throwing my anger elsewhere

[kanzeon_2040]

One of the things I get most pissed off about on Reddit is ageism. I think one of the benefits of polyamory, open relationships, or relationship anarchism is that you can have a variety of different kinds of relationships with other adults. You aren't looking for The One Soulmate who matches your every need, so you don't have to look for somebody

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[anais_pf]

I had an exchange with a younger person on a Facebook Ethical Non Monogamy page, on a thread about arranging some social meet-ups (which I keep trying to make happen but I keep getting thwarted) and she said she'd like to see some events for younger poly folk - the under 40 crowd I seem to recall. I said I was sad to be excluded and she said, oh, I think it's great for older poly people to teach us younger polys but we want to meet potential partners! I came back with the argument that being poly means you don't need to be limited to your own age cohort because you're not looking for your one and only life partner and all that implies. I think she was shocked that someone my age might want to date someone younger. (Heck, I accepted a first date with an 85 year old one time when I was 55.)

It's a problem for sure.

[kanzeon_2040]

In the gay community people my age get a double-whammy in that - not only do younger men usually put up front on their profiles, "Looking for my age only!", but older men almost always put up front on their profiles, "Looking for younger only!"

WTF, older people. It has forced me to go for the [kinky younger guys who like kinky older guys], a market I compete well in because I exercise daily, I'm not racist, and I have a centrally-located private space with all kinds of toys. I even get to be kind of picky within that market. But I'm not looking for younger only, that's just where I end up.