhealthy practice that just builds up and adds to feelings of resentment and helplessness. We need to learn to express anger which is just as valid and normal as any other emotion and channel it in constructive ways, rather than staying with this idea that (largely as women)we're supposed to "play nice," suffer in silence, avoid direct confrontation (which is definately a problem that I have!), and never ever get upset or angry about anything.
Like I said...totally radical stance here, kids.
And I've got a copy of The Games People Play to read next. I may also try to get my hands on I Hate You - Don't Leave Me, which is all about living with people with BPD and is also one that's been reccomended to me on many occasions.
And my Hufflepuff scarf is coming along nicely. I like the microspun yarn, although it has a distressing tendency to split, but it's very soft and looks fantastic as I'm knitting this sucker up in the round. The best thing about this pattern is that the scarf is going to be a striped tube that's flattened out at both ends with fringe, so the reverse stockingnette side, the lines where I'm joining the colors, and the bits where I'm weaving in loose ends are all going to be on the inside of the tube.
Hopefully, I'll get this sucker all done by Halloween.
I've also been reading The Dance of Anger in spurts and jumps, which is a book I've had reccommended to me many, many times, but I've never actually sat down and thumbed through. It's actually very good, which is not surprising, given that it's a classic, and it takes the radical stance that repressing and denying anger (as women are often societally-conditioned to do)is a very, very unhealthy practice that just builds up and adds to feelings of resentment and helplessness. We need to learn to express anger which is just as valid and normal as any other emotion and channel it in constructive ways, rather than staying with this idea that (largely as women)we're supposed to "play nice," suffer in silence, avoid direct confrontation (which is definately a problem that I have!), and never ever get upset or angry about anything.
Like I said...totally radical stance here, kids.
And I've got a copy of The Games People Play to read next. I may also try to get my hands on I Hate You - Don't Leave Me, which is all about living with people with BPD and is also one that's been reccomended to me on many occasions.
And my Hufflepuff scarf is coming along nicely. I like the microspun yarn, although it has a distressing tendency to split, but it's very soft and looks fantastic as I'm knitting this sucker up in the round. The best thing about this pattern is that the scarf is going to be a striped tube that's flattened out at both ends with fringe, so the reverse stockingnette side, the lines where I'm joining the colors, and the bits where I'm weaving in loose ends are all going to be on the inside of the tube.
Hopefully, I'll get this sucker all done by Halloween.