beloved Ben
He came over for a couple hours before his sex party in his dungeon LOL. We snuggled and talked for an hour, then made out for an hour, now he's going to a sex party in his dungeon LOL.
I could potentially have invited myself to this sex party, but the theme of the party is not what I'm looking for at the moment, and Ben is totally allowed to do whatever the fuck he wants with whomever the fuck he wants, there's zero jealousy between us, and he manages his open marriage. He's my keyholder, when I want to be locked like I am right now, and we hang out, and we have kinky sex. Sometimes when I need emotional support I call him, or vice versa.
I can't imagine "breaking up" with him and making somebody else my keyholder.
I've said that breaking up is irrelevant in relationship anarchy, but lately I've thought that my relationship with NYC David is dead after his July visit. I don't know whether I'll try to rekindle it, or whether that would even work. If neither of us is enjoying each other's company anymore, why hang out again? I guess that's what "breaking up" feels like in relationship anarchy. Neither of you# wants to spend time together anymore, so it is over. No "drama" ... just ... no interest.
But you haven't promised to stay interested in each other, as in a marriage. But if later on we're interested in each other again, we can hang out again.
With relationship anarchy you don't commit to stay with each other for better or worse, you just spend time together to the extent you both want to. And when both people want to, it works, and it keeps working while both people want it to. No promises. But if you keep enjoying each other you keep enjoying each other, and I have several relationships in which we# keep enjoying each other.
I could potentially have invited myself to this sex party, but the theme of the party is not what I'm looking for at the moment, and Ben is totally allowed to do whatever the fuck he wants with whomever the fuck he wants, there's zero jealousy between us, and he manages his open marriage. He's my keyholder, when I want to be locked like I am right now, and we hang out, and we have kinky sex. Sometimes when I need emotional support I call him, or vice versa.
I can't imagine "breaking up" with him and making somebody else my keyholder.
I've said that breaking up is irrelevant in relationship anarchy, but lately I've thought that my relationship with NYC David is dead after his July visit. I don't know whether I'll try to rekindle it, or whether that would even work. If neither of us is enjoying each other's company anymore, why hang out again? I guess that's what "breaking up" feels like in relationship anarchy. Neither of you# wants to spend time together anymore, so it is over. No "drama" ... just ... no interest.
But you haven't promised to stay interested in each other, as in a marriage. But if later on we're interested in each other again, we can hang out again.
With relationship anarchy you don't commit to stay with each other for better or worse, you just spend time together to the extent you both want to. And when both people want to, it works, and it keeps working while both people want it to. No promises. But if you keep enjoying each other you keep enjoying each other, and I have several relationships in which we# keep enjoying each other.