Psychoanalyzing Teh Drama
[mood| 
awake]
[music| Wake - Dir en grey]
Note: I am not angry.
Assume nothing. That was what this certain TV show ingrained on me while I was watching it.
But we can’t help it. We just NEED to assume that things are happening because it’s OUR fault, or because we think that other people did it.
It’s in our culture to blame others and to have them answer to the problems we’ve caused, and usually, the scapegoat won’t get to defend him/herself unless s/he’s really assertive and knows how to play his/her cards right.
More often than not, what people say behind your backs reflect who, what, and how they are, unconsciously. Like what psychology says: Projection is therapeutic just because of people’s immaturity to accept that everyone has flaws; the fact that most people are just too chicken to own up to their own flaws and mistakes make projection a fairly easy solution to their problems. “I’ll just blame someone/I’ll just say that their incompetence was what made me fail.”
What they say behind your backs, be it true or not, stems out from the fact that unconsciously, they want to be like you and/or do what you did, even if you got into scrapes afterwards, because they know that they don’t have the guts to experience it.
Sure, we can get by without having to experience shitty stuff, but what I’m saying is that the experience gained by the person who experienced certain things gives more to that person, as opposed to someone who just observes and then analyzes what s/he should do to avoid getting into that kind of problem. I’m not saying that we should mimic what everybody’s doing to get a firsthand experience and learn from it afterwards. What I’m saying is that people should be open to the fact that everyone is different.
Of course, some people would just play it safe and learn from others’ mistakes and condescend. That’s not even the issue. What this society doesn’t get is that your actions don’t make up the whole of yourself. It’s just part of you, not your very being. Some people judge you because of your actions and instead of helping you they attack you on a personal basis, and we are all guilty of that at some times in our not-so-long lives.
My point is that you shouldn’t judge people just by what they do, if you didn’t try to correct them at all. Everyone comes from a different context, and chances are, even if they talk to you about it, you’ll just end up nodding and sympathizing, then afterwards you go and think “Good thing I’m not him/her” instead of thinking how the hell you’re going to help that person overcome whatever it is that’s bothering him/her.
In this society and culture, klat kcab is very fashionable. Doing it with the knowledge that that certain person you’re talking about is going to hear about it all the more makes it exciting, doesn’t it?
What about if we exchange lives with each other, hm? Could you survive for a day, if you were to live in the context that I live in?
I bet you won’t. I know you won’t.
Live and let live. If someone doesn’t jive with you, it’s your choice if you want to stick around that person. Even if you don’t want to be around that person but can’t help it because s/he’s always around you, then it’s either you talk to him/her about what you don’t like about his/her personality, OR you could just plain ignore the person. Don’t go complaining about how that person annoys you if you didn’t at least try to talk to that person and/or offer to help them realize what they’re doing wrong, and help them fix themselves up.
And if you know that you yourself is doing something wrong, you’d better take responsibility for your actions, because you don’t live alone in this world. Every decision you make has an impact on other people’s lives, no matter how much you’d want to isolate yourself from society and live in a cave or something. No matter how much you’d want to choose which person to surround yourself with and/or live with, that’s beyond your control, because you were put in a certain context that would ultimately define your reality from the moment you were born. Unless it’s an apocalypse and everything’s in total chaos.
You claim you’re a “friend” of somebody. But let me just ask you what your definition of being a friend is. I sure as hell wouldn’t want to go near you if you’re a friends-for-utility type of person (or if you accuse others of being one). Unless you and I are politicians.
I used to claim that I’m a realist, but now I’m not so sure about that. It’s because I tend to keep thinking that “everything’s going to turn out fine if we all work together and have some sort of referendum to solve whatever it is that’s boggling us. Even if I sound cynical at times, deep down I’m hoping that things will change, and they changed because we paved the way for them to be able to. But given our finiteness, we can’t do everything we want to. There’s just so much that we can take before we snap. And mind you, if this goes on, I really will. I can’t stand being among hypocrites. They’re everywhere, dammit.
I’m tolerant, and that does not mean that I’ll let you off the hook easily if you’re doing something wrong. Being a friend, for me, is looking out for each other and that means transparency among what we feel about each others’ affairs, and helping each other become better persons which would ultimately lead to the benefit of all.
Cheesy, but that’s what I think being friends are so STFU.
Quoting Sir Tirol, our Western Contemporary History professor: “If you are not part of the solution, you are part of the problem.”
I am not advocating for world peace here, okay? And frankly, I think it’s impossible to achieve that, because people will always want something that they don’t have, which will lead to conflict, and which will eventually lead to war. Again. *jaded*
We need to think: Whose issue is this, really? Is it mine, or the other person’s?
If you project damaging things to other people, your inferiority complex shines like a spotlight in the dark. Do you really want to give yourself away THAT much?
***
That said, I bow out of the limelight.
awake]
[music| Wake - Dir en grey]
Note: I am not angry.
Assume nothing. That was what this certain TV show ingrained on me while I was watching it.
But we can’t help it. We just NEED to assume that things are happening because it’s OUR fault, or because we think that other people did it.
It’s in our culture to blame others and to have them answer to the problems we’ve caused, and usually, the scapegoat won’t get to defend him/herself unless s/he’s really assertive and knows how to play his/her cards right.
More often than not, what people say behind your backs reflect who, what, and how they are, unconsciously. Like what psychology says: Projection is therapeutic just because of people’s immaturity to accept that everyone has flaws; the fact that most people are just too chicken to own up to their own flaws and mistakes make projection a fairly easy solution to their problems. “I’ll just blame someone/I’ll just say that their incompetence was what made me fail.”
What they say behind your backs, be it true or not, stems out from the fact that unconsciously, they want to be like you and/or do what you did, even if you got into scrapes afterwards, because they know that they don’t have the guts to experience it.
Sure, we can get by without having to experience shitty stuff, but what I’m saying is that the experience gained by the person who experienced certain things gives more to that person, as opposed to someone who just observes and then analyzes what s/he should do to avoid getting into that kind of problem. I’m not saying that we should mimic what everybody’s doing to get a firsthand experience and learn from it afterwards. What I’m saying is that people should be open to the fact that everyone is different.
Of course, some people would just play it safe and learn from others’ mistakes and condescend. That’s not even the issue. What this society doesn’t get is that your actions don’t make up the whole of yourself. It’s just part of you, not your very being. Some people judge you because of your actions and instead of helping you they attack you on a personal basis, and we are all guilty of that at some times in our not-so-long lives.
My point is that you shouldn’t judge people just by what they do, if you didn’t try to correct them at all. Everyone comes from a different context, and chances are, even if they talk to you about it, you’ll just end up nodding and sympathizing, then afterwards you go and think “Good thing I’m not him/her” instead of thinking how the hell you’re going to help that person overcome whatever it is that’s bothering him/her.
In this society and culture, klat kcab is very fashionable. Doing it with the knowledge that that certain person you’re talking about is going to hear about it all the more makes it exciting, doesn’t it?
What about if we exchange lives with each other, hm? Could you survive for a day, if you were to live in the context that I live in?
I bet you won’t. I know you won’t.
Live and let live. If someone doesn’t jive with you, it’s your choice if you want to stick around that person. Even if you don’t want to be around that person but can’t help it because s/he’s always around you, then it’s either you talk to him/her about what you don’t like about his/her personality, OR you could just plain ignore the person. Don’t go complaining about how that person annoys you if you didn’t at least try to talk to that person and/or offer to help them realize what they’re doing wrong, and help them fix themselves up.
And if you know that you yourself is doing something wrong, you’d better take responsibility for your actions, because you don’t live alone in this world. Every decision you make has an impact on other people’s lives, no matter how much you’d want to isolate yourself from society and live in a cave or something. No matter how much you’d want to choose which person to surround yourself with and/or live with, that’s beyond your control, because you were put in a certain context that would ultimately define your reality from the moment you were born. Unless it’s an apocalypse and everything’s in total chaos.
You claim you’re a “friend” of somebody. But let me just ask you what your definition of being a friend is. I sure as hell wouldn’t want to go near you if you’re a friends-for-utility type of person (or if you accuse others of being one). Unless you and I are politicians.
I used to claim that I’m a realist, but now I’m not so sure about that. It’s because I tend to keep thinking that “everything’s going to turn out fine if we all work together and have some sort of referendum to solve whatever it is that’s boggling us. Even if I sound cynical at times, deep down I’m hoping that things will change, and they changed because we paved the way for them to be able to. But given our finiteness, we can’t do everything we want to. There’s just so much that we can take before we snap. And mind you, if this goes on, I really will. I can’t stand being among hypocrites. They’re everywhere, dammit.
I’m tolerant, and that does not mean that I’ll let you off the hook easily if you’re doing something wrong. Being a friend, for me, is looking out for each other and that means transparency among what we feel about each others’ affairs, and helping each other become better persons which would ultimately lead to the benefit of all.
Cheesy, but that’s what I think being friends are so STFU.
Quoting Sir Tirol, our Western Contemporary History professor: “If you are not part of the solution, you are part of the problem.”
I am not advocating for world peace here, okay? And frankly, I think it’s impossible to achieve that, because people will always want something that they don’t have, which will lead to conflict, and which will eventually lead to war. Again. *jaded*
We need to think: Whose issue is this, really? Is it mine, or the other person’s?
If you project damaging things to other people, your inferiority complex shines like a spotlight in the dark. Do you really want to give yourself away THAT much?
***
That said, I bow out of the limelight.