post-posting
I'm not on Facebook, I don't Tweet. So the other night when Tod asked me whether I was the person who posted whatever, I reminded him that I don't post stuff anymore.
I don't think LJ counts, you can't easily share LJ entries or share something via LJ entries, and although sometimes I do link to something in an LJ entry, that's not my typical style. That's not why I'm here. This is a journal.
Sometimes I will text a link to something to the small circle of people who I text with from time to time, but that's different from posting something for all your viewers to see and to like and to repost and to comment on.
I still miss posting stuff occasionally. I'll read something interesting, something that I would've shared in the past, but now it just stays in my head, perhaps to emerge later in conversation with a human, or adding up to the various thoughts that make up my journal.
So I've dropped out of the viral social media :-) I no longer serve as a host for replicating memes.
I think this is slowly changing the sorts of media I'm interested in. Because I'm not motivated to find something sharable anymore. I'm not trying to share something with you and you and you that you might share with them and so on. I'm not trying to influence the stream of facts and beliefs that y'all are swimming in by posting and reposting.
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Heh, this evening as I was driving home I decided that bashing Trump via social media is so 2016. I mean, most of us would agree that bashing Hillary is so 2016, because she lost, so only a jerk would continue to bash Hillary a year later. But what ends are served by posting and reposting, or sharing and resharing, opinionated essays or snarky memes that put down Trump? We don't get another chance to vote for or against him for over three years, so why spend the time and energy doing that?
Plus, all the posting and reposting we did in 2016 didn't stop him from becoming President. Is sharing essays or memes via social media really changing the way people think about politics? Especially when algorithms censor your posts anyway?
Heh, I'm becoming so retro, listening to CDs and not Tweeting anymore. I started writing on LJ in 2001, so continuing to do this feels retro also :-) Especially now that so few people read it anymore.
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I haven't heard one peep from that wants-to-become-poly guy since he canceled on Monday morning. I guess I'll never really know what was going on there, whether anything he said in his text messages was true. Or whether his pics were real. He could only keep the charade going until I actually wanted to meet him? Or, perhaps a genuine crisis occurred in his life and he suddenly doesn't have time to start a new friendship or relationship. Or, maybe some sort of crippling social anxiety won't let him cross the line into reality. Or he found a different guy he'd been even more excited about. Or his husband called a sudden halt to all this so-called poly stuff. Who knows.
"80 percent of life is showing up," said Woody Allen. Meaning, if you want something, you have to actually work at it. You want to lose weight? You have to actually cut calories and exercise more. You want to learn how to swim? You have to actually go to the pool and practice. You want to have a long term relationship? You have to actually stay with somebody over the long term then ... no matter what they say or do ... if you leave then you don't get to have a long term relationship.
I remember reading a How To Find A Sir post on Tumblr. Among the many pieces of advice, the guy said, "You have to actually keep the appointments you make with your potential Sir." And before that, he suggested going to real live events where Sirs hang out. And striking up conversations with some of them. Your fantasies don't come true from staring at your computer screen and jerking off. You have to show up, and speak with other humans, and ask for what you want, and get rejected, and then ... when somebody says yes ... you have to show up.
I don't think LJ counts, you can't easily share LJ entries or share something via LJ entries, and although sometimes I do link to something in an LJ entry, that's not my typical style. That's not why I'm here. This is a journal.
Sometimes I will text a link to something to the small circle of people who I text with from time to time, but that's different from posting something for all your viewers to see and to like and to repost and to comment on.
I still miss posting stuff occasionally. I'll read something interesting, something that I would've shared in the past, but now it just stays in my head, perhaps to emerge later in conversation with a human, or adding up to the various thoughts that make up my journal.
So I've dropped out of the viral social media :-) I no longer serve as a host for replicating memes.
I think this is slowly changing the sorts of media I'm interested in. Because I'm not motivated to find something sharable anymore. I'm not trying to share something with you and you and you that you might share with them and so on. I'm not trying to influence the stream of facts and beliefs that y'all are swimming in by posting and reposting.
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Heh, this evening as I was driving home I decided that bashing Trump via social media is so 2016. I mean, most of us would agree that bashing Hillary is so 2016, because she lost, so only a jerk would continue to bash Hillary a year later. But what ends are served by posting and reposting, or sharing and resharing, opinionated essays or snarky memes that put down Trump? We don't get another chance to vote for or against him for over three years, so why spend the time and energy doing that?
Plus, all the posting and reposting we did in 2016 didn't stop him from becoming President. Is sharing essays or memes via social media really changing the way people think about politics? Especially when algorithms censor your posts anyway?
Heh, I'm becoming so retro, listening to CDs and not Tweeting anymore. I started writing on LJ in 2001, so continuing to do this feels retro also :-) Especially now that so few people read it anymore.
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I haven't heard one peep from that wants-to-become-poly guy since he canceled on Monday morning. I guess I'll never really know what was going on there, whether anything he said in his text messages was true. Or whether his pics were real. He could only keep the charade going until I actually wanted to meet him? Or, perhaps a genuine crisis occurred in his life and he suddenly doesn't have time to start a new friendship or relationship. Or, maybe some sort of crippling social anxiety won't let him cross the line into reality. Or he found a different guy he'd been even more excited about. Or his husband called a sudden halt to all this so-called poly stuff. Who knows.
"80 percent of life is showing up," said Woody Allen. Meaning, if you want something, you have to actually work at it. You want to lose weight? You have to actually cut calories and exercise more. You want to learn how to swim? You have to actually go to the pool and practice. You want to have a long term relationship? You have to actually stay with somebody over the long term then ... no matter what they say or do ... if you leave then you don't get to have a long term relationship.
I remember reading a How To Find A Sir post on Tumblr. Among the many pieces of advice, the guy said, "You have to actually keep the appointments you make with your potential Sir." And before that, he suggested going to real live events where Sirs hang out. And striking up conversations with some of them. Your fantasies don't come true from staring at your computer screen and jerking off. You have to show up, and speak with other humans, and ask for what you want, and get rejected, and then ... when somebody says yes ... you have to show up.