Monday morning Christmas Countdown
The week before Christmas -- the office is starting to empy out, with some people not returning until the new year. I've moved my commute day from Monday to Tuesday this week because my car isn't here at the house. I Lyfted home from B's last night because I'd been drinking and I don't like driving while intoxicated. B agreed to drive the car back here this evening to spend the night here, then I'll drive him home tomorrow on my way to the office.
My chest and butt still feel bruised from his spankings yesterday afternoon -- I wasn't expecting a BDSM session with B, but I welcomed it until we approached my pain limits. B was praising "relationship anarchy" while beating on me, saying that his partners (T and J) were not interested in pain play. He praised how he and I have such a relaxed kind of relationship in which we hang out but do not put pressures on each other, just doing together what we like to do together when we both have time. Yesterday those things included watching a soccer game together, kink play together, me watching a film by myself while he did some work, and then a delicious Italian dinner together.
That is my relationship philosophy at age 55. Activity partners who also offer an amount of emotional support to each other, without trying to fix each other, without requiring a specific amount of time together, with no financial dependencies on each other. I do wonder whether there will be another cycle of me not speaking to B for a while in the future, as that has happened twice before.
I especially like that some of these partners of mine also hang out with each other. B with Ben, DavidF with both B and Ben. When K is here he's been open to hanging out with B, and K remembers Ben from prior socializing. The only No Man's Land is still between T and K, who haven't spent time with each other at all since they2 broke up. As I leave my fortune to be split between the two of them when I pass, I wish they'd at least speak to each other once before I die, but that's not within my control.
Most of the men I hang out with frequently will not be around for the next couple of weeks. DavidS is already out of town. Ben will leave town on Wednesday, B will leave Thursday or Friday. But T returns on Thursday. K isn't visiting again until February, and DavidF was already just here.
It turns out T has already announced our Christmas Eve party on Facebook, that's good. I'll remind others about it via text message soon. Keeping my fingers crossed that neither of us gets sick this week. We still haven't put Christmas up inside the house, I presume we'll be doing that on Friday, so I'm probably taking Friday off, which means commuting only once this week. It has been a while since I've actually commuted the two days per week that on paper I'm required to do, because of holidays and travel and days off. I will go in tomorrow though!
The house is a mess, I'll have to do some cleaning today before B comes over for dinner. I didn't do any chores or work over the weekend, because of B's surprise visit to watch the game on Saturday morning -- it's difficult to believe I'd quickly cleaned the house Saturday morning before his arrival, we messed it up plenty again by the time I left on Sunday morning.
But I had a thoroughly fun weekend :-)
I'll have Tuesday evening to myself. Had rescheduled the massage for this Wednesday. Then T returns Thursday. After that I'll probably head to the condo late Christmas Day after exchanging gifts with T and cleaning up from the party. I'll want to watch soccer at the condo all day on Boxing Day -- I'm gonna start paying attention to the Premier League for a while to see whether I can keep my soccer excitement up post-World Cup.
My chest and butt still feel bruised from his spankings yesterday afternoon -- I wasn't expecting a BDSM session with B, but I welcomed it until we approached my pain limits. B was praising "relationship anarchy" while beating on me, saying that his partners (T and J) were not interested in pain play. He praised how he and I have such a relaxed kind of relationship in which we hang out but do not put pressures on each other, just doing together what we like to do together when we both have time. Yesterday those things included watching a soccer game together, kink play together, me watching a film by myself while he did some work, and then a delicious Italian dinner together.
That is my relationship philosophy at age 55. Activity partners who also offer an amount of emotional support to each other, without trying to fix each other, without requiring a specific amount of time together, with no financial dependencies on each other. I do wonder whether there will be another cycle of me not speaking to B for a while in the future, as that has happened twice before.
I especially like that some of these partners of mine also hang out with each other. B with Ben, DavidF with both B and Ben. When K is here he's been open to hanging out with B, and K remembers Ben from prior socializing. The only No Man's Land is still between T and K, who haven't spent time with each other at all since they2 broke up. As I leave my fortune to be split between the two of them when I pass, I wish they'd at least speak to each other once before I die, but that's not within my control.
Most of the men I hang out with frequently will not be around for the next couple of weeks. DavidS is already out of town. Ben will leave town on Wednesday, B will leave Thursday or Friday. But T returns on Thursday. K isn't visiting again until February, and DavidF was already just here.
It turns out T has already announced our Christmas Eve party on Facebook, that's good. I'll remind others about it via text message soon. Keeping my fingers crossed that neither of us gets sick this week. We still haven't put Christmas up inside the house, I presume we'll be doing that on Friday, so I'm probably taking Friday off, which means commuting only once this week. It has been a while since I've actually commuted the two days per week that on paper I'm required to do, because of holidays and travel and days off. I will go in tomorrow though!
The house is a mess, I'll have to do some cleaning today before B comes over for dinner. I didn't do any chores or work over the weekend, because of B's surprise visit to watch the game on Saturday morning -- it's difficult to believe I'd quickly cleaned the house Saturday morning before his arrival, we messed it up plenty again by the time I left on Sunday morning.
But I had a thoroughly fun weekend :-)
I'll have Tuesday evening to myself. Had rescheduled the massage for this Wednesday. Then T returns Thursday. After that I'll probably head to the condo late Christmas Day after exchanging gifts with T and cleaning up from the party. I'll want to watch soccer at the condo all day on Boxing Day -- I'm gonna start paying attention to the Premier League for a while to see whether I can keep my soccer excitement up post-World Cup.