but here's what I wanted to write about

[kanzeon_2040]

Once you've entered into a sexual relationship with someone,

then, it is expected, that you will continue having sex, at some frequency,

being in a sexual relationship, you're supposed to have sex,

this is a kind of coercion,

that once you've had sex, once you've entered into a pattern of having sex, a sexual relationship, that sex will continue, at some sort of frequency,

but,

what if you don't want to have sex?  or what if he doesn't want to have sex?  I mean, not today, not right now, for whatever reason, stress, hunger, exhaustion, just not horny, then,

fuck, now I've turned him down, now I've rejected him, now there's this "my partner rejected me" dynamic, shit,

will he reject me next time?  does this mean he's not into me?  and sex becomes an ISSUE, and far worse if you're in a monogamous relationship because now you can't have sex at all without it being an ISSUE, shit,

what if I'm never having sex again, AAAAAAAGGGGGHHHHH, because he doesn't want to have sex with me this week, this month, this life,

SHIT,

and the other person feels the guilt, I'm turning him down, but I just don't want to have sex, and now I really don't want to have sex, because he always wants to have sex, shit,

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relationship anarchy allows you to have relationships that are sexual, or asexual, and they can flip back and forth, or just flip, and that's OK, because there are other sources of sex, your sex life didn't just die right in front of you,