To move out?
I wish I wasn't so logical. I'm working in Charlotte starting in January, and my parents, being reasonably close, think it would be wise if I stayed with them for a year. I would have to agree. It allows me a chance to save money to put a down payment on a place of my own. Also, if something were to happen the first year in my job, then I wouldn't be stuck with a place I couldn't pay for and have to move back home.
Like I said, it makes sense. However, my parents drive me up the wall. Yes, I imagine most people love their parents, but I'm past the age where I want to be actively parented and bossed around like I'm twelve. Last time I was home, my mom was discussing me living with them. I only have to follow the house rules. Really, I'm down with chores and helping out, because it is free rent. However, my mom said, "you know and you need to tell us where you'll be and when you'll get in." Really? I don't think it's their business, and my mom won't like some of the places where I'm likely to be. I understand that her and dad are overprotective about my safety, since I'm a girl, and I appreciate the concern. Unfortunately, that means I'll have to lie about my whereabouts forty percent of the time, if I live at home.
I don't like to lie. I have a moral aversion to it, but I also hate shattering my parents' image of me. It'll just stress my mom out, like when she found out I *gasp* drink alcohol occasionally. Therefore, it's necessary to stretch the truth in some instances. If I was out of the house, it wouldn't be a problem.
However, I don't want to rent a place. I've done it in college and thrown away a ton of money. I want to buy something small like an apartment, condo, townhouse, patio home, etc. I plan on staying in Charlotte for a good while. I'm a little disappointed that I wasn't assigned to the Richmond office now, because then, I would have to live away from home. Gah.
Anyway, the game plan right now is for me to have a discussion with my parents about my ground rules, to explain to them, respectfully, that I'm an adult now. I still respect them, but I have to make my own decisions and live my own life, even if I'm living with them. My work will have to come before anything they want done around the house, because otherwise, if I don't finish something, I might get fired. Also, I will do my part of the work, when I have ample time and within a reasonable time period. However, I would appreciate it if they would make requests, like they would when speaking to each other, instead of commands. "Anna, get in here and do this." No. Not going to work. I think my parents are pretty reasonable, my dad more so than my mom, so hopefully, it'll work out.
Like I said, it makes sense. However, my parents drive me up the wall. Yes, I imagine most people love their parents, but I'm past the age where I want to be actively parented and bossed around like I'm twelve. Last time I was home, my mom was discussing me living with them. I only have to follow the house rules. Really, I'm down with chores and helping out, because it is free rent. However, my mom said, "you know and you need to tell us where you'll be and when you'll get in." Really? I don't think it's their business, and my mom won't like some of the places where I'm likely to be. I understand that her and dad are overprotective about my safety, since I'm a girl, and I appreciate the concern. Unfortunately, that means I'll have to lie about my whereabouts forty percent of the time, if I live at home.
I don't like to lie. I have a moral aversion to it, but I also hate shattering my parents' image of me. It'll just stress my mom out, like when she found out I *gasp* drink alcohol occasionally. Therefore, it's necessary to stretch the truth in some instances. If I was out of the house, it wouldn't be a problem.
However, I don't want to rent a place. I've done it in college and thrown away a ton of money. I want to buy something small like an apartment, condo, townhouse, patio home, etc. I plan on staying in Charlotte for a good while. I'm a little disappointed that I wasn't assigned to the Richmond office now, because then, I would have to live away from home. Gah.
Anyway, the game plan right now is for me to have a discussion with my parents about my ground rules, to explain to them, respectfully, that I'm an adult now. I still respect them, but I have to make my own decisions and live my own life, even if I'm living with them. My work will have to come before anything they want done around the house, because otherwise, if I don't finish something, I might get fired. Also, I will do my part of the work, when I have ample time and within a reasonable time period. However, I would appreciate it if they would make requests, like they would when speaking to each other, instead of commands. "Anna, get in here and do this." No. Not going to work. I think my parents are pretty reasonable, my dad more so than my mom, so hopefully, it'll work out.