fantasy and the politics of the self
I firmly believe it is OK to fantasize about things you would never actually do, perhaps because they are illegal or immoral or both.
I firmly believe it is OK to role-play activities you would never do in real life.
We think of ourselves as unitary beings, but our bodies and brains are actually associations of competing interests. It is OK to allow parts of your bodies and brains to play, while the core remains in control of the important stuff. It helps your self to better get along with yourself if you are more accepting and permissive of the parts you don't fully control.
I firmly believe it is OK to role-play activities you would never do in real life.
We think of ourselves as unitary beings, but our bodies and brains are actually associations of competing interests. It is OK to allow parts of your bodies and brains to play, while the core remains in control of the important stuff. It helps your self to better get along with yourself if you are more accepting and permissive of the parts you don't fully control.