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So it's been a year since my last post. (A bit more actually) And not much has changed since then in terms of my personality defects. This is the most likely cause of the fact that my wife of 4 years and I are seperating for 6 months. She does need the space to work on her depression and other issues, but it will also give me time to work on mine as well. I started therapy a week or so back, but I don't know currently if I will need to find another therapist. My company is changing Insurance plans again in July, and I don't know if she is covered under the new insurance. I had a devil of a time finding her, as most local area (20 mile radius) either were no longer on my current plan, or had full schedules of patients. Oh well, I'll work it out somehow.
This post won't have much structure by the way for those few of you who have happened across it.
I am moving in with 2 of my co-workers and friends. It is a nice 3 bedroom house with a pool, finished basement (62 inch screen TV, pool table, dartboard, surround sound stereo) internally wired network from room to room, and a few other bonuses. They arte both bachelors, at least currently. We need to get 1 of them to settle on a single woman, and get the other a woman period. I had to give up the cats as the cat that currently lives here wouldn'tlive very long with my large (14 pound) rough and tumble cats. I already have my basic computer equipment, parts, radio equipment and electronics moved in and stored in the closet. My books and such are also here with my CD's and movies. I need to get some curtains or blinds so as to keep people from looking into my front of the house window when I am moved in and need to change. The bathroom in the hall is rather small to be changing in very often. I get to sleep on the floor over here at the end of the week, as the wife and her new roomate will be sleeping there in order to have as much time as possible to pack her stuff and get it ready to move.
She is taking the initive to seperate our finances and such. This will probably end up freeing up a small amount of cash for me in the long run (if you can use that term for a 6 month seperation) as my rent drops from a shared $925 a month to $500 a month, with no utilities to worry about either. I will still be paying the $400 car payment on her car as she makes a bit less than I do. but even the two of them together is only 900 a month, so I might be able to finally replace a few of the aging and hard to maintain parts in my computer or something.
We are going to try this 6 month seperation, and both get therapy, etc. individually. My hope (and the tentatively agreed to plan) is for us to be able to date again, and do those types of things, and see if the "Old Magic" is still there, and move on to Marriage Counciling, etc. and get back together. Worst case scenario is that she doesn't think it will work and divorces me. At that point quite a few things would need to be worked out as far as some family heirloom furniture she will have during the seperation, and maybe a few small items I can't think of. Oh well, I guess I better wrap this up, I'm very tired and need to drive the 15 miles from the new place to the old.
5 posistive things today:
1. I have a safe, warm, and dry place to live
2. I have wonderful co-workers
3. I have wonderful friends
4. I have 3 cats that love me
5. I have discovered at least some new inititive in my life to get things done
This post won't have much structure by the way for those few of you who have happened across it.
I am moving in with 2 of my co-workers and friends. It is a nice 3 bedroom house with a pool, finished basement (62 inch screen TV, pool table, dartboard, surround sound stereo) internally wired network from room to room, and a few other bonuses. They arte both bachelors, at least currently. We need to get 1 of them to settle on a single woman, and get the other a woman period. I had to give up the cats as the cat that currently lives here wouldn'tlive very long with my large (14 pound) rough and tumble cats. I already have my basic computer equipment, parts, radio equipment and electronics moved in and stored in the closet. My books and such are also here with my CD's and movies. I need to get some curtains or blinds so as to keep people from looking into my front of the house window when I am moved in and need to change. The bathroom in the hall is rather small to be changing in very often. I get to sleep on the floor over here at the end of the week, as the wife and her new roomate will be sleeping there in order to have as much time as possible to pack her stuff and get it ready to move.
She is taking the initive to seperate our finances and such. This will probably end up freeing up a small amount of cash for me in the long run (if you can use that term for a 6 month seperation) as my rent drops from a shared $925 a month to $500 a month, with no utilities to worry about either. I will still be paying the $400 car payment on her car as she makes a bit less than I do. but even the two of them together is only 900 a month, so I might be able to finally replace a few of the aging and hard to maintain parts in my computer or something.
We are going to try this 6 month seperation, and both get therapy, etc. individually. My hope (and the tentatively agreed to plan) is for us to be able to date again, and do those types of things, and see if the "Old Magic" is still there, and move on to Marriage Counciling, etc. and get back together. Worst case scenario is that she doesn't think it will work and divorces me. At that point quite a few things would need to be worked out as far as some family heirloom furniture she will have during the seperation, and maybe a few small items I can't think of. Oh well, I guess I better wrap this up, I'm very tired and need to drive the 15 miles from the new place to the old.
5 posistive things today:
1. I have a safe, warm, and dry place to live
2. I have wonderful co-workers
3. I have wonderful friends
4. I have 3 cats that love me
5. I have discovered at least some new inititive in my life to get things done