"Monogamy is what separates us from the animals"
A Facebook friend who is somebody I barely know, posted a lament about being a monogamous man in the gay world.
I am not monogamous, and don't want to be, but if I were, I would also lament. Because basing my happiness on the willingness of somebody else to always avoid acting upon his sexual desire feels futile to me. Knowing the track record of the human race, I would feel hopeless. Even if my partner had been 100% provably monogamous over the past 5 years, how could I know he would continue to be 100% provably monogamous tomorrow? To put so much of my self-esteem in somebody else's cock ...
One person commented on the Facebook post that, although monogamy may be difficult, there are ways to bottle up your desires, and that the ability to bottle up your desires is one of the things that separates us from the animals.
I thought this comment was unfair to the animals! And why is it so important to separate ourselves from the animals anyway? To feel superior to them, I presume. And what is the point of feeling superior?
And why can't I feel superior via acting upon my desires?
Weird stuff.
I know I can often be judgmental and feel superior to other humans. This is why I sometimes remind myself that I'm no more important than a Bug, and that someday I will be squashed, and that will be that.
There is no ultimate logic to the concept of superiority, is there? Each of us is who she is, and does as he does, whatever, and then we die. Superiority is an attempt to justify dominance, I suppose?
So, to justify our domination of the other species, we must convince ourselves we are superior (the other species don't care either way). And the way we convince ourselves we are superior is by identifying with monogamy. Weird stuff. Does this mean we are not superior to monogamous animals? And that we can't dominate monogamous animals?
Or is this really about feeling superior to the non-monogamous humans in our midst? Ah, that's it. Monogamy is about feeling superior to poly (or otherwise non-mono) people. That actually makes sense. You go ahead and feel superior!
I am not monogamous, and don't want to be, but if I were, I would also lament. Because basing my happiness on the willingness of somebody else to always avoid acting upon his sexual desire feels futile to me. Knowing the track record of the human race, I would feel hopeless. Even if my partner had been 100% provably monogamous over the past 5 years, how could I know he would continue to be 100% provably monogamous tomorrow? To put so much of my self-esteem in somebody else's cock ...
One person commented on the Facebook post that, although monogamy may be difficult, there are ways to bottle up your desires, and that the ability to bottle up your desires is one of the things that separates us from the animals.
I thought this comment was unfair to the animals! And why is it so important to separate ourselves from the animals anyway? To feel superior to them, I presume. And what is the point of feeling superior?
And why can't I feel superior via acting upon my desires?
Weird stuff.
I know I can often be judgmental and feel superior to other humans. This is why I sometimes remind myself that I'm no more important than a Bug, and that someday I will be squashed, and that will be that.
There is no ultimate logic to the concept of superiority, is there? Each of us is who she is, and does as he does, whatever, and then we die. Superiority is an attempt to justify dominance, I suppose?
So, to justify our domination of the other species, we must convince ourselves we are superior (the other species don't care either way). And the way we convince ourselves we are superior is by identifying with monogamy. Weird stuff. Does this mean we are not superior to monogamous animals? And that we can't dominate monogamous animals?
Or is this really about feeling superior to the non-monogamous humans in our midst? Ah, that's it. Monogamy is about feeling superior to poly (or otherwise non-mono) people. That actually makes sense. You go ahead and feel superior!