worth reposting -- The Poly Commandments
I promise to love people and things that are not you.
I will not let my fear of losing you stop me from seeking out new adventure.
I will intentionally make plans that do not involve you. I will support you in doing the same.
I will do my best to manage my feelings of fear, exclusion, and jealousy in a healthy way.
I will make time for honest introspection. I will set goals for myself. I will engage in behaviors that will help me achieve those goals.
I promise to say no sometimes, even when it will disappoint you.
When I am wrong, I will admit it. I will apologize, I will tell you how I am going to change the behavior, and then I will follow through.
And when I am unhappy with YOUR behavior, and I've taken the time to make sure it is about you and not me, I will tell you.
And I need you to know, if our connection ceases to be a positive, growth-promoting, loving relationship and can't be repaired, I will break up with you.
I will not let my fear of losing you stop me from seeking out new adventure.
I will intentionally make plans that do not involve you. I will support you in doing the same.
I will do my best to manage my feelings of fear, exclusion, and jealousy in a healthy way.
I will make time for honest introspection. I will set goals for myself. I will engage in behaviors that will help me achieve those goals.
I promise to say no sometimes, even when it will disappoint you.
When I am wrong, I will admit it. I will apologize, I will tell you how I am going to change the behavior, and then I will follow through.
And when I am unhappy with YOUR behavior, and I've taken the time to make sure it is about you and not me, I will tell you.
And I need you to know, if our connection ceases to be a positive, growth-promoting, loving relationship and can't be repaired, I will break up with you.